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It's taken me a long time to respond to this thread. Aaron Hernandez was not someone I was a fan of as a player, he seemed to have the arrogant, entitled attitude too many athletes display, both pros and gifted college ones. When the murder charge and conviction happened, I was glad justice was served and had no sympathy for someone who threw away such a life, one many envy (including, perhaps, my younger self).
 
As someone whose youthful identity was tied up in being an athlete, and for whom sports has provided pride and enjoyment, I was angered by his crime. But without having a shred of sympathy for a murderer, the news that fear of being outed as a closeted bisexual may have inspired his crime resonated with me uncomfortably, and it's been on my mind a lot.
 
I was a jock in school, a varsity basketball player at a Division 1 school. I'd been a jock since childhood, on teams in school and the community. I was lucky to have been raised by parents who were tolerant and gave me a good example of how to live. But I also had a secret that I was terrified of and denied with every fiber of my being, which was that I was attracted sexually to other males. I remember suppressing idle thoughts every day, I taught myself to not look at guys in the locker room so strongly that I still don't do it. No one, as far as I know, ever suspected me of this. But I had to hide it from myself and looking back, realize how fearful I was that anyone else would know.
 
Did I murder anyone? No, of course not. And somehow, somehow, I avoided the crime of mocking or bullying others for their sexuality in order to protect my secret. (The only fist fight I ever had in my life was to defend a shy, fey kid, who may or may not have been gay, from being bullied by a bigger kid). But in HS, and my first years of college, I was a hound, I slept around with a lot of girls to prove I was "normal." And believe me, if you're a relatively prominent athlete in school, getting sex is no problem, or wasn't then anyway. I look back in sorrow at how many feelings I probably hurt, how disrespectful I was, how dishonestly I was using others, not even for pleasure, but to build a facade. Everyone knew I was a "lady killer" and my teammates admired me for it. I never had sex with anyone unwilling, I never pressured anyone, but certainly there were girls who regretted going to bed with me when I moved on immediately to the next one.
 
All that changed when I met my wife-to-be, who almost refused to date me because of my reputation. That was a wake-up call, and once we connected I never was with anyone else. And I truly loved her, which was a new thing. The years of perspective let me see that even she was part of a screen, but not such a thoughtless one as the young women I'd been using to prove I wasn't anything but straight.
 
So, that's a long way of saying that Hernandez' story makes me sadder than it did. To live in that milieu and lie every day is hard. For him to have been actively bisexual in high school, as he apparently was, is something I can't fathom, but that's my limitation. I didn't admit my bisexuality to myself until I was comfortably married with kids, and with no intention of acting on it. But I still have some insight into how much fear he might have had about being outed. I had no expectation of ever having even that tiny insight into his life and his crimes. But while my behavior wasn't criminal, maybe, it was wrong, and it was otherwise uncharacteristic of who I am. Hernandez deserved his sentence, but his suicide still makes me sad.

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I should have pointed out my sexual experiences were pretty limited. I stayed with the first guy I slept with for four years and the next guy for 25. I had been out of that relationship for less than a year and still not very experienced when this happened.
 
It certainly opened my eyes to a better understanding and appreciation for fetishes in general.

Hot Story. I've had a lot of experiences just like that from both perspectives. Here's a pic of a dude that I connected with and he discovered his own foot fetish for that first time. Thanks for sharing! Hot!
 

I certainly appreciate nice looking and well groomed feet on a man, but don't consider myself to have a foot fetish. I do find them very sexy. Same with nice hands.
 
However, a few years ago I met this guy on Grindr who had a major foot fetish and talked me into letting him worship my feet. I was totally uninformed and leery of doing it, but had just enough curiosity to go through with it. I was afraid I'd be ticklish, but that was not the case. He knew how to handle that.
 
I was heavy into volleyball at the time playing both league and on a traveling team and have very nice legs and also got regular pedicures and he sensed he'd be very interested in my feet. He gave me explicit instructions on what I should be wearing when he arrived (shorts, ankle sox and tennis shoes).
 
He arrived and was more than pleased with my legs and feet. He removed my shoes and very slowly and methodically went to "work" one foot at a time first removing the sock with his mouth and giving the most incredible service to each foot I could have imagined. He eventually worked his way pretty much all over my body and I eventually had an incredible release. The encounter lasted at least two hours (I'd never guessed I'd be able to last that long quite honestly).
 
This guy was not really my type at all and I was not attracted to him very much although he was really ok, but not someone I'd pursue. I had just turned 50 and it was one of THE most incredible sexual experiences I've ever had.
 
He really knew his stuff and I asked him afterwards how in the world he learned to do that as I was completely blown away by it. He said he visited foot Fetish clubs in NYC and learned a lot there. I'll say!
 
Anyway as reluctant as I was to go through with it, I did not regret a most incredible sexual experience. I never dreamed I'd be a part of something like that, mostly because I never thought about it. I'd jump at the chance to be with someone as gifted as this guy again.

No knock on your faith, but I always likened the Bible to a game of telephone. You know one kid says something to the next kid, the next kid repeats it, and so it goes down the line of kids until it reaches the end. Often times the message is different from what it was from the start... lost in translation and all that.
 
The bible has been translated, rewritten, and edited by various people. The original message has been altered methinks. I believe the bible should be a guide and way to possibly help keep the faith, but not to be taken literally.
 
But that's just me.

This thread is a bit old..would like to bump it up...huge fan of pits...do you guys know of any NYC escorts that enjoy pits as well?

Seen him twice now and have plans to see him again tomorrow. Homerun!

Men have hair, boys don't.

Shaved balls & ass are fine especially if you like sucking balls & rimming but shaved pubes? NO! Trimmed is fine but a good bush is soooo sexy!

It is my hope to find out someday as he's my pick for my first hire.

As a newbie who hasn't pulled the trigger on my first hire I'm glad you posted this question. I actually scheduled someone a month or so ago, but had to cancel. I was planning to have him to my home and we texted and I never thought twice about my phone number or having him to my place. I'm nervous and thought I'd be comfortable that way and he agreed. The only plus to going to his place was less cost which is a consideration for me.
 
Basically I'm not worried about extortion as I'm not worried about being outed other than the embarrassment of paying for sex which the more I read on this forum the less concerned I am about that.

As a newbie who hasn't pulled the trigger on my first hire I'm glad you posted this question. I actually scheduled someone a month or so ago, but had to cancel. I was planning to have him to my home and we texted and I never thought twice about my phone number or having him to my place. I'm nervous and thought I'd be comfortable that way and he agreed. The only plus to going to his place was less cost which is a consideration for me.
 
Basically I'm not worried about extortion as I'm not worried about being outed other than the embarrassment of paying for sex which the more I read on this forum the less concerned I am about that.