GaitedBear

To my recollection BVB I don't think I have ever disagreed with you in the forum, but on this issue I do disagree. If a person's life is so complicated that they can't disconnect from technology for a few hours or for a couple of days then a trip to the more rugged and wild national parks is probably bad planning. There are plenty of national parks which are located near urban centers which a person can stay connected. They should go to those locations.

I'm missing some facts here. Is the client saying it repeatedly or did he/she just blurt it out?
 
If the latter, it is probably a faux pas. Give the client some grace by simply smiling and continuing to do what you were doing. the client will either get the hint or appreciate your grace during an impulsive moment. However, if the client continues telling you this, you may need to set boundaries. maybe you could bring a gag rag next time?

Loving someone and BEING in love with someone are two different things. (No, I'm not about to go all RuPaul in here.... bare with me.)
 
I've always been of the opinion that actions speak louder than words. Words can be very imprecise.
 
If the person is obviously thinking there is more to the relationship than client/escort, it's a problem. If it was a moment in the heat, or more of a meaning of "I love what we're doing" or "I love my time with you", great!

Love is not a feeling. It's a behaviour, a way of being. Love is something you do.

I feel love is something different for everyone. While traveling, I've met many people out and about; restaurants, movies, clubs, bars, theaters, hotel lobbys, gyms etc,etc (Male and Female) After a few meetings I must admit I start telling them I love them. I cherish all forms of life, good and bad. Everyone can change, after along rigorous process.
 
What I'm really saying is, love means alot of things, a client will and should understand that love and being in a serious and committed relationship are two different things. I've had a few really good, close and great clients come play into this grey area! No one has ever crossed a line beyond that! I've formed some long term friendships and clients since I've been traveling since I was 19.
 
This is one of those things you'll have to take at your own leisure, really thing about it. Some people consider "LOVE" a taboo and labled type of thing, but I think two mature adults can handle it! the burning desire of a FUCKING HOTT session is undeniable

it's ok to love an escort. it's ok to love a client.
 
it's not ok for either to take advantage of that

I have quite a few clients with whom we say "I love you". Our work should be drawing from the energy of love, compassion and acceptance, so making someone feel loved, for me, is the hope. Therefore it's only natural that one would want to reciprocate and acknowledge that love. I understand the desire to maintain an emotional distance and to keep the relationship of client/provider defined, but we need to be less afraid of love. Its unfortunate that we can be so quick to anger and rage toward someone we barely know, or really don't know at all, yet so cautious at expressing love for someone we do.

I had a regular fuck buddy where the sex was really good. We were about to set up a time to meet up and he asked me, "are you into anything kinky? wanna try something new?"
 
I was pretty vanilla at the time, and I told him I'd get back to him. I thought about different fantasies, role playing, etc. that might turn me on. I ended up coming up with one thing that seemed incredibly forbidden, totally taboo... even frightening. I got back to him the next day and I said, "when I'm fucking you... and I'm getting close to cumming... I want to kiss you hard and say 'I love you' and when we're done know it was just a term used in the heat of the moment - and after don't freak out or be awkward about it - and know I'm definitely not looking for a relationship, but I kind of think it would be nice to say as I haven't said it in a long time." He was open to it. (He also told me a fantasy he had which we tried one time that I'll save for a different post .)
 
Well, we did it - I did it... and afterwards it was totally fine. It was nice to say, and it made me cum my brains out because it made the experience much more intense. We stayed fuck buddies for a while after, with the sex eventually fizzling out - never going back to using that word except for that one time, and I had no real desire to use it again on him after that.
 
If part of the fantasy is saying it - it should be made clear beforehand that using the word is just that - a fantasy. I have yet to have a discussion about this with a client saying this to me, but should it come up (before or after being used), my approach would be that of flattery and empathy. I might choose to play down any discomfort he may have after the fact and follow it with an honest discussion of whether that word is something that we both would feel comfortable being used, the extent of that comfort and drawing clear boundaries.
 
Sometimes we need to feel loved - other times we need to give love. Someone once told me, "sometimes the best gift you can give someone is to accept their gift." Roll with it, but like I said, have an honest discussion about it - try not to dismiss it or make it seem wrong or bad.