Totally agree. But can't I, from my perspective and reflecting on my reaction/feelings, still label it a "slap in the face?" Aren't I free to do that? They're not mutually exclusive. If you're at a country club making your first appearance (my first thread), where they're free to ask you to leave for any reason, if they actually did so - if you thought you were acting appropriately, and even if in actuality you weren't, according to their bylaws - couldn't you see how it might feel like a slap in the face? "I broke the rules as interpreted by one of the employees - or even the manager. I didn't realized I'd broken the rules. Now they've penalized me in front of everyone. It hurts regardless of whether I broke the rules - it feels like a slap in the face."
I've learned from it, that the TOS will be interpreted as those delegated to enforce them wish to interpret them, but I still feel hurt. Not unreasonable to feel that way, right?