@BDSfan4Life Since you are specifically asking about others who have met him - I am one of them. I have met him several times - and although my experiences with him were generally positive, I did start to see the patterns of manipulation begin once we had established an even very limited relationship. He would text me out of the blue asking for money. He would ask for “an advance” on our next visit. These are red flags for me, and I would shut them down immediately - but he would wait for a period of time and then try again. When he was told “no” again, he eventually gave up. Our last exchange was a little terse because his frustration began to show. At times, he seems really desperate for money.
Based on the story you told, I can understand how his personality can play right into someone like you, since you seem to be a giver/pleaser. He can be disarmingly endearing in a childlike way since he always seems happy, smiley and easy-going - almost like a big, goofy kid trapped in the body of a bodybuilder. But regardless of these qualities, he has already shown you who he is. Repeatedly.
Don’t make the same mistake again.