I see him regularly. The best masseur in the area, bar none.... and no extras. Straight guy... and not gonna cross any line. SUPER good person. I am a huge fan. Wish he offered extras, but - I’ll just have to get them elsewhere.
I know i will prolly get ridiculed for making this statement so before i do let me qualify it first by saying There are so many ways of doing a session. Whether it is an escort vs. masseur keep in mind that you have every right to get exactly what you desire and should definitely “shop” around before making a decision. Having said that just remember that this shyt aint rocket science and sometimes you may not even know what you TRULY like or want until u have experienced it for the first time and then all of a sudden, something clicks and ur saying to yourself, “hey...i really dig that and wanna try that again!”
So here goes my very watered and oversimplified analogy of the difference between an Escort vs. Masseur ...
With an Escort - the client controls the session / with a Masseur- the client gives up control of the session to the masseur .
Now before some of you get ur “panties” all in a bunch on this , (lol) ? hear me out .
When i first started doing massage 10 years ago , i was so green . I was scared i would make a mistake . I kept trying to figure out what the client wanted . And after i had seen a number of clients it became apparent to me these 3 things:
1. The client wants to let go and relax and not think about much in a massage . They want you to give their body the attention it needs and deserves without having to be a director. They seldom want chit chat during that period . Just make them feel good
2. The massage client is quite often in a relationship or situation where they are neglected physically. ie- married to female , stagnant boyfriend, or maybe they have a job that is strenuous or where they are constantly having to make important stressful decisions all day and for the duration of the session they just want to let go~feel pampered and be self indulgent on a small quiet scale.
3. Sexual arousal is okay but is not paramount & often “my” clients are more interested in a little frottage or in some cases not even that. And it’s okay ? as long as they leave feeling better mentally and physically...mission accomplished. A release at the end doesn’t really even amount to what i would define as sex. Thats also a very physical way of releasing tension. So it does complete a very good sensual massage in a positive way .
Now this is strictly my own views and i know i am not nor do i pretend 2 B an expert in all things “massage” but i have been doin it a long time and i have asked many questions thru the years.
At one point i did post an ad on Rentmen. And this is how i came to my version of the differences between the two .
Practically EVERY client that contacted me from Rentmen had specific requests and interests and what they expected out of a session. And that is OK too !
But the client is still in control .
Now some will say, “Hey wait a minute, I want to be a sub and I’m looking for somebody to dominate me and tell me what to do!” And you might be thinking well the client is giving up control of the session in that scenario!!
Not so ... The client is still determining what he wants/gets from the escort. And if that client goes into the session and mrEscort X doesn’t perform in exactly that manner, guess what ? The client most likely will end the session early . Still the client is in control .
That’s not to say that a client wouldn’t walk out of a bad massage early also. But the only time I’ve ever had that happen is when a client came to me for a massage mistakingly thinking that I was an escort posing as a masseur . Anyways i dont give bad massages !!
Also, I do not advertise anymore on Rentmen so that clients don’t see me playing different roles and getting confused about the services that I offer.
I know some guys do both, and I am not in anyway suggesting that there is any thing wrong with that. But I prefer for myself the energy exchange between me and the client through the healing power of a massage.
I connect better in that situation. And I like to stay in control.
What can I say? I guess I’m a control freak. ??♂️
Now, have my massages sometimes resulted in some hot intense sex? Yes of course . But again I like when things unfold naturally regarding sexual contact. I’m not the kind of person that makes a laundry list of requirements prior to sex.
I also found out about myself very quickly after I first started doing massage, that I really enjoy healing another person’s body thru touch!!
When I started doing massage It was only by accident because I had lost (like so many others) my job when Bush Left office and I couldn’t find work. My self-esteem was very low from constant rejection for employment.
My friend who was already doing massage brought me into it . And Once I started doing massage, I felt better about myself because I was helping others feel better too.
Since that time I have massaged I think I Estimated about 5000 or more & I never looked back .
Personally, I’ve hired both. Escorts and Masseurs.
They both bring something of interest to me to the table. But when I make those purchases, I shop around to get exactly what I want. And so should you.
Don’t get too upset if it takes a few tries. Chalk it up as a learning experience.
I have found that some of the most memorable experiences I’ve had were completely by accident and when I tossed all my Pre-requisites to the wind & took a leap of faith.
With that i say to you ...Peace and happy hunting !!! ✌️?
Yes. There was a Watsu massage offered at spa I went to and I tried it. Didn't care for it myself. I was always concerned that the massage therapist was going to let me slip under the water.
It wasn't until I was 58 that I hired, and was with a man for the first time. It was my try before I die thing, and am glad for it. Have met a few others. No regrets. Now in my 60's, I'm beginning to be more conscious of living without regrets.
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