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Aren’t there two platforms for which posters insist on using the same abbreviation?

I met with him today, his pictures are very accurate and he is a really nice guy!, was definitely trying to make me feel comfortable and wanted to make sure I was happy, I met with him for some Muscle Worship, wrestling and a massage and he was great at all! 

Will top but is a bottom at heart. Super nice, kinda shy like you!
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In some 7 years I haven’t experienced what you describe as happening to you on the board. You certainly don’t need to apologize for anything. I think it may be partly an artefact of there being enthusiastic long term lifers here with the desire to point out relevant archival material for context. If you feel criticized that may have sometimes been the endgame but you can ignore it. Much of the content is GroundhogDay-grade, so you aren’t being centered out. Bring up fees and you are a star.
That said, an opener that reflects musings may get less discussion traction. Frankly, it came across, however unintentionally, as an entry that might prompt ‘been there done that’ among the rank and file, given the large volume of past related material and the dearth of new material on Mpox. But I’m interested in the subject, track it epidemiologically, and tried to add something new.
This place is open to anybody but not for everybody. Give it a chance … if you want.

One suggestion: bring back the Fleshjack Challenge. And more frequently too instead of once/twice a year. Stock Bar needs events like these to attract repeat visitors.

some Thermas tips 
1. go early - before it gets crowded.  Thermas is big and spread across 3 floors - it can be disorienting to arrive when filed with providers & clients. Plus - it’s competitive & the locals/regulars will always go for their favorites who are usually the most in-demand. Arriving when it’s crowded puts you at a disadvantage. I like to arrive at opening about 3p and watch as providers/ clients arrive. 
2. get familiar with the layout - because it is confusing.  I’d recommend a complete walk-through of the entire place at least once to take note of spa facilities & bar (first floor), all showers (first & second floors).  And the one private bathroom on first floor with a douche - the key to that bathroom is at reception and depending on the attendant, they may require you buy an attachment or if you have your own, then a tip to get the key.  Return the key asap as there may be others waiting.
3. there will always be guys hanging around the reception area & watching the clients locker room.  the game is to snag clients in that area & before they can see the other providers.  don’t fall for it.
4. like anywhere else - be cautious if anyone offers you anything to ingest. last time I was there, a provider offered candy between sessions - upon inspection it was potent edible marijuana. there are a couple guys there routinely selling things - I’d avoid them & whatever they have.  they are obvious & likely will make an approach at some point. 
5. the free cabins are fine for 30 minutes & the staff cleans continuously- but that doesn’t mean you’ll always get a fresh cabin.  If you want to make sure it’s clean - then private rooms. Again - getting there early ensures access to private rooms - when it’s crowded you may wait and sometimes they don’t open up at all. 
6. you dont need ID to get in - leave passports & valuables in your hotel safe.  I carry a set amount of cash, one credit card & phone.  I don’t leave those items in the locker - I carry them with me in a small pack at all times.  you need cash for the guys - everything else can be on credit card.
7. bring your own condoms & lube.  the condoms provided are the most basic & the lube is almost nonexistent.  the guys appreciate good quality condoms & it makes a big difference.  I like to bring my own antibacterial soap along too - just to be extra careful between sessions.  availability of soap in the showers is not a sure thing.
8. if smoking bothers you - avoid the area on the second floor where smokers congregate.  for people who smoke, it’s ideal place to engage the guys in a more relaxed environment.
9. don’t be afraid to say no.  you will be approached many times by guys who may not be your type.  there’s not pressure per se, but they are direct and don’t want to waste time.  they are used to no & it’s just part of the environment.  polite & firm gets the message across.  

10. you will pay for everything at the end & check your final bill carefully.  if buying drinks for providers, make sure you are clear at that time what you’re offering. an offer for a drink can easily turn into a full meal - and that’s fine if that is what you’re offering.  if spending a few hours there, the charges can add up quickly. 
11. don’t be afraid to tell the provider exactly what you want - they’re professionals and have seen it all, several times.  no reason to be embarrassed.  If there is a language barrier - use google translate or show them a video of the type of scene you want. a video is easiest way to get the clear message across & I’ve seen several clients do it.

 
 
 

Reminds me of the last time two hot Mormon boys knocked on my door, they wanted to come in and
Talk about God.
I said sure come in, but how about we practise my religion .
They said what’s that.
I said I praise god by having hot 3sums with hot Mormon missionaries, they ran down my driveway shouting we will pray for you brother.
 
j have not had a door knock since

My experience is with RMen. And I only hired once, so keep that in mind. I do a lot of looking and thinking though. Twice blocked from providers by just looking. First time, looked at a provider 2x before being blocked. The second time, after looking at a provider a dozen times. There was no communication with either. I take this kind of behavior, a red flag. And anything that indicates or states, "you're wasting my time", "time wasters".  
Any indication of easily angered is a red flag for me. I find easy going, mellow guys a real turn on! LOL.
My one hire was really great! 19 year-old blond bodybuilder, very handsome. He did indicate respectful in his bio and he was very respectful and tactful, even though English wasn't his primary language.

I've had this happen a few times. I often look at several guys in a new city right before a trip. If some see that I looked and then reach out, that's often a great way to start the conversation and get things rolling when I arrive.
Last time I went to San Diego, a guy reached out after I looked at the profile. Then messages me. Then about 30 minutes later said "F you. I don't deal with cheap a-holes anyway." Then blocked me. This all happpened while I was on the flight and had no access to internet or Rent.men.
Sometimes its really a blessing when they block on their side because they self-select out the ones that are clearly strange, unprofessional and irrational. Better to deal the professionals.