And even top/versatile labels can be tenuous. Many times it is a top just wanting to do what he has to do. I really want my partner to enjoy himself and if he is just bottoming because I have to top then I would not enjoy it. Everyone has different views on this so you have to think about it. All I am saying is to be wary and think about it because you will be spending money and you want to be comfortable and make yourself happy.