natmas02

Do you know what hiatus means? I never said he left escorting. His m4rn ad was down for several months and he was not advertising.

https://rent.men/TristanGaul After a long hiatus from advertising, he's back in the DC area. One of the best bottoms with an awesome body to boot.

I agree with you up to a point. I think that the escort could have just said "I apologize for not replying back to your texts, but I've been having trouble with a high number of strange communications the past few days and I am currently not using texting. Would you like to set up a meet? I can communicate via email" to get the point across without going into venting. Venting about other clients or issues with booking other clients is a big faux pas if the escort is actually talking to a serious client. Most clients don't want to hear about other clients. But I can appreciate the honesty. And his venting was in a respectful manner. I think in this situation it's just poor communication skills on both the client and escort lol.

You got a point, but I don't think learning about each other personally is a downside (unless the escort is a hot mess in his personal life or if the client starts developing romantic feelings) and like everything, it varies client to client. Escorting is about connections after all - a lot of just want the sexual connection but there's also the whole "boyfriend experience" that a lot of us hire for both sex and emotional connection with another person as well. I think at some point in having a regular you're going to end up having to talk about your real life after a period of time, you can only shoot the shit and talk about mundane stuff for so long before it gets even more mechanical.

@KeepItReal I had a bad situation with a regular who became extremely entitled. We started off great and then he would ask for money in advance to help pay for bills, etc as he stopped advertising and would put it towards our future time and then unfortunately he took advantage of me and I got burned. It was a very expensive lesson learned for me - at the end of the day, we can enjoy each other's company all we want but it's still a business transaction.

So at this point, I say you are 100% justified in not hiring him and that he's not for you. The only times an escort should vent to clients about other clients or business outside of your agreement is if you specifically ask him. I can appreciate that he gave you a true explanation of his behavior in the follow-up, but that's about it.

So notice how in my posts I didn't knock on @boldyoungone's needs to have his questions answered. I'm disagreeing on his views on why he didn't get what he wanted in the first place. I suggested that if he confirmed a time, he would have gotten his answers. Reading is fundamental. And yes, people can ascertain views on someone's personality by how they post their personal situations and how they handled it and also post how they felt about the situation, even it's online. It doesn't require expertise. Just a little comprehension.

This whole forum is based on judgements on opinion and escorts/clients. And believe it or not, you can tell a lot about a person on how they treat other people and how they handle situations that they don't like.

let's not divert into strawman arguments here. The details in hiring an escort =/= going to a bar/restaurant. Or buying a car. Customer Service is essential in this business, yes, but let's not act like there isn't any weird stuff that happens during the hiring process that baristas and waiters have to deal with.

glad we can agree on something. but seriously, back to my main point - if you figured out your schedule first and THEN asked "Hey, I have free time on Tuesday at 8PM and I'd like to see you for an hour. Can I ask you a few questions about what to expect during our appointment?" you would have gotten what you wanted.

Sure, there's certainly no ego or entitlement in those comments. What about showing empathy for the escort who just doesn't want to engage further with a client who doesn't even know he can book a time? You made this post asking for people's opinions. I'm certainly being direct on our disagreement, but it's pretty obvious you been made up your mind about how you went about this situation, so why bother making this post in the first place?

Over. Dramatic. You're entitled to hire how you want to hire, but keeping your ego in check will help you have a better time in hiring escorts. The escort said something you didn't want to hear, but he did it in a very respectful manner. There's really not an issue with his tone. There really isn't. And in your original post you stated that you are a paying client. You're not. So let's keep the perspective in check. The escort's time is just as valuable as yours. Why entertain a potential client who just said he doesn't even know if he has the time to set up an appointment? How about you see if you even have the time first and then ask him your questions? I guarantee if you figured out your schedule first and THEN asked "Hey, I have free time on Tuesday at 8PM and I'd like to see you for an hour. Can I ask you a few questions about what to expect during our appointment?" you would have gotten what you wanted.

I have 2 escorts that I'm a regular with - one of them I've been seeing for 3 years now and I do one overnight a week. The other one I see for a multi-hour appointment once or twice a month. It guarantees that our time is well spent and I know what I'm getting into. The weird thing is that these guys are have girlfriends,etc which is can be a huge negative for many, but for me it keeps my brain and feelings in check with these 2 so I'm able to keep viewing these relationships as FWB then catching feelings. I hire new guys if I'm traveling but it does get a little tiring having to do the research on here and the initial nervousness of seeing a new guy.

okay - but the client doesn't even know if he can meet up with the escort based on his schedule. This isn't a confirmed appointment. If the client ends up having the time to see the escort, and then confirms a time - then I'm certain this escort would be happy to answer questions about compatibility. If the escort replies back and it's good to go, then no harm done/no time wasted. If the escort and client find that they are not compatible, then cancel the appointment. If anything the client is wasting his time by not even being sure if he can meet up with the escort at all. You guys are being so overdramatic and nit-picky about this.

"Please limit messaging me until you are 100% sure you can meet. Otherwise we'll end up chatting a lot and never meeting. I hope you understand ;-)" I really don't see how this message is offending a lot of you guys, but ok. You guys are making it seem the text is the equivalent of "fuck you, don't waste my time with your texts". It really isn't.

well the thing is - you're not a confirmed client. And you're not a paying client yet. The tone of the escort's message was actually very polite while being firm about his rules. I'd say confirm the appointment if you are able to/want to and then ask him the questions. If he refuses to answer your questions after you confirm, then yeah that's off putting and I would take caution in seeing him. If he answers your questions, then I don't see anything wrong with what he's doing.

oh he's gay. lol. I saw Den once and I didn't have a bad experience (not a great one either) and he talked to me for a bit. definitely not straight. The coldness is a mix of him being Eastern European/he knows he's very attractive so a lot of clients will give him a pass for mediocre service. He does have an amazing body (one of the better ones I've seen) and he knows it.

https://www.masseurfinder.com/members/stan.shtml No reviews, couldn't find anything in search. anyone have any experience with this guy?

There's actually a lot of profiles that allude to it. I've seen plenty of escorts say that they do personal training on their ads, but it's all about boundaries. I think the main worry is that escorts who PT think clients will want to flirt/mess around in the gym rather than actually train.

https://www.masseurfinder.com/members/sweetmasseur.shtml Phillip is the best. He was in DC for a few days last year and I saw him every day.

I stopped trying to do privates with Adonis dancers. Especially the regular NY ones - the dancers tend to be a lot more shadier than the LA guys in terms of privates. There's one dancer in NY that was my favorite - we did a lot in those semi-private crappy booths in Fairytale but when it came to privates he did a total 180 on what was agreed upon. It was weird.

He answered my text once and he immediately asked for a face pic. I'm assuming he's either picky about his clients or he only escorts when he needs it. He's pretty easy to find on social media.

I texted him a few months ago about his MF ad (his RM ad is gone it seems - but I remember a flag was that he PNPs) and I asked him about what to expect and he just texted back "depends on if I find you attractive or not" - which I appreciate the honesty. Some mine not.

https://www.masseurfinder.com/members/sweetmasseur.shtml Philip did a great job when he was traveling in DC. He did a great erotic massage (don't think he's licensed but he did a great therapeutic massage in the beginning and then slowly transitioned into fun).

I made my appointment with him the first night he's in DC. He's been quite nice over text with my questions and gives full service in terms of escorting (no bottoming though). I'll report back after I see him.