Tom C. Sinclair

The views can both be right. Life is not black and white. Not every escort behaves the same, nor every client. Some will charge more because they don’t want to do it. Some will charge more of the extra effort. Neither precludes the other.

Agreed. But if someone doesn’t offer something because it’s out of their wheelhouse but will for an upcharge, I’m inclined to think you’re paying a premium price for something someone would rather not do, not a premium service. That’s my point. You’re paying more to compensate because it’s not what the guy wants to do, not that it’s premium.

I call that opportunism. And it rubs me wrong. Although bottoming when you don’t typically bottom could be easier to pull off than topping when you don’t typically top. I’m just very against engaging something that’s not your strength for “the right price.” It feels like an Audi price paid for a Nissan performance. It might get the job done, but’s it’s robbery toward the customer.

I wish providers would just be direct and say no. Don’t give a sub-optimal service if you know you will. Likely because it’s out of your specialty or strengths you’re charging more too. So now the client is paying more something of lesser quality. Don’t do that. Just say you don’t provide what’s asking. If you know where to direct him for what he’s asking, great. But don’t take his money for something you already know isn’t going to be the best he can get from you.

I rarely have trouble eating out and asking for substitutions to menu items. If it’s not an option, I can lump it if I really want the entree. I don’t know that that would make me leave a restaurant, though, if I were already seated. I would potentially decide not to hire outright if an escort seemed unwilling to accommodate some sort of special request. It really comes down to what the ask is and a whole host of things. Although the escorting-restaurant analogy is good.

@savantsav, communicate is all I can say. Although I would also say that length of time for an overnight is also on the short end. I typically hire for multiple days if the guy is staying overnight though. I don’t like worrying about time when it’s an overnight and it seems that many guys just want to reduce their hourly rate and go multiples of that per the number of hours they’re with you if you do only one night. If you do multiple nights, it becomes less stressful as far as the clock becomes everyone realizes this is an extended duration. I hate time haggling as much as money haggling. Both seem opportunistic. This is supposed to be enjoyable, not cutthroat.

@glutes, yours isn’t a carbon copy of mine, but that experience tracks.

They were on target.

@coriolis888, I concur. Ask a provider what we’re paying for. I recall the days of those long-ass disclaimers escorts put on their profiles about providing time, not sex. My original comment was snark. We are most definitely paying for sex.

Then we should stop saying that’s what we’re doing. 99% of the issues around hiring is because we don’t say what we mean. For some unknown reason.

I know I’m ugly and unattractive. Hence why I don’t expect dating to work and pay good-looking guys to pretend to like me. I’m fortunate that though ugly, I’m financially able.

Overnight means…overnight. What is all this ambiguity we seem to have about simple words. In any other context where someone would say “I’m going to stay overnight in London on my way to Budapest,” or “I have an overnight flight,” we know exactly what that means. It’s overnight. From tonight to tomorrow. This isn’t hard, people. An overnight for me has always meant the guy stays, sleeps with me, and we part ways the next day. It’s really straightforward.

@BuzzLiteQueer, detached. More concerned about the money than delivering. I always put the money out. He darted like a magnet to iron to it. Rushed too. Felt very unsatisfying.

Avoid. Good lucks don’t make for a good time. Does not deliver for you. All about him. Do not recommend one bit

I have. A dreadful experience.

And also Kimberly. She will often send me her selfie. She’s a porcelain white skinned Asian girl who wears pastel bikinis. She often accidentally texts me but assures me I seem nice and wants to know if we maybe can be friends.

Maria is always texting me with a special offer to make $1000 a day. She wants to know if I’m interested 😂

@CuriousByNature, I suppose I left out a thought. Often that’s how those exchanges begin. After reaching out to a good-looking, younger Hispanic man with a relatively thoughtful opening message, text or RM, the first response is often “Hi” with no followup. It’s not exclusive to Hispanic men, but it feels like it happens more with them. It’s definitely a thing with younger guys. Guys over 30 are more engaging, irrespective of ethnicity. Some young guys too, but they are much more apt to just say “Hi.” Perhaps that’s because of life experience and also the need to be engaging in order to secure a hookup because nubility is no longer in the running like it had been in his 20s. I have no science to back that up though.

This will probably sound racist, but I have found ghosting more prevalent among Hispanic men than others. Especially Hispanic men listed as under 30.

Sounds more or less fruitless to me. I can be cynical but I bet if you try to pursue something with him it will end up going nowhere but you getting frustrated.

It did. Hence why I said I forgot my mantra. 👍🏻

It’s easiest to deal with people as a duck deals with water on its back.

I forgot my mantra. Duck duck!

@ApexNomad– An unscientific observation I’m making in my very short experience here as a member is there seems to be an anaphylactic response to broaching a topic more than once. Some guys seem more concerned about pointing out that a topic has been discussed before than actually discussing the topic. Apologies for causing annoyance. It demotivates me from wanting to contribute if people are going to so strictly police. I thought joining would be fun. In the past week I have been told, effectively, what I posted about was discussed before, suggesting I shouldn’t have posted or there was nothing else to say. I don’t want to cause frustration and I don’t like getting called out. The solution to that is for me to withdraw. Again, apologies for running afoul.

I don’t pay attention to Canada news (apart from the trade war) and Australia is largely off my radar. My personal experience has been none in the past several months. Anecdotally. That’s all. Why hazmat suits? What could possibly be controversial here?