JDXXX

We're everywhere.
 
~ Boomer ~

Damn, this forum is filled with Scorpios and Sicilians. Ok guys, just stay calm. Nobodies going to hurt you. I'm backing away slowly. See? my hands...nothing in them. Have a nice day fellas. Peace. ;)

No, no, no......It's not what you write that makes me/us angry, it's what you have shared with us about what some other insensitive assholes have said or done to you.....whether on this forum or in your personal or business life....or just how terrible they treat others. Those losers are what makes me angry.

I'm a true Scorpio through and through. Scorpio's forget NOTHING and forgive NOTHING and they get even with a vengeance.

A good fuck heals all wounds too

And sometimes we should not expect anything in return but our satisfaction for doing what feels right for us

Gemini, I'm sorry you feel like that... Sometimes good things come back in small ways. Sometimes it's not immediate... many times it takes years to see the good you put in but when it happens, you recognize it. Here's a hug. Sometimes a hug from a stranger has more meaning than from a friend.

You don't have to decide today. Take some more time to think about it.
 
~ Boomer ~

I am not sure if "forgive and forget" is a decision
 
It may be a gift

I don't take a squat on your worldview, so extend me the same courtesy.

I'm no High-Roader. I am out there shaking the pom-poms for Miss Karma

2 cliches... You reap what you sow. What you give is what you get. What goes around, comes around. Sorry, I got nothin' else.
Here I just post 'What goes around comes around' and JDXXX says the same. . Brilliant minds do think alike.

No, of course you can't LITERALLY forget. The memory is there. But if you have forgiven and the thing that you have "forgiven" is still top of mind and you're waiting for the other shoe to drop, then you haven't forgiven.

Guys, it doesn't matter what we think forgetting, forgiving, or holding a grudge means. What matters is what it means to the people involved in the situation. Talking it out is the only way to get on the same page. Don't split hairs over definitions - too academic. Work it out thru action instead.

We are aren't we JDXXX? Partly because you bring out the best in us sir. Your posts make us laugh, cry, get angry but mostly make us think.

Mama always said " Don't get mad, get even".

From your post, I hear you are still stinging. It is ok to feel pain and be disappointed and even be mad. Allow yourself to work thru these feelings bc if any of those FB friends come back to make amends, you'll need to be in the right space to allow them your forgiveness. Hearing what you are saying here, I have a funny feeling it is going to take you longer than the average bear to be in that space. Don't worry, you are not working on any deadline. The real friends will hang in there to enjoy your forgiveness when you can.
 
PS- do they (FB friends) know they messed up?

Well, since I am Catholic, then I can give double barrel guilt

You telling someone to get on their knees. Really??? Aren't they usually telling you that? . Ok, ok, sorry got off topic. Now back to our regularly scheduled program... whatever that is.

I forgive, never forget and keep my guard up.
 
Hugs,
Greg

The offense wasn't purposely malicious, but more in the line of disregard for another.
 
I don't allow many people in my life, I don't ask very much from those that I do allow. I enjoy doing for others and rarely ask for anything in return. I do because I want to. To be disregarded by these individuals makes me once again doubt my judgement in character of others.

I dont think it is. I've been dealt a couple craptastic hands, once as a kid and another as an adult. I forgave those individuals for what they did, no hard grudges or wishing them ill will. Forgive but don't forget.
 
Hugs,
Greg

I rarely hold a grudge. I normally forgive, but never forget.

Always best to forgive and move on as when you do that your the bigger person as karma can kick mean-girls (who do wrong and vicious acts unto others) in this world in the ass royally. Through karma, they'll see the "light" of they're many errors eventually.
 
Oh, karma can be painful; more painful then the revenge you may feel like plotting unto them which is why - it's best to always take the "high road" and watch what they put out will come back to them 10 times fold.
 
It's only a matter of time.

Hi Geminibear,
 
Thanks for creating this thread as I myself in the past year have been painfully hurt and betrayed recently by a couple of people I thought were my close friends, and came to find out they bad mouthed me to each other, and even stabbed me in the back on more then one occasion.
 
Wanted to get even, and been tempted to do so considering the circumstances of how badly burned I was in the situation, but decided to take the "high road" instead.
 
Really hurts when you been loyal to someone you consider as a friend, and then consequently in the end find out they've betrayed your trust and confidence in them cold-heartedly to others. Then when you call them out on it, and express your hurt and anger - they wanna so call end they're association/friendship with you after they've done you wrong viciously.
 
Really hurts to be burned terribly in that manner, but it's good these things do happen to show us who are true friends are in this world.
 
Now, how shitty is that? By them ending a friendship after you call them like that shows maybe they can't stand you hurt you, and is a firm of guilt maybe?
 
I can totally relate what your experiencing, and sorry to hear this happened to you.
 
I'd say take the high road, and eventually forgive, but not hold a grudge. I'm gonna do the same thing is to forgive, but on guard of who I consider as close friends from now on. Especially if I been burned by them already horrifically in the past without end.
 
Be the bigger person and forgive, baby as it'll pay off to keep a positive outlook and know what goes around does eventually come around to those who are nasty individuals that can't be trusted with a two dollar bill as karma my dear can be a vicious bitch too. Just doesn't pay to be nasty to people, and always be gracious and kind to others as when your nasty to people who been loyal and kind to you, it'll come back on you and sometimes 10 times fold worse then the crap that person has done unto you.
 
Just isn't worth it, and best to take the high road in these sort of unfortunate circumstances.
 
Really is a shame, but it happens, and we move on with our head up high knowing they're are more fish in the sea as you win some and you lose some as they swim up stream. ;)