My bf and I have been together for 17 years and, since I am a lot -and I do mean a lot- more sexual than he is, we have always had an open relationship with three basic and unwavering rules:
- no guys at home
- no free hookups, ONLY commercial encounters with working boys
- kiss and tell everything, including juicy details if requested.
Probably not for everyone, but this scheme has worked wonderfully for us. I have the best of both worlds: my sexual needs are fulfilled by gorgeous paid boys, and my emotional needs are totally covered by my bf. And, BTW, when he is in the mood and we happen to have sex, it is still the best: Fourth of July fireworks, even after all these years. I am a happy camper.
Yes, every relationship is different.