Frequentflier

You've come to the right decision. And I'm happy for you that you've got plenty of money. Perhaps your "friend" (ok, he's not) could get a job and some of the money you'd normally give him could get added to your regular contributions to animal rescue organizations and shelters. Plus there are other young and attractive men eager to spend time with you so spreading your love around can be mutually rewarding.

I doubt any advertiser would use outdated photos or those belonging to someone else.

I'm allergic to ink

The guard in this photo looks stunning. Why can't we see anyone near as good looking on RM? Must be all the new Republican created six figure jobs.

I wonder if many advertisers are 31 or older but fib and put 29 in case a lot of men use 30 as the upper limit when searching?

I've never even tried 420 but if the midterms don't go well I'm adding a line item to my budget! I live in a state that allows recreational use.

I once had a guy tell me he makes over $80,000 a year (tax free - I mean - tax evading). I suspect that (if true) plus they perhaps quickly figure out who is serious and who isn't makes the activity attractive.

And the current Dustin McNeer has more ink on him than my print newspaper. Far more than we see in the ad photos. If real, pre over inked, Dustin was escorting I think there would be a flood of men flying to LA to meet with him.

Right. If Joe Davidson showed up naked at my bedroom door I'd toss him to the street. Ok, that toss would come weeks later after he was exhausted and only after he promised to return 24 hours later.

Unicorn, I don't know anything about you but I'm glad you didn't act on your suicidal feelings. I don't think loved ones get over someones suicide and they are as tough, maybe worse, than the loss of someone from natural causes or an accident. Wouldn't loved ones be torn up about whether they missed something they could have helped the person with? If someone dies from Cancer their loved ones don't wonder if they could have cured them. I agree that if someone has a spouse and/or children who are dependent on them they should, if possible, leave them financial resources. I'm not saying you're forgetting this but happiness and taking care of loved ones isn't just about money, right? Sure we need the basics but people prefer those they care about alive over money, right? If a family of 6 is living in a 1,200 square foot house with used cars, 5 year old iPhones, kids with hand me down clothing, but they laugh, enjoy doing things together, look out for each other, have rescued a dog from a shelter that's showered with love and have at least enough for utilities/other necessities they can be happy (and there are many families like this). They need each other more than money for happiness, right? So if someone in that family took their own life, wouldn't the remaining members be torn up with grief, anger at the person voluntarily bringing pain/unhappiness to the family as well as having to live with the whole in their heart that never fills? If someone is mentally ill they're not likely thinking about any of these rational thoughts so we have to excuse them, don't we?

I think many of us know readily or deep inside that money and fame doesn't equal happiness. The money part can be particularly tough, even if we have the basics or more. Our society values money/cars/houses/etc. to a degree that many financially comfortable people look at those who appear to have more and feel lacking. We're bombarded with messages that we haven't saved enough for retirement (I've known certified financial planners and investment advisers that basically say you need $1 million more than however many millions you already have), Social Security & Medicare won't exist for us, health care costs will increase how much you need to have. Lack of basic necessities (shelter, food, clothing, human relationships) of course prohibits happiness. The sh*tstorm in DC and elsewhere in politics along with the never ending talking heads on the 24/7 news cycle (and gosh forbid - Twitter) can compound the aforementioned concerns we're told we have to be focused on makes things worse. Maybe the answer is to write down what really brings happiness. Perhaps its having the basics, spending time with good friends and/or family, hobbies (reading, painting, gardening, etc.), your pet, etc. and spend free time in those areas. Whatever makes you happy, prioritize. Have a bucket list? I'm assuming this really came from Heath Ledger, if not its still good.

Losing a loved one is always painful. I do not know how a parent who loses a child can even function. Those that do (I think) are stronger than I could ever be. I've known two sets of parents that have lost a child (one lost two) and I think I can see the pain in their eyes every time I see them even though on the outside they look normal.

Really? Most likely you'd miss them but they wouldn't miss you. You don't like where you live, move. There's a lot of "stupid" in other states too.

Dumb move by this handsome young man. Unfortunately internet searches will brand him for a long time when potential employers and others do an online search for him. Don't judge me poorly but if he'd exposed himself to me I would have asked his age to be sure he was legal and then asked him out to dinner.

The only thing I'd bitch about a person I knew who committed suicide is that he or she didn't reach out to me for help of any kind - listening, finding a professional to assist, $, whatever. Something I'm working on is making sure that those I care about know that I'm there for them no matter what - its a bit awkward to just say that but I'll get the point across. Two people I knew have committed suicide (both with handguns). I wasn't close to either at the time of their death. Neither for physical health reasons. Both were facing financial problems. One had lost millions, faced legal jeopardy and no effort by his family and friends could get him through those issues. The second person had financial issues but listening to his family not so extreme that they weren't manageable, possibly with bankruptcy. I've read the online comments from friends of one of those people. Very touching to see how he impacted them and the comments taught me that the way I feel towards people I care about aren't expressed by me to them (as I suspect was the case with his friends and family). Don't wait until someone is gone to express how you feel about them. Maybe expressing your thoughts while they're alive will avoid them taking a final irreversible step. Mental illness is complicated and the US does a crappy job of providing affordable resources and treatment. I used to believe that only people facing catastrophic physical health issues had a "right" to take their life and that the rest of us would be "wrong" to do so. I was wrong then. I'm not an expert or professional on mental or physical illnesses and I admit it. Most people are dealing with problems we know nothing about. Be good to each other, particularly the stranger and those who obviously have fewer apparent blessings in life than we do. Smile at someone, buy a stranger a cup of coffee, say hello to every neighbor you see, wave at a passing car in your neighborhood, drive courteously, send some $ to a relative who might be struggling if that wouldn't be too awkward (easy to find a holiday to say its relates to), donate monthly to a list of animal welfare organizations (ok, that last one is selfish because it makes me feel good). What is the worst result? Making someone else's day brighter, even if only for a moment.

I'll ask them if they're wearing real fur. If they say "yes", I'll ask them if they can wait about 30 minutes while I go buy red paint. If they say "no", I'll ask them if they want to get a beer at the local bar.

PETA is fantastic. I actually don't pay much if any attention to it but saying you "hate" it and "they're trash"? Any organization that advocates for animals beats any others out there (ok, those who help fight cancer -of which I'm a survivor - and those who suffer from it are good as well). Were I King for a day, all hunters and poachers would be skinned alive - pay per view perhaps with proceeds going to animal welfare organizations. Alternatively, people who mistreat animals should have an air conditioner fall on their heads as in this commercial. I'm militant when it comes to mistreatment of any animal. How do I feel about dog meat farms in South Korea - those people should get worse than skinned alive and I volunteer to administer the punishment and end of life. And yes, if I see anyone wearing fur I'm going to somehow find red paint to throw on them. Watch a video on slaughterhouses or how fur is obtained for clothing. Unbelievable to what degree "humans" can be so evil. I haven't eaten meat in nearly 10 years. There's so much ignorance out there about people needing to eat meat for protein or whatever. Rubbish.

I think that was a good move. We have a monitored alarm system (includes smoke/fire) as well as cameras covering the interior and outside. Big piece of mind. The cameras aren't integrated with the alarm that's monitored - which (I think) would be creepy as a part of my mind would assume someone was watching. I like being alerted if there is activity or being able to check whenever I want. Canary is one set of cameras and they've upgraded the software to identify a person versus (for example) a pet. Security systems, cameras, etc. have become very cost effective. The cost is minor compared to the deductible on our policies, the inconvenience of theft and/or relying on a neighbor to call in a fire. As as you said, set up is easy. I think everyone should have a system - and no, you don't need to constantly upgrade the equipment.

Did you move into Trump tower? That process sounds ridiculous. Can you meet a guest in front of the building and get them upstairs without their ID being swiped into an electronic record?

. Welcome. The world needs more handsome (I'm assuming you are), in shape, grammar and good spelling capable young men who are up for being companions

I shy away from guys that have gotten so big they're eligible for their own zip code. Or those with so much ink looking at their tattoos is like reading a newspaper or looking at a map.

Haha. Heck no, that's not inviting. If it were me, I wouldn't respond to him. Sort of reminds me of the wording in Jockboy Jackson's ad. While I have never negotiated rates with someone his wording is a turnoff to me. Who wants to hang out with someone who comes across as hostile, miserable, etc!?!

I somewhat admire people who have stayed with a flip phone. I like the compact size of them but have a smartphone for the convenience of what it offers. I used to upgrade regularly but I'll wait to shell out nearly $1,000 for the latest iPhone until I absolutely have to. Yes, I like iPhones but their pricing has become insulting. Does Apple not realize they are a public company whose profitability and cash hoard is easily seen? Not to mention of course the amount of US taxes Apple evaded for many years. Maybe the latest Blackberry next time - nice look to them. I have cut the leash with my smartphone though and if I'm at dinner with someone who keeps looking at theirs, the dinner will end early (I ask them first though to please put their phone away). A not for profit I'm involved in has some ancient people in it. One asked me to call her if I'm going to send an email she needs to see because she rarely looks at her account - nope - not going to do that. I have to keep reminding some people that they shouldn't expect a response to an email they send anyone in less than 24 hours. If something is important - call the person! A friend of mine complained because there was a water leak in the basement of her condo building and she was annoyed the property management company hadn't responded to her email of one hour ago! Really? I think sports teams eliminating paper tickets is one way to reduce scalping. I don't know how scalpers sell if tickets are primarily electronic. I hadn't been to a baseball game in a while and was going to skip out of work early one weekday. A not so great seat was $70. I can afford that and more but really? I skipped the game and added another $100 to one of the animal rescue charities I donate to every month.

One of our local colleges used to have a fund raising car wash each year. Complete with shirtless guys. They raised a ton of money. I don't know why they stopped. It should be a requirement for graduation

In addition to reading 2 newspapers a day (NYTimes and Financial Times), I'm reading at least 250 pages of a book each week. I don't miss the time I used to spend on the internet or TV.