Long ago, I did contact someone that had written some very specific limitations in his profile. However, even at the outset I wanted to do something that was outlawed. And I knew that he did the thing in my fantasy because he had also made recent vids where he seemed more than happy to do it. Over time and several get-togethers I did as you suggest. We got closer on a lot of levels and I guess I learned exactly what made him more and more open to doing these things, at least with me. Eventually I suggested it and he went along. As you indicate, patience tends to be the key.