tylerthebadwolf

For whatever it's worth, I'm always grateful for gentle correction. I find editing myself to be extremely difficult and there are plenty of opportunities to misuse or misspell a word in my writing that winds up altering the intended meaning.

If you're going to offer unsolicited advice, be prepared to have it rejected (even when it's accurate). But some folks are glad to know how we might be more effective communicators.

-t

...But it sets my teeth on edge every time I read it.

 

A short email correspondence with an escort -

 

Mr. XXX--your pictures are incredible. One thing when I look at your ad. You can 'dominate' someone because it's a verb as in "Mr XXX dominates everyone he tops." But to describe yourself-you are 'dominant'. "Mr. XXX is an incredibly dominant top. "It's an adjective. You can't be dominate. Well you could be but not according to the rules of English. A lot of ***s do say it. But it is wrong.

 

 

Mr. XXX's response:

 

Thanks,

But I don’t think that matters, who cares.., I been noticed that..

contact me only to set an appointment not for grammar corrections..

Thanks for your concern

 

 

 

 

Exeunt the conversation.

 

Gman

Boy, Keith.

If I didn't like you already, lol ❤❤. This kinda talk is like foreplay.

-t

There is some discussion of secure access elsewhere - in the Tech Forum among others - but I use a VPN, the TOR browser (sometimes) and DuckDuckGo for searching.

It’s like brushing your teeth in the morning... it’s a good hygiene practice that becomes second nature.

Frankly I’m more concerned about the massive amount of loss of privacy thru my ISP, Google and the other vampire providers and the coorelating of massive amounts of my data than I am the discussion above. But that is a Tech discussion.

It's so mystifying to me then how they continue to offer "verification" services and that users continue to believe in and rely on them. It seems like such a deliberately misleading feature.

Either you're validating and confirming that this person is the person in the photos and on their ID, or you aren't. Everyone should keep this in mind when they see that "verified" tag on a RM profile. It means virtually nothing.

-tyler

Remember:

"Rent.Men does not control, validate, supervise, confirm, investigate, authenticate or endorse any of the content, information, materials, communications or statements posted by advertisers on our website."

https://rent.men/about/ads/

 

"We do not condone, promote or endorse prostitution or any illegal activities as well as ESCORT ads are not allowed on this site."

https://rent.men/about/terms/

Perhaps he LIKES what he does.

I'm always and genuinely shocked to see this kind of attitude in this forum of all places. "...Why he has to escort."

Gross.

-tyler

Perhaps he has to escort to pay that rent or he has a benefactor. I know several young 20s escorts who live in 4K studios/1 bedrooms in midtown manhattan.

I cancelled a meeting last week with a new guy because his story seemed suspicious. He's an early 20s guy who lives alone in a nice part of a major city's downtown. If he can afford to live in a studio/1 bedroom downtown I don't see why he has to escort. It was a new profile too with no reviews or verified pics so that only added to my suspicion.

Paul – I am exceptionally sorry this happened to you. That the Rentmen setup allows for this kind of entrapment is a tremendous problem with that platform that doesn't come with an easy solution.

I would love to know more information when you feel safe sharing it, as I'm sure most of us would. Whatever advice I can offer clients (current and potential) to keep them safer in their searches is priceless to me. Your experience is important, however traumatic I'm certain it was.

-tyler

Recently tried setting up something with someone off rentmen and it turned out to be a sting so just be careful out there guys and be cautious when setting stuff up.

@tylerthebadwolf posted on Twitter that he got the same message, with the question “then what am I paying you for?“ – He has a really good point – it’s one thing if we can’t post rates, and need to be careful about language, but if we can’t post phone numbers or links, how are people supposed to contact us? The RM email system is unreliable and burdensome. It seems like it’s the only thing left, and it means clients suddenly have tons more work to do to figure out who they want to see, and we escorts will either see a significant drop in business, or a significant uptick in inquiry emails. I’ve never been one to believe that anyone has any authority to tell me what to do, and I was willing to proceed as I have been in light of this legislation, and I feel sad that there are knee-jerk reactions happening everywhere.

I don't have the strength to go through all 400 pages of this conversation to see where I fit into it, but It's nice to hear someone else mention the awfulness of the RM message system. Not to mention, @Eric Hassan, the fact that users literally have no idea who has access to view/intercept any of those communications. When I've worked for other companies with proprietary messaging systems like that, administrators (at basically any level) had access to view/edit/delete all messages on all sides.

So if you're relying on Rentmen to keep your secrets for you, I've got some troubling news.

Clients reading this and friends who might communicate that way: please be patient with providers who ask you to use a secure messaging system. You can't imagine what a struggle it is to be called names and shouted down for refusing to make plans or discuss details via Rentmen messages or SMS. It sucks so badly to be trying to do something eminently practical (and for everyone's good) and be told to "go fuck [my]self, princess" because "everyone else [they] deal with does it this way."

I don't have any beef with the "princess" part, but the rest of it makes my job harder, and puts your safety in jeopardy.

-t

That @tylerthebadwolf is a dreamboat.

YOU are!

-t

Thank you for reading all of that, Keith. And for finding some meaning in it.

-t

After thumbing thru a bunch of Forum posts and RM profiles like my gum-popping mom sitting under a beauty shop hairdryer reading The Inquirer, I stumbled across a jolting, refreshing set of observations by Tylerthebadwolf. It’s something that really struck a nerve because it seems so obvious yet elusive:

 

"For all of the hardcore, bareback, fuck-me-in-the-ass porn that exists in all the mansex world, it seems that what men want (without realizing that they want it) is

to be connected

. Connected to another human; another man."

 

If your thing is ejaculating into a wet hole or being ejaculated into then more power to you and have at it with sweaty gusto. I’ll even hold the flashlight.

 

But the game seems lopsided.

I read RM profiles by "heavy shooters" with close-up, bareback videos that look like Soviet-era industrial safety films and read discussions here about who didn't get hard and who didn't cum and wonder if I'm missing something.

 

What I want to do is make a brief connection with someone... to freely give and receive affection, holding eye contact and happy simply for the moment of the shared experience. Most profiles & videos I see tell me something about someone's anatomy but what I really want to see is something about who they really are and how capable they are of making a connection with me.

 

I'm not trying to change anyone's mind about what they should enjoy - to each their own. Please enjoy.

 

What I would like to do is give a word of encouragement to the escorts who are genuinely interested in creating a connection with their clients. It's so rewarding to find a guy who understands and values this and, I think, it's more rewarding for those escort too.

 

 

"...what you’re sharing with that other man is intensely personal and very often private. Something about which they may have all sorts of conflicted feelings: shame, guilt, fear, sadness, elation. You can’t do anything about their feelings, but you can be open and receptive and those are the keys to connected sexual interaction. You can be excited and you can let their expressions of pleasure enhance your own...:"

Tyler gets the trophy for "Most Insightful Observation Of The Day".

(please don't sue me for copyright infringement)