I had been after my parents for years to make arrangements for an alternative living situation be it assisted living or an apartment that would better suit their needs. My dad is 98 and his child bride is 90. During the last year my mom was in and out of the hospital with lymphedema in her leg and finally ended up in skilled nursing. My dad had Congestive Heart Failure in the spring, was admitted to the hospital where he fell and broke his arm. He was also admitted to skilled nursing.
This facility is one step away from a hospital and currently there is no prospect of either of them getting out. I went back to their home to sell their belongings and prepare the house for sale.
It bothers me that they didn’t head my advice and find a place on their own where they could live with dignity. Instead they are having everything taken from them, their home, their belongings and the staff has stolen jewelry that my mother held dear.
My dad knows he fucked up but he can’t believe he is spending the rest of his life in that place.
Bottom line, I would rather go to a place of my choice then end up in a place I couldn’t stand. I live recklessly enough that hopefully I won’t have to make the choice, but I would choose assisted living if it meant I could continue on with dignity.