@jsn102 you are in the right track. I suggest you chose a thirtysomething + masseur that has the qualifications described by my colleagues here. I would suggest https://rentmasseur.com/StrongStrokes, good looking, tall, nice physique, a good therapeutic masseur well know in this forum. However, when you contact him, and WA is ideal, be candid and tell him that you are a newby and want to go very slow. He is a great guy.