I have been in a 20+ year relationship with my now husband and, over the years, sex has gone from “every day” to regular, to sporadic, to rare, and finally to “never”.
My sexual drive is way stronger than his -even if I am a decade older than him-, so we decided long ago to go the totally open relationship route. We set up a few basic rules:
1.- Always kiss and tell, no secret encounters
2.- Do not bring dates home
3.- Hired providers are preferred over non-commercial hook ups
The system, especially the total disclosure aspect, has worked very well for us. We are still deeply in love, and the lack of sex gets taken care of in a very satisfactory way for both of us.
