BillyMan

This thread is three years old and closed

but I'd like to revive it.  Some of the rules in the thread (only on work trips, one-and-done, don't fall in love) were mentioned in Dany Levy's movie "Good Grief."

Background: Hubby of 20 years and I never discussed rules, but our relationship was open: we had three-ways with a few escorts, and independently hired masseurs and escorts.  Then, on a trip to Florida, we visited LeBoy and hubby connects with one of the dancers.  Before I know it, they are visiting each other twice a month, and then the dancer moved closer to us in NY/NJ.  After getting over the initial hurt, I have come to accept the situation.  Hubby seems happy and takes good care of me and family (and his boyfriend); I am free to have fun outside the marriage.  I'm not ready for divorce yet; too many financial connections (and kids). 

One friend told me to accept that I'm in a polyamorous relationship, except that I don't have a romantic relationship with anyone else ... right now.  That might change soon.  So now I ask: how are the rules different for open vs. polyamorous relationships?

NOT Alvaro Ros Tor.  Private message if you want details.

Travling solo.  Happy to meet others for dining, dancing, exploring. Send me a private message if interested.

I thought "Good Grief" was sweet but unsatisfying.  The writer could have used more feedback on the script.

Although it was somewhat clear what Dan Levy's character's issues were, that was not the case of his two friends.   

And while we saw a bit of how Levy's character, Marc, resolved his issues, we did not see how his two friends struggled with theirs and grew.  They just showed up at the end as better off.

(Also not happy that Marc's man in Paris, Theo, seemed to have been discarded.)

Questions for fellow introverts:

- What are your strategies for connecting with others at gay bars (other than staring at them if they catch your fancy)?

- Does your strategy differ with your intention: hooking up vs. developing friendships?

- Is it easier to connect in settings where the intention is more obvious (sex parties, Meetup groups, etc.)?

Thanks, and happy new year!

Enjoyed my 75-minute massage with Shane.  His strokes were not rushed but very intentional and varied.  He is well-trained and skilled.

Pressure was moderately strong as requested.  When he applied oil, it was not excessive; I was not super-greasy afterwards.  Lots of stretching was included.  

Conversation was polite and pleasant ... not too much at all.  All in all, a great experience.  One of my most satisfying.  Will repeat.

You can search this site using the numbers at the end of the URL.

Of those listed, I highly recommend 1881 (Billy).  PM if you want more details.

On 6/29/2022 at 1:31 PM, Kody S said:

Yes!  Try Stelly!  He is very good and will not disappoint.

https://rentmasseur.com/Stelly

I have to second that nomination.  Stelly is very friendly and skilled.  Great mix of therapeutic and relaxing/sensuous.

https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/20502/

My experience is limited, but I think massage places in the Philippines are not at the same level of class and cleanliness as those in Thailand, Taiwan, etc.

That said, this gentleman makes lots of Youtube videos in which he visits different spas in the Philippines and receives different kinds of treatments, including very sensual massages.  He's enjoying the royal treatment each time.

https://www.youtube.com/@MARKALVEETVMasaheKing

Chris.

Recommend Michael

4 hours ago, nycman said:

I used to go there on frequent trips to Puerto Rico. I liked it a lot.
Just the right amount to "dirty”. Reminded me of NYC East Village
dive bars in the early 90’s. Fun and a little sleazy. Everyone was
very friendly. 

Like any dive bar it could be very hit or miss and trying to figure out
when the "right time" to be there isn’t very easy to do. I say stop 
by and see if it’s the right scene for you. At most, the cover was like $5,
so there’s not much to lose. I just wouldn’t plan an entire evening 
around it, because it could easily be a bust. 

Having said all that, I haven’t been to SX since the pandemic started. I was 
in PR a year or so ago and PR was a fucking mess. I’m pretty sure SX was
still closed then. I just know I didn’t visit SX on that trip. The neighborhood
is a little rough, and like I said PR in general didn’t feel very safe at the time 
so I didn’t venture off the property. Hell, even on property at a 5 star hotel
(where I was a regular for years) was sketchy as fuck. 

I’m sure things are starting to "normalize" but just do your homework, 
and be careful. 

Thank you!

6 hours ago, Buff Daddy said:

Hi Billy Man. Where are you staying?. I haven't been to San Juan in years. I use to stay at the Atlantic Beach Hotel on condado Beach. 

Sheraton by the Convention Center ... but someone else is paying for that!

Visiting in March.  Any feedback on the go-go boys there?

14 hours ago, newdad said:

FDA and CDC doesn't approve it, but various organizations do worldwide. CDC isn’t the sole and final word on things. 2-1-1 is backed by evidence and is endorsed by the French, Australian, and Canadian national health organizations, as well as the World Health Organization, International AIDS Society, the European AIDS Clinical Society, the British HIV Association, among others. In the US, the health departments of San Francisco and New York City approve of it.

Has the evidence expanded to more than one study yet?

20 hours ago, Dr.Daddy said:

Do people have PV hotel recommendations? We have a group of 8-12 going in May for a bachelor party… we don’t want to get one big place so that people can have fun/guests in their rooms as they please but be able to meetup for fun and shenanigans on the regular. We’ve been thinking a smaller hotel or bed and breakfast rather than a large house/AirBNB…. But I’m open to suggestions as I’ve never been! Thx in advance for any help ❤️

Hotel Mercurio

My two most enjoyable massages this year were with:

Drew in Tampa https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/34094/

Ross in Honolulu https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/36027/

Both were friendly and had great technique. 

https://rentmasseur.com/MichaelDavid

Any feedback?  Please message me.  Thank you.

https://www.facebook.com/MalemassageinPV

2 hours ago, SirBillybob said:

First time ever, on Friday at Campus, noticed a female evidently getting a dance in the typical cluster of previously men-only private cubicles behind the DJ, as opposed to the cubicles behind the movable back-up bar curtain where I believe these typically took place for women on former Ladies Night Sundays.

Also a customer with his hands groping his pet rodent face etc then shaking hands with others including dancers, as well as handling the slot machines. Zoonosis disease potential much? This would not have struck me prior to SARS-CoV-2 and Monkeypox here. 

Pet rodent?

3 hours ago, kahuna12345 said:

Does anyone have details on what exactly goes down at the Casa Cupula's naked/men-only parties? They advertise an Adam and Steve party with "hot games" and a "stripper show." Would love to hear how interactive the dancers get. 

When I attended, the "hot game" was a contest among four guests: who was best at deep-throating a banana?

Strippers were about as interactive as they would be in the open areas in a stripper bar.  You tip, you get a little more attention. 

Not sure if there opportunities for private lap dances ... I left before the party ended.

Visiting for the first time March 15-20.  If anyone there wants to meet to hang out, grab a bite, exchange notes, etc., feel free to message me.

I would have to agree with JFL. Great experience with Drew.

7 hours ago, DutchDork said:

I'm surprised that the events are still pushing through despite the rise of omicron in the city. And I'm still tempted to go! It would be my first time. 

So how much do you have to pay for a lap dance? And is it in a private room?

The room is in the back, where any number of dancers are entertaining clients.  Not a private room.

$20 per song, although I suggest you use the timer on your smartphone and have the dancer agree to $20 every four minutes.  Otherwise, if you start mid-song, or have a short song, you might not get your money's worth.