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In my previous career as an occupational therapist, I spent some time working in a hospital in Brooklyn. I was responsible for the NICU and I led the outpatient department. I would walk in to work and look at my schedule. I would see that I had a few outpatient appointments in the morning, a new baby to evaluate in the NICU, and the some paperwork time and more outpatient work in the afternoon.
 
Inevitably, Mrs. Jones would be late for her 9am appointment because her ride was late picking her up and one of the other clients had a panic attack on the bus. So she was there at 10. It wasn't her fault, and I couldn't justify not providing her with therapy, knowing that she had been up since 5am and had made the journey that was usually only an hour, but today was 2 hours. But someone else had a 10am appointment and they were on time, so I somehow had to see both of them. That meant I ddn't get to see the baby in the NICU until the afternoon, which bit into my paperwork time, and then I'd get to the NICU and the baby would be crashing, so I couldn't see him.
 
I used to get so upset because it wasn't the schedule I had planned on and I would complain over and over that my schedule was all fucked up. Then, suddenly I realized that I was spending all of my time thinking about what I had planned and how it all should go that I missed the fact that my schedule - my actually schedule - wasn't what was written down, but what was happening - in real time, in real life, right then and there.
 
It's the same with escorting. Regulars don't happen because you choose someone you think will make a good regular. It doesn't happen because you discussed it. It happens because it happens. What a "regular" is can vary and there is no standard. Often times, regular arrangements aren't discussed in such frank terms - it just happens. Being present with what's happening is key. Allowing a relationship to grow and flourish and find it's own rhythm is a beautiful thing. You challenge that natural beauty by trying to predict and control and define.
 
I like the quote above (attributed to Gandhi, but really ... I doubt that) because it's a good reminder of the importance of grace and gratitude. It's not an invitation to blindly accept abuse or poor treatment. Being nice doesn't blanketly invite others to use you or treat you poorly and it says something about you as a provider if you're going to argue with being nice.

Likely story. She was more likely getting off on pics of those half nude African warriors dancing round in a circle.

I live quite a distance from my elderly mom (Arizona to London) - she inspired my love of reading and libraries and bookstores from an early age, and she's still a voracious reader... thus I'm a frequent recipient of the random book of the week club... two of the best I've read this year were:

Lincoln's last trial - Dan Abrams
Fascism, a warning - Madeleine Albright

and I'm currently sleeping my way through Sapiens (a brief history of humankind)...

http://www.dan-abrams.com/lincolns-last-trial/
 
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sapiens:_A_Brief_History_of_Humankind
 
Looks interesting.

I switched to Audible.com. That way I don’t wake up when the book drops out of my grip.

I live quite a distance from my elderly mom (Arizona to London) - she inspired my love of reading and libraries and bookstores from an early age, and she's still a voracious reader... thus I'm a frequent recipient of the random book of the week club... two of the best I've read this year were:

Lincoln's last trial - Dan Abrams
Fascism, a warning - Madeleine Albright

and I'm currently sleeping my way through Sapiens (a brief history of humankind)...

I live quite a distance from my elderly mom (Arizona to London) - she inspired my love of reading and libraries and bookstores from an early age, and she's still a voracious reader... thus I'm a frequent recipient of the random book of the week club... two of the best I've read this year were:

Lincoln's last trial - Dan Abrams
Fascism, a warning - Madeleine Albright

and I'm currently sleeping my way through Sapiens (a brief history of humankind)...

http://www.welovenudes.net/wp-content/gallery/danny_harper-randyblue/danny_harper-randyblue-ginger-gay-19.jpg
 

Now those are some nice pits, if I do say so myself:p:p:p:p:p:D

http://www.homotrophy.com/images5/2016/june/mario-by-rick-day-31.jpg

Every time I follow a link to Sleepyboy I end up spending 30 minutes browsing.

Gman