wbtravis

Hey there. Did you get any replies? I am in San Carlos.

I love a spa setting... clean, serene... smells good. AND... I get horny AF just about 2 minutes into my 90 minute massages. I have some spas I can go to for a great setting. Some masseurs I can go to for a great [therapeutic] massage. Some very "giving" providers that will allow MT and HE and occasionally (and rarely what I am seeking) oral, but not top-notch massage. What I haven't found is a consistent spa setting, with a great practitioner who gives a legit deep massage... and who is happy to help out a brother near the end. I really need recommendations on the SF Bay Peninsula. I have tried quite a few providers in the City, but it's pretty inconvenient.

If I do head to The City - and reviews on M Spa that are current?

Anyone? Bueller??

Thank you so much! I appreciate your reply!:)

Visiting for my first time in July. Not necessarily looking for a scort, but want to immerse in any “safe”, but edgy gay fun. Recommendations? Thank you.

I saw him once. Very nice. A bit chatty, and he was sexually energized… but I just could not get into it. Pics are a bit old, perhaps?

Think this guy meets most of your requirements. Based in San Carlos.

 

https://rentmasseur.com/Healinghand

Thanks, Sir. Have tried him twice. Like a bit more therapeutic effort:)

Any recommendations for a quality massage with a little “extra” attention outside of SF or San Jose? Nothing crazy - just a massage that leaves me “happy”. The guys on RM and MF in this region are not my thing... ideally handsome, and with a studio not known for this. DM me suggestions? THANKS

Any recommendations for a quality massage with a little “extra” attention outside of SF or San Jose? Nothing crazy - just a massage that leaves me “happy”. The guys on RM and MF in this region are not my thing... ideally handsome, and with a studio not known for this. DM me suggestions? THANKS

God. He’s effing beautiful

I had a massage in a spa at a “gay destination” spot. They had a sign on the front desk that said something along the lines of “this is legitimate establishment and we take the well-being of our staff very seriously. No lewd behavior will be tolerated”. Which I was totally fine with. I wasn’t looking for anything more than something therapeutic anyway.

 

I go into the room and it’s the usual spa set up. The masseur comes in - this cute ginger gay guy - asks me to undress, get under the sheet and he’ll be back.

 

Throughout the course of the massage I kept thinking I was getting signals - grazing my balls/taint with a finger, adjusting the sheet so my crack was exposed, placing the palm of my hand on his chest when massaging my arm, massaging down into my pubic area, his bulge on my shoulder etc.

 

But because of that sign I’m caught between thinking I’m misreading the signals and terrified to make a move and be embarrassed at best or at worst arrested. So I did nothing and he did nothing more.

 

I’m still not completely sure what happened. I do know I would have signalled back if it hadn’t been for the fucking sign.

 

That’s the closest I ever got to action at a legit spa.

Fuck. I am so jerking to this image.?

Holy Christ... he’s hot....

Thanks, gents!

https://rentmasseur.com/discreetmassage

I have no problem with this either. But I'm a gay adult with no kids.

 

But if I had been watching Family Feud with my very own family on a Thursday at 8 p.m. only to have my little Cindy's eyes assaulted by a man's big bulge, which I'm sure he knew was on full display and which appears to be fighting for its life trying bust out of those pants, then maybe I'd have a problem with this. This is America, and my little Cindy has a constitutional right to not find out that penises exist until she's at least 25 years old or until one gets her pregnant at 15, whichever comes first.

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Epic

Man. Have met a few (Robin Roberts and Michael Strahan are THAT nice), but none of the ones I want to meet. Alone in a resort in say... Palm Springs, where they want to at least dabble in get stuff with a young Daddy who is an epic kisser...

You listening Chris Hemsworth, Robbie Amell, Tom Holland, Armie Hammer, Nick Jonas??? I am here for you.?

I just had the house I'm in escrow with (to buy) go through various inspections. Lots of things not to code, but a major one was a retaining wall behind the pool. Apparently it's not just not to code, but there's some earth that's in danger of collapsing, and it really has to be fixed. Apparently the fix could easily cost $150,000. Is this something the buyers will usually agree to fix or cover the cost? Or will I have to completely re-negotiate? It doesn't look as if this fix was optional. There were some other potentially expensivish stuff, like difference in heights of many of the outdoor stairs (not to code), but that doesn't seem to be as essential to fix.

It all boils down to the terms in your contract. Ignore any advice that does not direct you to what you and the seller negotiated.

I fought it. Hard.

When I finally gave in a few years ago, I started to realize what a GREAT gig this is!!!!!

I use One Medical and have been very happy with them. I have my complaints but they have been better than other providers I have had. Prior to the ACA I went to Mark Higgins and was extremely happy with him. Doctors have a Code if Ethnics and cannot by law share any info.

Thank you. Will look into him.

There are providers listed online at the Gay & Lesbian Medical Association http://www.glma.org/ and the LGBT Center https://www.sfcenter.org/resources/ and others, as @honcho has mentioned above. My sense is, though, these online listing are kind of old school, most professionals in and adjacent to the LGBT community don't bother with them.

 

If I were doing the search, I would start with the PCPs available through my plan, narrow it down to a geographic area convenient to me, and then check out the individual candidates online. Almost everybody has some kind of online bio these days, and LGBT friendly physicians usually indicate as much on their bios. LGBT Medicine, HIV Management, Trans Medicine, etc. are all good indicators that the physician treats a number of LGBT patients. My own physician in NYC says he is a "proud member of the LGBT community" in his bio. You can even get a little stalkerish and google the candidate's name, which often brings up wedding announcements, social activities, etc. etc.

 

I know what you're really looking for is a direct, personal recommendation, and hopefully someone here will be able to respond in that way. Meanwhile I hope the above is helpful.

Thank you so much! Will try researching this way. Really appreciate the suggestion.

There is an organization called "Bay Area Physicians For Human Rights". They give a general contact email stop, and a phone number which is a message machine but the web site says it is only checked twice a week. I don't know if they offer referrals or not, but the

email contact address is contact@baphr.org .

Thank you so much! Will def reach out to them:)

I have a PPO and need to find a doc for primary care. I am not out, and hope to find a male doc who is gay-friendly. Any recommendations? I am on SF Peninsula. Thank you:)

Encouraging advice!

In your experience, what’s been the best way to find cute guys seeking daddies? Aside from escorts?

Grindr, Scruff, Adam4Adam, Sniffies - whatever works in your area. My suggestion is to give them enough info with stats and pics that you are not facing rejection at the first meeting because they expected something different. If you give them enough info that they selected you BECAUSE of your stats and looks... it’s all good. (Unless you have breath like Shrek or something.) I am having very good fortune:)

I love these replies. More votes for Karl Kang, Chad (SF Good Boy), and Garik. They are the NICEST guys, INCREDIBLY hot - and provide a great experience. Def my three faves... I’d see them all each week if I could. (Now I need a cold shower. These three are SO freaking BEAUTIFUL.)

As experienced and wise Daddys, what advice would you give a somewhat younger aspiring daddy?

 

What’s your most valuable “If I knew then what I know now” to impart?

Don’t fight the daddy label. I was NOT eager to cross over. To my surprise, it’s a GREAT gig. Guys who seek out daddies find us appealing, whereas trying to find the average 38 year old who’d be interested was not easy!

And, if you are an above-average looking daddy with some skills and sex-appeal... life is GOOD.(So I am told.?)

I had a massage from him years ago. Really nice massage but not a pleasant person. Smoker, strictly therapeutic (which I am all in favor for), but would not rehire based on his personality.

Thank you. That’s a hard pass for me. Appreciate the feedback.

bumping! has anyone else met with him? made an appointment for tomorrow

Please let me know how it goes?