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I remember seeing a story -possibly on 20/20 when I was in college on a drug they were testing-Minoxidil. I was so hoping it was going to be a cure as my dermatologist had told me when I was 17 or 18 that he could tell I was going to go bald. When I had my career, routinely it would be me and maybe one or two other guys out of 7 to 10 males who were the only bald ones. When I had the money, I was always worried about finding a good 'surgeon' and what I would look like during recovery. Now that I'll never be able to afford it, I wish I had been brave enough to have gotten it done. Even after being bald for 30 years, it still bothers me. I'll go into a room, movie theater, park, stadium and look around. I'll see that 95% of the guys -even guys my own age-have most of their hair. I say something to myself about being bald probably almost daily or every other day. I know it's stupid. But in some ways, while obviously not as physically or health-wise as serious, I think psychologically it's very close to what women feel after having a mastectomy. It's ridiculous that it's been 30 years, and I'm still not adjusted to it. On the other hand when you consider I never had sex and was a total virgin until I was 41 because I didn't want to be gay. And that even after I had sex I only really had my first non-escort sex sometime in my late 40's because I still didn't want to be gay-I don't take things I don't want to be true very well. Gman

I had a great time with you, Ace (@TylerandAce). I was always sorry I couldn't repeat it. Gman

If you want to do it, go for it. My brother is in his mid-60's. I'm in my late 50's. I started losing my hair in my 20's. I've been totally bald on top for over 20 years. My brother still has the majority of his hair. Now he's in much better shape than I am. And for some reason I'm a lot grayer in what I have left than he is. But everyone thinks I'm the older brother. And no matter how out of shape I am, I know my baldness is a big factor. Funny story. My Dad was bald like me. When I was 9 years old we were out of town visiting family and went to a Sears. Now in the old days Sears, and some other department stores, had a candy section in the middle of the store where they sold fresh made popcorn, caramel corn, jelly beans, etc, etc, and etc. I had gone over the candy section. I'm not sure if I was buying anything. But the caramel corn smelled delicious. My older sister comes over to get me. She's says Mom and Dad want me. She leads me back over to where they were. But says something like, "They're here somewhere." We are looking around, but I don't see my parents. While we are looking for them, my sister leads me past a row of chairs (like for a shoe section) placed next to the aisle. All of a sudden a man sitting in a chair at the end of a row of chairs-nearest the aisle says, "Little Boy," or something like that. I probably jumped. But it was my Dad!! He had a full head of hair. Sears used to sell men's wigs and toupees. I hadn't recognized him because except in old pictures or movies, I had never seen him with a full head of hair. He started with a wig and then moved on to toupees. If I was 9-that would have been 1970. He wore them religiously during the day (except maybe while doing yard work and wearing a hat) and only taking it off in the late evenings before bedtime. He continued using them probably until 2015 or so-a few years before he passed. Gman

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He looks pretty body-builder-ish to me in these photos. So I guess you are saying he is even more muscular now. Was the tattoo fake? Gman

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Mine is still there. But how could you remove it without knowing you did it?? Gman

I don't remember his nipples being that big 7 years ago. Gman

I was looking back at some old emails from 2013. Did he go by Tom Thanos back then? Thanks. Gman

He might have, but I can't remember for sure. Most likely because he's very hairy. He looks fine in the current pictures. But didn't he used be more lean with defined muscles? If people hadn't mentioned what his ad copy used to say, I don't think I would have ever recognized him as the same guy. Gman

Thanks, for doing that @Rodrigo Suarez. I don't think that icon is shown on the mobile site. I clicked on it. It may not be as much of a guarantee as we'd all like. Gman

I wonder if success has spoiled him?? Gman

Well I guess he's ok, if you like that type of guy!!?? [i'll bet if that European Member who has apparently dropped his membership here (as when I reviewed an old thread recently, Guest appeared under his Message Center Moniker) were still here, he would call him too muscled, old looking, and overweight.?] I don't see a verified icon. If you are talking about that red circle with RM on the right of the page, I thought (although I might be wrong) that was for Rentmen Messenger not verification. Gman

What makes me suspicious is that he lists himself only as 'Defined.' Maybe he's inordinately modest, but I've noticed lots of fake/scam ads where the description doesn't match the pictures. @jbbjbb, did you ask him to send a selfie? I'm not really a believer in the two or three finger selfie. I prefer one with the subject holding up the date. Gman

I'm so sorry to hear about your stroke. I hope you have been able to recover. I appreciate the heads up. I had read this. There is also a question of increased risk of heart attacks. I actually was on testosterone for around a year 11 years ago. If I remember correctly, my testosterone was at the lower end of normal. But my libido was definitely decreased. My urologist at the time said that even though my testosterone was technically normal it still might be too low for me. I moved about 7 months after that. My new urologist thought that was ridiculous. I was never sure if the injections were doing anything. So I took myself off them I had my testosterone checked earlier this week. It was in the 150's. I saw the urologist on Friday. He said he considered a normal level to be about 350. So I'm def low. We talked about replacement. He mentioned gel. I said I had heard it didn't work that well. He said it did for some people. He said what worked best were biodentical hormones with some kind of implanted pellet which worked for 6 months at a time. Unfortunately insurance won't pay for the pellets. He said the injections were the worst but easiest way. They are bad because you get a big elevation which then drops off I remember I often had to nerve myself up to give myself a shot. I was fine once the needle had broken the skin. It was more thinking about it than anything. I actually learned my injection technique by watching female to male transsexuals on YouTub describe how they injected their testosterone. Gman

Is that a mud mask on his face in his privates?? Gman

I'd prefer to know if he bottomed. Gman

I should probably know this, but I'm drawing a blank on RP. Gman

I wouldn't even mind if the $7 were only a rental fee. ? Gman

I've been off Facebook for the most part for the last two and a half years. I'd peek occasionally. But I came back full time for now-although I'll probably go silent before my birthday which is when I left FB two and a half years ago. That's not really important though. But it does flesh out this post a bit. Anyway I was looking at my Facebook feed the other day, and an ad from the Wish Company came up. For those who aren't familiar, I think Wish, as a rough approximation, is a Chinese equivalent of Amazon. They offer a lot of inexpensive items. I normally hate ads on Facebook. In this specific case I may need to broaden my likes, because SEE what you can buy for only $7 from Wish!! Their quality seems to be improving!!! ?? Gman

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That must be a different link than in the original post. Gman

He went overboard on pruning his pictures, the ad is totally gone. Gman

I had a long answer-but I wasn't expressing myself well. But in addition to what I was going to say which I'm not now due to not being able to express it-it seems to me to be a question of boundaries. In most cases a patient probably doesn't need to know their therapist was in adult entertainment at one time. Take @purplekow's acquaintance, if the guy is a good surgeon-do I need to the knowledge he worked as a stripper? Now in certain situations maybe the patient might need to know-as in counseling someone else in adult entertainment. But even then, it still might be crossing boundaries. The patient might begin to look at you as more of a colleague rather than a therapist. So if you're a good therapist, then you're a good therapist. And having been in adult entertainment is part of your life experience that brought you to your current life. But that doesn't in my opinion mean you necessarily need to let the patient know. Gman

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