I'm in your age category so can relate. Once he squirted the oil all over the family jewels, I would have expected some caressing and massage on those parts. When he didn't go there, I would have said something for sure. It did seem as if he wanted you to take the lead by either letting him know to proceed or put his hand there. I had a similar experience with a private masseur one time. I had been to him a couple of times previously so knew what to expect. After turning over, he briefly massaged the front and then said "we're done"! So I got up, proceeded to get dressed and when I was paying him, I expressed my disappointment without the happy ending. His response was "you weren't hard this time so thought you were not interested". Couldn't he have asked me? Needless to say, that did it for me and I've never returned.