Your requests aren't unusual, I'm surprised you only think 10% of those you hired "gave you what you wanted" and others got fucked by you because that's what they wanted.
Are you still in touch with them? Have you thought about sticking to those 2 guys.
Silence is consent. They sat on your cock without your consent? That could be considered rape in some states even if you didn't say "no" or "stop".
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