As the person who started this thread more than a year ago, I decided to take a look at what's been posted. Tons. And lots of it good. As for me? Well, one of the reasons I've not been on here for a long time is that I met someone from Seeking Arrangements. And we've been in a "relationship" since late summer of 2016. I had quite a few good experiences and quite a few bad ones (including some really clueless guys). Then in last summer of last year, I came upon a 25 year old guy on the site. He's 4.5 hours from Manhattan. He's 25, putting himself through college at a very good school, teaches gymnastics, and has his own training business/gym. He's very self-sufficient, has been on his own since he was 19. Comes from a solid middle class family who live upstate. He called himself an "alpha with a heart." Loves older men, can't relate to young people his age. And he does physique competitions. We texted for a couple days, I thought it had promise so we agreed to meet halfway at a hotel. Because of his limited schedule he said he'd have to leave in the middle of the night to get back for a client appointment at 6 am ....
So we met. It was non-stop talking for 3 hours as we instantly got along. He was very masculine, very alpha. At one point, he said "get over here" and he got on top of me and we stated making out and fooling around. We went to dinner and then settled in to watch a movie in bed. He was obviously very tired (he seems to be going 24/7) and at one point he fell asleep. I let him sleep. I thought it was clear that we had made a connection and that I would be interested in an arrangement with this guy. I was sound asleep and then around 3:30 I felt movement. I figured he got up to leave. I was half asleep when -- not saying a word -- as he was leaving he leaned over me and kissed me on the forehead. I thought this is a keeper.
We spent several weeks back and forth texting -- he unsure if he had the time to do this but wanting to -- but I felt there was something good here. So we eventually settled on a week to go to my lake house. We discussed money and we were all set. By the end of the first day, it was clear something was going on. I wanted to say something, he sensed it and said go ahead. I told him it was crazy but I really liked him and it would be a real fantasy to date. He said "why do you think it's a fantasy ...."
It's 7 months later, and we're still together. We realized that week we had a real connection and decided we should be together. No money has ever exchanged hands. I've tried helping him out from time to time but I usually have to be some money in his jacket pocket or something. He really doesn't want it but I know he could use it. He's very drived, goal oriented, ambitious ... we haven't had a cross word or argument. Our only real conflict is that because he's so busy we don't get to see each other as much as we'd like.
I wake up each day thinking this is too good to be true but then I get a text in the morning saying "good morning sweetie, have a great day, love you ..." and I realize that it is really happening. He's basically a younger, way hotter, more masculine version of me ....
So I'd have to call Seeking Arrangements a success for me. I didn't find what I was seeking there (something uncomplicated) but I think I've found something much better. I have no idea how long this will last but I'm very happy for right now.
I've spoken to a couple dancers at the Gold Coast in Detroit who've said they are required to trim their pubic hair pretty close if they're going to dance there. I'm not sure of the reason behind it, although I do remember (from WAY back when) that some laws drew the line at pubic hair showing.
Personally, I prefer unshaved / untrimmed. I don't mind the random hair.
I've only been a SA member for 2 weeks. My experiences include:
- being approached to help start a business in Cologne Germany, "Send 30,000 Euros so I can start a hair and make-up studio"
- after a get acquainted dinner with a ensuing massage session, the boy jumped up, blocked the door, and demanded $300 cash.
- "Send me a Uber, I am late for my first period class" via text message to my phone, with NO prior contact.
Being a SD requires deep pockets for wooing the sugar baby: clothes, exotic trips, restaurants. After doing it for 3 years and having successfully sent off the graduate to another state, i think i much prefer the hourly appointments where the only expectation is companionship/sex. I can't tell you how many fancy jockstraps, Hermes ties and Burberry sweaters i've bought over the years for the sugar baby (as gifts beyond his stipend). My current escort sees me twice a week. We never discusssed it, but he does expect me to see him regularly as we always book his time for the next appointment when leaving or he texts me at the beginning of each week to check my availability. It's a win win situation. I don't know if he sees others but his ad isn't up but he can have a few regulars maybe. He gets regular dependable work from me and i get the benefit of his generosity with his time (he doesn't watch clock) without the expected outlay of fancy dinners (although we go out, it's not always a 3 or 4 star restaurant) and expensive trips.
I joined, filled out my profile, paid my $70 and then started searching for "sugar babies" -- an awful term -- and started getting messages myself. There are a few problems with the site in particular body type. The choices are basically average, a few extra pounds, slim, overweight and athletic. So almost all the guys choose "athletic" which can range the gamut.
I asked for more pics, went to email and see how it went. I had a couple of false starts -- guys who seemed interested but then backed out at the last minute. But I do feel it was worth it for where I ended up.
There are some sugar babies who have been on there 5 or 6 years. There are some escorts as well although that seems to be discouraged.
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