I’m so glad I came across this thread as I just recently experienced this to some degree. I also just recently joined this forum after celebrating a significant bday, getting laid off, and spending a month in another country where I knew no one and didn’t speak the language v well — just to fully disengage, decompress, take a break. While there, I hired someone who I ended up finding to be so seemingly lovely and loving, easy to be with, super sexy, etc., several times -- once for an overnite, which I’d never done before. We both quickly commented on our incredible chemistry, comfort level w each other, etc. And I could quickly tell I was “falling for him” even though I kept telling myself that the situation was what it was, even though I’m in a 20+ year relationship (and told him about it), even though we live on different continents. We texted (and sexted) a lot outside of our mtgs, so I think I got to know quite a bit about him. I won’t go into too much detail but I didn’t get to see him on my last night there as expected and found myself crying a little as I was packing to leave the next day (oy! 🙄). We are still in touch via texts and DMs. He had/has mentioned some health issues and a minor operation he needs to have (but can’t afford), and, after I left, asked if I’d like to contribute towards that. I have not and that request has of course made me question everything. So has reading this thread — lol.
I’ve only been back a few weeks, but I’d still like to hold on to the idealized version of what I experienced. I still think about him every day, and (tho I may be somewhat delusional) hope we’ll stay in touch and see each other again in the future. If not, I’ll get over it.