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@poolboy48220 @Funguy Thanks for the recommendation! We live in Chicago.

Thank you all for your thoughtful replies. @RyanDean and @Funguy, I think what you say about my partner setting the boundaries is important, though maybe there will be some soft limits to define. One priority for me is that my partner really is on board and into the play instead of just doing it for me. Otherwise that sounds like a recipe for no one having a good time. I've been honest with my partner about my kinky tendencies. We did some role play once, which we both thought was a bit fun, but it was difficult for him to stay in it. If I had bad knees, it would be tough for me to focus on staying in character, too. The role play made him giggle a bit at times, which kinda ruined the mood for me. When we've tried some other kinkier things, it made my partner giggle a little bit again, too. I asked him about it, and he said it made him a little nervous at first but would be willing to try again sometime. (There are other things that have made our sex life a little difficult, including spontaneity, but bringing in a 3rd would definitely be a little bit of a wild card in terms of chemistry.) I'm not even suggesting that this has to be a particularly kinky encounter. It would be nice to have an experienced professional help us explore our mutual needs and shift moods to suit each other. I guess I'm imagining something like a sex coach that takes a hands-on approach...literally. I really want to protect the relationship that my partner and I have grown together, but I don't imagine shaking his confidence by bringing in an escort once, or even rarely, as long as we approach it like a mutual fun, guided experience. Thanks guys--just responding to your comments is helping me clarify my perspective, reasons and concerns. Did what I say make sense? xo

Hello everyone, I'm a first-time poster and brand new to the community. Please forgive me if this subject has already been brought up. My partner and I are in a monogamous m/m relationship and have been pretty stale in the sheets lately...I'm talking possibly more than 6 months. I'm not really sure at this point, to be honest. He's fairly vanilla, and I have a lot of kinky tendencies. (I say tendencies because I haven't had the chance to act them out.) Well, without giving you much context of the conversation of this next bit, my partner mentioned whether I wanted to have a threesome with someone. (He was asking me what I wanted for my birthday gift.) A couple questions here and there revealed that if it were someone, it would have to be a professional who got tested regularly. I'm actually very interested in pursuing this possibility, but I have no idea how to go about this. I think my questions for the professionals are: 1) Do you have any advice for how I should talk with my partner about this? 2) If you were meeting us, how would you know that you were comfortable taking us on as clients--in general as well as in a threesome scenario? I hope I have given enough context without going overboard. As I said, I'm a newbie here. =) Thanks for any insight you can share!