Several years ago I went to see a masseur who had been recommended to me as being “very sensual.” Well, after the initial discussion of problem areas, room temp being comfortable, etc., I expected to just relax while his hands took me to a faraway place. Unfortunately, he began talking about his ex-wife and his problem daughter and all the headaches they were giving him - yadda, yadda, yadda. After I turned onto my back and the massage wound down, he said (in a hurt voice) he was disappointed that I hadn’t become aroused by his sensual massage. He tried to initiate an HE, but by that time I was totally out of the mood. I told him that if he’d done less chatting - especially about his family - the situation might have been different!