MaxSargent

Thank you. I appreciate your kind words. A person who isn't able to be honest with himself is generally incapable of learning. I never want to be that kind of person.
 
Here's how I see it: If one person was to call me a horse, I could say "Fuck you!" If two people were to call me a horse, I could say "Fuck you." But if three people called me a horse, I would have get a saddle. In other words, it was time for me to pony up and get a saddle.

TylerandAce,
 
You make excellent points. Thanks for your perspective. There are moments when I want to reach out to talk to other colleagues because they understand what it's like. Your experience and professionalism shine in your remarks.
 
Accepting the loss and inevitability of flaky persons posing to offer work is a bitter pill. I'll swallow it. That's the opportunity cost for the moments I get to swallow with greater pleasure. (Sorry for not writing that more interestingly as a pun. The mood of the moment dominates.)
 
I believe that the pictures we're taking off of the Internet and the phone number seems to be a Google Voice number. Even still, publicly outing somebody in that way was wrong of me. I am sorry for doing that. Not only does it cast a shadow on professional credibility, it also reeks of bullying and vindictiveness. Again, I'm sorry.
 
If there's any way to connect with you guys for a more for personal exchange, please let me know how to do so.
 
Thanks again.
 
Stay tuned...
 
Max
 
 
 
 
 
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TakeitDeep,
I've listened, I'm listening, and will continue to listen and learn. I have NOT been editing each response as much as I would if I were doing this for purely academic purposes. If you think my syntax sounds smug, I take that to heart too. (Note to self, rewrite any section that seems smug.)
I'm trying to do my best. I'm sorry.

Cruiser,
I stand by my apology, I didn't over think it. It felt like the right thing to do. It was pure of motive - I am sorry.
I hear anger in your post, and maybe even a bit of 'beating a dead horse.' Okay, I'll accept a few extra slaps if you must. However, I think that any justifiable indignation might be directed more constructively by offering your thoughts about how a scenario like the one we had here could have been handled differently.
I'm trying to do the best I can. Any effort in that direction would be greatly appreciated.
What do you think?

The fact that you feel that you have to write, "...the thought of flaking is unfathomable to you (eye roll)", shows that you've missed the point of most of the reactions here.

I think this is the key point here. And that's part of the reason that some of us, like @ITakeItDeep above, have a bad feeling when we listen to Max be charming as he apologizes. An apology can undo hurt feelings, but it can't undo a violation of privacy on the internet. So, when Max says whoops and tells his side of the story while still trying to be cool with everyone here and move on with life... there's a bit of a disjunction.
 
I think this is something where providers and clients are in this together. If anything, providers have their personal information shared publicly in an unwanted and problematic way more often than clients do. IMHO, this thread should be a reminder to all of us that this line cannot be crossed. A charm offensive runs counter to that purpose.

TylerandAce,
 
You make excellent points. Thanks for your perspective. There are moments when I want to reach out to talk to other colleagues because they understand what it's like. Your experience and professionalism shine in your remarks.
 
Accepting the loss and inevitability of flaky persons posing to offer work is a bitter pill. I'll swallow it. That's the opportunity cost for the moments I get to swallow with greater pleasure. (Sorry for not writing that more interestingly as a pun. The mood of the moment dominates.)
 
I believe that the pictures we're taking off of the Internet and the phone number seems to be a Google Voice number. Even still, publicly outing somebody in that way was wrong of me. I am sorry for doing that. Not only does it cast a shadow on professional credibility, it also reeks of bullying and vindictiveness. Again, I'm sorry.
 
If there's any way to connect with you guys for a more for personal exchange, please let me know how to do so.
 
Thanks again.
 
Stay tuned...
 
Max
 
 
 
 
 
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What bothers me more than what you actually did, was your smug and arrogant response. Lots of people respond that way too when they they've done something really wrong and don't want to give into the shame (especially when it's public). I can only hope that's what is going on with you because if not, then you are truly devoid of any conscience.
 
You aimed all of your frustration with all of the flakes you've encountered on just a few unfortunate souls. This guy ruined a few hours of your time, you may have ruined his life and he didn't deserve it. And did you stop to think at all not only about the dire consequences for him - both professionally and personally, but the serious collateral damage you may have cause as well? He could have children.
 
We ALL get frustrated with flakes whether there's some sort of transaction or not. I understand it must be all that more frustrating when those experiences aren't just limited to some weekends like it is with most of us 9-5'ers - and it's made all that more frustrating when that's how you pay your bills. However, I have news for you. We ALL experience the same kind, and same level of frustration in our own careers sometimes - be it not knowing that someone ordered the wrong part for an important project until it was too late or having finance upstairs lose your paperwork even though you emailed it, faxed it, and hand carried it. And what makes us professionals, is how we respond to it, not by throwing a tantrum and taking all of our toys home.
 
I agree with what OliverSaks said "
 
Yeah, like charging a deposit with whatever conditions you choose. Otherwise, if you're getting so frustrated in this career that you can't problem solve and instead invoke the nuclear option, perhaps you should think about doing something else.
 
Finally, you don't know me, so I don't really expect you to care or respect what I say, but it seems there are a lot of people on here who think fondly of you and were surprised by your actions. Look, you fucked up - and fucked up kind of really bad. So I hope you'll at least hear them.

We all do things out of anger that we shouldnt. Max has apologized and he regrets it and thats whats important .

But he didn’t know any of this information when he posted it. So, just because, in this particular case, the pictures MAY be fake (we still don’t know), and it was a google phone (which none of us would know if we didn’t look it up), it’s OK that this person wholly violated the number one thing trusted and relied upon in his profession: discretion?
 
No way, no excuse or apology will make this right.

I wish I could agree with you. But as of today, 5/27, the insensitive tweet about Mr. G.W. area code 415, is still ON his twitter account ... What good is an apology if he doesn't remove the offending tweet?
 
Or is it impossible to remove tweets once you posted them?

This post reminds me of Mario Batali's "I'm sorry I sexually harassed those women but here's a recipe for a cinnamon rolls. " Except this time there's no apology.

Agreed, @Indigo. Aside from Jerry Springer, who pays for an escort with a check?
 
That’s why I could never fly an escort in from a different state. Besides that I couldn’t afford that, I can’t imagine the logistics of it...send him a plane ticket? The money for the ticket? What if he doesn’t get on the plane? What if he arrives and is terrible at his “job”? Now I’m stuck with this guy for a day plus or whatever? Not for me. Even an overnight I wouldn’t do.

For some odd reason that message alone raises the “scam/flake” red flag for me.

If you guys have Twitter there’s escort that created @flakesofrentmen that posts “bad” clients

For me I could never change my mind. You broke a code of confidentiality, by having a knee jerk reaction and doing something of this nature.
Who's to say you won't repeat this act again if something or someone comes along and upsets you again, and I have to agree as you now see this thread and this seems to be your livelihood damage control is in full effect.
"Once bitten shame on you, twice bitten shame on me".
No thanks.

Yeah, and what if he didn’t find this thread and realize that, instead of supporting him, we find what he did despicable? And, at first, he tried to defend an indefensible position, as well as try to SELL us something (read the PS in his first post). FOH!
 
Outing someone is NEVER OK and that bell cannot be “unrung.” To potentially damage someone’s life, marriage, safety, job and God knows what else because you were miffed that he wasted your precious time is unconscionable and a disgrace to your profession. An apology after realizing people are not with you on this and the damage has already been done is totally unacceptable.

Golem,
That's a scam, similar to numerous Nigerian scams that I've gotten before, and not the same person this thread is about. That number and post will remain, as others should be aware of it. If you wish, I can post the message he sent me. It is a completely different scenario. Notice that there is no picture.
 
As far as "lovely" goes... I was not aiming for 'lovely'. But I'll take it provided you don't think it was Crate & Barrel or Pottery Barn 'lovely'. In that case, I have a boner to pick with you.
 
Here it is (verbatim):
 
+14156499870 - How are you doing today? My name is [potential client name removed by me] and i came across your ad on RentMen, i will like to be with you for a weekend. Please get back to me on my number 4156499870 with your rates and lets go from there. I await to hear back from you.Thank you
 
+14156499870 - Good prize, not bad. i will like to spend the 2nd and 3rd of June with you in MIAMI as i have a business appointment through the weekend.I will also like to make and upfront payment which will be $500 to secure my spot and also your flight will be covered. You will be with me for the whole time i will be spending in MIAMI and i assure you that you will enjoy your stay throughout with me. I should be there for maximum of two day.are you interested babe?
 
+14156499870 - Okay, cool babe…you gonna provide me with your full name, address, city and zip code so that my account manager will issue and mail out a certified check to you for your upfront payment, fl
 
+14156499870 - ight ticket and hotel reservation so you gonna know that i am serious about this
 
+14156499870 - I will prepare the payment along with the flight fees by next week, so once you receive the payment, deduct your $500 upfront payment and you will send the rest to the agent? for your flight and hotel bookings.I have an agent who handles my flight and hotel issues so he will be booking your flight and your hotel room.I will mail the check out via a courier service and once its mailed out, i will let you know.I am so excited to meet you
 
(End of text messages)
 
This one was fairly obvious for reasons I'm sure you can discern. There have been others though who were incredibly clever, systematic, and persistent.
 
Would you agree the post should stay? Do you think I should post the texts?
 
 
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Goodness gentlemen!
 
I do not expect any of you will ever understand fully what was involved in the case you're undoubtedly referring to here, but I'll begin by inviting any of you to call me. You can reach me through my ad. I welcome your comments. I believe that you'll discover I'm not the villain so easily imagined by the exchange here.
 
To the contrary, those who know me best, those who continue to authentically arrange time to meet me for equally authentic experiences, would paint an entirely different image.
 
The said individual who contacted me caused me to lose a considerable amount of time and money. He was able to do this by contacting me weeks in advance, being dishonest, and winning my trust. Like several others who've done this before, he waited until only minutes before the arranged meeting and then ceased all communication. Apparently, some individuals who do this enjoy the sense of exhilaration experienced by setting up a meeting time and place. One guy admitted that he used the excitement to masturbate; look him up on the Bad Boy Report (I believe he went by 'Tim in Cincinnati). He was especially proficient in the nuances of prevarication
 
Typically, we simply absorb the loss and chalk it off to experience. It isn't glamorous. Even worse are the experiences of my fellow colleagues who are physically mistreated, some after driving hours to arranged meeting places and never compensated. I'm not appealing to any sense of pity, simply your understanding.
 
I can count the number of times I've spoken up about my experiences with flakers on two fingers. This is one of them.
 
For those of you who think it's to be expected and that we should just accept it, I ask you to reflect a moment. What might you suggest in this case? I'm willing to listen, apply your advice, and let you know how it works.
 
I invite those of you still reading to check out the reviews guys have written after meeting me. Some of them have met me multiple times and still have plans to do so in the future.
 
Lastly, check out the track record of professionalism that I've established with the various directors and production companies that I've worked with for over four years. Talk to the performers and production assistants that can vouch for me in this regard. And if you are still not convinced, post a comment on Twitter asking fans about the personal correspondence I've had with them over the years. I'm willing to stand up to the test.
 
In the meantime, I'm currently trekking through the Northeast and available.
 
XXXOXXO,
Max
 
P.S. Have any of you heard about the wicked popcorn flavored protein shakes that I make. Ask Mike Gaite about them.

Yes, I'm there often. Send me a text or email through my RM ad.

Thank you to everyone who posted in this thread and to @MaxSargent for owning and apologizing his mistake. As many have said, we're all human beings and human beings make mistakes all the time. One of the key differences between brats and adults is an ability to recognize a mistake along with the willingness and ability to own, apologize, and learn from that mistake.
 
As I had said repeatedly, I do not use my real name, email, or mobile number for this "hobby." I also do not send face pics ever and I'm cautious when entering a space hosted by an escort as I scout for potential cameras or other obvious recording devices. Am I being paranoid? Somewhat, since I typically only meet with highly regarded professionals. But, all it takes is one bad situation to ruin careers, marriages, families, lives. As this whole thread demonstrates--or as even my very first hire taught me--even highly regarded professionals are still human beings and will make mistakes sometimes.
 
And yes, I know there are some professionals I will probably never be able to meet because they insist on "background checks" or want face pics of potential new clients for their own safety. I'm okay with that because discretion and safety are far more important to me than the chance to meet anyone. As with all things, your mileage may vary because your priorities and life situation are likely different than mine.

Max seems like a cool guy to hang out with over a cold bottle of Anchor Steam

Totally agree. I could never trust someone like this,therefor I would never hire him period

Outing someone is more than a mistake.

I don't disagree, but I've given Max the benefit of the doubt based on his words and actions since he found this thread. What he did seemed to be an act of anger/desire for revenge or whatever, but at the end of the day, it was a very serious mistake and betrayal of professional discretion.
 
I believe he's deleted the tweets and he appears to be trying to make amends to the community for his actions. I applaud him for attempting to clean up the situation. To err is human. To forgive is compassionately divine.