BenjaminNicholas

In society, it's becoming increasingly more difficult to turn people down in a way that doesn't seemingly shatter their entire existence. Bottom line, a 'thanks, but not my type' or 'not interested, thanks' should work. If someone pushes past that and tries to make it an issue (as many now do), block them (if on an app) or just walk away. You do yourself no favors being wrangled into someone projecting their own insecurities in a feeble attempt to feel stronger or make a statement.

Human contact is healthy and normal. COVID is turning an already socially gun-shy young generation into something even more awkward. Conditioning yourself to only porn is problematic over time, especially when attempting to find a relationship or trying to have a normal, functional, healthy sex life. I have had several clients who have come to me to help them break the habit and get back into the swing of things in a non-judgemental, low-stress sexual environment. Jacking off is just one tool in the box, not the entire box.

This. 100%. People are people. They make snap judgements and split-second attitude changes when it comes to sex. Just be happy you got laid. Keep it simple.

Absolutely correct mister. I'm sure they operate at slim profit margins to begin with. Of all the 'gay' travel operators, I prefer R Family Vacations. The owners are great people and the itens are actually interesting.

Late to the table on this series, but just finished it on a long-haul flight. You can find it on HBO Max. Really enjoyed this show. The ensemble casting was great. I liked that they took immediate chances with the characters, knowing full-well that this wasn't going to be an ongoing series. While I appreciated they included all mixes of race and sexualities on this show, they didn't pander and made it feel very natural... Very real. The show had touches of Black Mirror in it, which I loved. As with reality, it showed the best and worst of the people involved. Neither black, nor white, but shades of gray. Some of the plot felt a little silly towards the end and like others here said, it was a little rushed to finish up.

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In essence, we're comparing a hookup/dating app to paid services. It's an odd/slippery slope. I'd advise for guys not to confuse the two: Just because he's on an app, doesn't mean he's into you. Never take it personally. I always encourage taking your shot, but also advise to adjust expectations when you're not in hiring mode.

I will add this... Don't expect anything Tucson. It's an entirely different vibe: Not grown-in feeling, an oddly modern barn, perhaps even a little cold. I like the aesthetic from a personal relaxation standpoint, but it will turn a lot of people off who are used to the 'standard' Miraval feeling.

Not 'gay,' but the new Miraval in the Berkshires is beautiful. I was there last week and while they are still working out the opening kinks, it's a really nice spot to spend a few days. https://www.miravalberkshires.com/

I've done a few Atlantis/RSVP trips. Not my scene. Not my style. The other issue already mentioned are the ridiculously inflated prices for what is an, at best, mid-level resort in Punta Cana. I've never been to a Club Med that wowed me. They're all in need of repair and the service standard is usually kinda meh. I'd have liked to see Atlantis spend some money and take over the new Hyatt Zilara property in Cap Cana. While it was not quite finished when I went last year around Thanksgiving, it looked like it was going to be a real stunner when finished.

As I was reading this, I was also humming Sinatra's My Way. It was damned near perfect.

Agreed. When the wind comes sweepin' down the plain, it gets a little dicey.

I've always found it strange that so many gay bars look like windowless shacks. They're relics from the days of us needing to hide out, I suppose. Gay clubs aren't really 'gay' anymore thanks to social acclimation, bachelorette parties and RuPaul having made drag a very normal, TV-friendly thing. Decades ago we fought hard for this and now we have it. We're just like everyone else.

I'll take overdeveloped legs over what most gay men have today... No legs at all. Just upper body.

Lately, my biggest problem with RM messenger is that some escorts are using it like Grindr, sending random, 'sup' type of notes that are basically a waste of time. Even a very professional auto-reply doesn't deter these idiots from attempting to continue a conversation. It's unreal. Luckily, RM still allows us to block people who can't figure simple things out.

I see what you did there. Bravo, sir.

I'm well-established in this business. I don't really give a shit if people want to make up stories. I've got bigger fish to fry. A wise Hooboy used to say to me, pick your battles. And as always, Slater's response above mine is absolutely pitch-perfect

This is the most savvy reply here. It's when people don't talk about you that you need to worry.

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Admins posted a fantastic thread on this years back. Clearly, some things never change THERE BE TROLLS!

Learn to communicate effectively and people here won't call you out. Just remember: If you act like a child, I'm going to treat you like one.

I really need to learn to use the block function more frequently.

Rereading my reply, I was a little harsh. I should have been nicer. It's becoming all-too-clear I haven't had my second cup of coffee today.

Are you serious? This thread is 20 years old. You can't be this foolish.