BostonTom

Just saw Victor is coming to Boston in October - but I'll be away! I have to change plans!!

Just btw, with your first text, ask "It's funny, but I saw your pictures on some cop's Instagram. Are you law enforcement?" If it IS a sting, he has to answer truthfully - and entrapment is illegal.

https://rentmen.eu/JesseJaymes You can PM me for details.

Oh jeez . . . thanks for the warning!

https://rentmasseur.com/johnsonsweet Anyone have experience?

He has since appeared on Rentmen - https://rentmen.eu/Jonnyitalian

Nobody asked, but I think he sounds a little crazy . .

Thank you!

https://rentmasseur.com/jonnyitalian Anyone have experience? Thanks in advance!

https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/32497/ Anyone?

Ha! Exactly! ;-)

I'd recommend. Yes, I believe he hops back and forth between coasts.

Agreed, your lawyer should be present at all times. And it's best to record the whole session for any potential future court date.

I can't believe half these posts are serious. But you just proved it's impossible to expect a safe experience . . .

I'm sorry, but honestly,the scenario as described here - where the situation is a paid, sensual encounter in which the victim is aware the perpetrator is aroused, the virtual "no" is never spoken - indeed no protest is made - and the victim makes no attempt to end the interaction, and in fact PAYS THE BILL - clearly does meet any legal standard of rape. Sure, we'll just have to agree to disagree about that, I guess - and you can try to bring charges - but good luck with that. Of course, yes, rape is still a possibility in the world of gay massage - people ARE well advised to only frequent masseurs who come recommended, or who are known quantities; and yes, it's probably also wise to engage masseurs who aren't larger and stronger than you are.

Look, it was one of the other SJWs on the this thread who decided on some other soapbox that this was "rape" (which it's not, btw, not by a long shot, no matter how often the falsehood is repeated). Sigh. I've never seen so many pearls clutched in QUITE so many ways. If you can't find the psychological wherewithal to clench your hole and say "no" when somebody comes knocking at the back door, then no, you have no business putting yourself in that situation. I mean . . . is the pity party later really worth it? Hmmm. To some, maybe it is!

Jaundiced, or just . . . realistic? I mean, it looks as though several people have chimed in about how they too have been assaulted.

Good, it's meant to be. I'm quite serious. If you don't have the agency to resist sexual assault, then by NO MEANS should you be frequenting naked gay masseurs. Do not talk yourself into it, do not tell yourself it's up to the masseur to respect your limits - just don't go. Because if you do, it's only a matter of time before you're raped again.

Did I mention it's rape? Rape.

No, it's not victim blaming. It's victim advice. You seem unable to parse a sentence. But I'm happy to throw you the red ego meat you want - you are SO RIGHT about that HORRIBLE MASSEUR. But the thing is he's SO HORRIBLE - and other masseurs are SO HORRIBLE - that people who "freeze" once they've lain down naked in front of them SHOULD NOT DO THAT. Because they're rapists!!! Rape, rape, it's rape. Rape.

And just btw, this whole thread has a faint smell of catfish to it if you ask me . . .

"Victim blaming" . . . is that all you got? Because I think you're selling it in the wrong shop. We're not talking about someone falling asleep. (Although you'd have to be sleeping pretty deeply to not be awakened by anal penetration.) But actually, that's irrelevant, isn't it - it's just troll bait. My advice is that if you're unable to defend yourself from an aroused man, then it's not a good idea to lie down naked in front of one. I'll completely grant you that the masseur was an evil rapist who should be, I don't know, roasted on a spit and then eaten by social justice warriors. But it's still a bad idea to step into a nude massage if you can't handle yourself. I know Blanche Dubois depended on the kindness of strangers. But Blanche Dubois ended up in the nuthouse.

Reading some of these posts just makes me think . . . if you really can't handle this situation, then maybe you shouldn't be seeking a nude massage . . .

I'm sorry that you had such a bad experience - but I would just like to add that the bottom line is that in the future you know what to do if a masseur gets too aggressive, right? I mean (let's be honest) plenty of masseurs charge extra for performing exactly what you're describing . . . just as an example, when I recently put up a sarcastic post about a masseur who seemed to think the massage I paid for was going to be centered around me sucking HIM, I got plenty of responses asking, "Who is he??? Do you think he'll do me the same favor???" So . . . this is the environment of gay massage. It just IS. So in future, if things are headed in a direction you're not comfortable with, you can't "freeze." You have to have a plan, and you have to take action - as in clearly say "No," and if the masseur persists, get off the massage table and put on your clothes and leave without paying. And if the behavior amounted to assault, go to the police.

I missed him when he was in Boston, hoping he'll come back through town again. What. A. Butt.