I was feeling flush and tired of the constant chase in the bar scene back in 1989. I was staring 40 in the face and feeling twice as old as I do now. I hired a "porn star" of the time, Joe Cade. I arranged it through an ad by the now infamous David Forest. He came from LA to Charlotte for the weekend. He was the sweetest, nicest best sex ever guy. I have dated guys over the years, some for longer periods of time, but for me, hiring a nice good looking guy for an evening or a trip or a weekend is just really so much easier and convenient for my lifestyle.