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JD I couldn't' agree with you more and I do hope this opens a few peoples hearts and minds.

I agree, Dom and can understand your frustration behind this matter - Being of an African-American (who happens to be of an escort) it offends me deeply indeed that an escort would discriminate towards minorities. It's very sad, but I do hope one day his views about black people will change as no one I don't care what race you are is better then any race as we as people are all the same in this world.
 
Maybe from this post members here on the forum can deeply realize from this experience that being Black still is a struggle in America seeing how we're judged, rejected or persecuted in some way, shape or form. Just cause the world puts us to shame for being what God made us, don't mean we have to accept such needless shame from others.
 
However, I glad there are people on the forum and outside of the forum who are more "open-minded" and not see a persons color as a reason to interact or be as equal as they are. I know I'm one of them as I too see people as people, and NOT judge them by the color of they're skin for me to interact with that special person I may wanna know socially or sexually.
 
Why limit yourself being you can enjoy peoples company in ALL races? Just doesn't make any sense at all whatsoever, and we as escorts need to be more open-minded then this as I feel sorry for this young man viewing Blacks in a negative way by not taking Black clients, and to state harshly "No Blacks". Very upsetting to see in the escorting community in today society being how WE as gay people are also discriminated and here who have Gays discriminating towards each other. I mean - Come on - Really? It's mindboggling to me on how hypocritical that is to wanna fight to have equal rights as Gay people, but discriminate towards someone else who's a different skin color then you. Wow. Unbelievable.
 
It's ashame see an escort/professional have such "rules" when it comes to race, but it's his decision, his business, his life, and we need to respect his choice whether we like it or not. He may judge me or other Black people, but I will not take upon myself to judge him of what he is which is a human being, and not just a White guy. There is more to him(just like the rest of us) then him just being another hot White guy. I'm sure behind the surface he's a cool guy to be with all the way around. Based on his post I read - he seems to be down-to-earth with a sense-of-humor which is good to see how he interacts socially. Just wish the "No Blacks" situation wasn't of a limitation for him. .

It seems to be true with this particular friend/escort that if he's continued being this way for most of your acquaintance, he is not willing or able to listen to criticism regarding his need to continue this behavior. Rather than making some dramatically over-the-top farewell statement such as, "I can no longer be your friend if you continue this behavior, etc." you need to just walk away from the relationship, and make sure not to have any time to talk or to visit when you happen to be in the same geographical area. You've already found that, in this case, he will never change. So do nothing mean or negative, just be too busy to give him anymore of your time, especially given that having a conversation or visit with him always gets on your last nerve! No one has time for that!
 
TruHart1

People who are compelled to tell you how great their life is are trying convince themselves as much at they are trying to convince you. People who are truly happy with their lives don't need to convince anyone else of the fact and want others to be as happy as they are. It is really kind of sad but there is nothing you can do about it. He is likely exhibiting this behavior out of feelings of inadequacy. This reminds me of a a friend who was constantly telling me how great his marriage was and then one day up and announced that he was getting a divorce.

JD, I have a somewhat different perspective. It is very hard for me to trust, and when I am lucky enough to have a close friend, I find it very hard to distance myself or discard them just bc their behavior is "annoying" to me. If their behavior was criminal, dangerous, or something worse, then, yeah, I would probably modify the relationship or end it. However, in the grand scheme of things, if someone is a braggart is that enough to modify the friendship? Before giving up on him, I would take a hard look at myself and ask: can I control my negative reaction to his bragging? Can I stand losing face when he brags to others in front of me? Sometimes, being a close friend really entails embracing someone fully for the good and the bad. I certainly hope my close friends don't give up on me when I annoy them - even if continuously. good luck! -TR

No, I didn't "obviously miss" your point. You didn't make your point. Of course a lawyer can pick his clients based on the case. The thread discussion is race, though, and you were making a phony argument about "personal, customized services." And you still are, with the "good fit" comment. Lawyer: "I can't take your case because we're not a good fit. You're black."
 
In United States federal anti-discrimination law, a protected class is a characteristic of a person which cannot be targeted for discrimination. "Good fit" or no fit. Civil Rights Act of 1964.

That's false. A lawyer or accountant cannot refuse personal service based on race. (See above.) And a lawyer, at least, would know it.
 
I mean, really. You think an accountant can hang out a shingle that says, "Tax services. No blacks." What planet are you on?

Well, he's the 35% of your average white man and I'm sure an even higher level on here.
 
I guess you don't want to answer the question.

Yes, but maybe he should say why he won't take "black" money in exchange for sex.
 
If I was an escort I wouldn't discriminate at all but I'd rather being hired by client A instead of client B.
 
To each his own.
 
Client A
 
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client B
 
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Why you don't accept black clients?
 
"no blacks".

+1

Dakota, I don't hesitate to says that you are especially good looking with a wonderful body. When your Rentmen profile is read you come across as sexually open and willing to adapt to various situations. However, as everyone has noted your ad blanketing asks that no black gentlemen contact you. For me, that makes me worry that you may not be interested in meeting me, a middle-aged guy. I know it will be difficult (and I'm not sure in general how we exercise our right to see who we desire) however your outright refusal to see black clients does not make you look good (in my opinion).

Probably for the same reason it's OK for a customer at a lunch counter to have racist preferences, but if the lunch counter owner does and acts on them in providing a public accommodation, he'll get busted. (The only thing protecting an escort in a similar situation is the overall illegality of his service.)

Fuck this...I'm just gonna say it:
 
Hey, @Dakota, it has to be hard to just sit there and have folks just post opinions about you or your business when you know yourself best. What is going thru your mind? Help us see your side of things.

Listen & Learn......
 
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And THEN, I started carrying the FAN.... now if someone does or says something I don't like, I smack em on the head with it. For you, that may not work long distance, so you'll just have to smack him "with your Words"....

Well, the situation doesn't only apply to "escorts". As a civilian, I had 2 friends (they were a couple) who always made "everything" about THEM. When we would make plans to do something, it had to be their ideas, what they wanted, when they wanted. They wouldn't be the least bit flexible on anything. They were braggadocious and "self serving" about everything. If you did something, they "ultimately did it better" . If you bought something, what they bought was better. It was exhausting... I tried to overlook and ignore, but after several years I just couldn't anymore. I confronted them and told them how I felt, but instead of receiving an understanding of my issues, I got the "oh, you're just jealous" line. At that point I realized they were all about themselves, and really didn't comprehend the idea of "Friendship"... I cut them loose...because i was getting absolutely nothing from the relationship....
 
So JD, my advice is to weigh the Pro's and cons of the relationship, and decide if you can exist in the space created for you with him.... Usually when you sit down and seriously THINK about it, the picture becomes perfectly clear as to what you need to do....

JD, one day he will catch you when you are not in the mood and you will take care of it.

Size doesn't matter to me. A client is hiring for a specific purpose/experience and regardless of their physical appearance I try to do my best to make sure they receive the exact service they requested. As long as you go into it with a positive attitude you are more likely to receive a positive outcome.

JD, just tell him you are happy no matter how his life works out but that you love him and don't need all the details of his life. Tell him he doesn't need to prove anything to you. He doesn't need to tell you how successful he had been because you like him whether he has been successful or not.

Sounds like you have tried everything I might suggest. You now have three options:
 
Change his behavior. You tried
Live with his behavior. Can you just accept his bragging and not let it bother you?
Walk away. Extricate yourself from the relationship.
 
Some folks just need to be, have, feel MORE than everyone else.... More happy, more sad, more wealthy, more poor, more healthy, more sick. I had a college friend who was like this. If I was in pain, his pain was greater ("you think you have pain? Why my back requires I take morphine three times a day")
If I got an acting role I had sought, he was going to star in a movie. If i found ten bucks, he found a hundred. You get the idea. I tried to change it through heart-to-heart talks, and I tried to live with it, but I was pissed off all the time. I dropped him many years ago and haven't communicated for 30 years. Sad, but inevitable. I still miss him for some reason.

Anyone has information on Rock in San Diego. I would like to hire him
 
https://www.massagem4m.com/ca/san-diego/16499/

He's certainly the forum's "sweeet heart", in a masculine way of course...

Lol. YEAH BABY!!!
 
Thanks Marylander!!!
 
Greatly appreciate the exposure.