Every now and again I go to a gay bar, usually when I am on vacation. I enjoy people watching and checking out whatever attractive men are there.. I do not expect to pick someone up. In fact, I am fine if no one speaks to me, but usually, someone does and I will have a fun, usually superficial conversation. Certainly I find it more entertaining then heading back to the hotel after dinner. So I am old. I am okay with my looks and my life and I find an occasional night out at a bar checking out men I will never have, enjoyable. I am actually someone you should aspire to be, an old man who has seen better days and also has seen better days than 90% of the younger, fitter gay guys at that bar will ever see. When I leave the bar, almost always alone, I head back to a life I am happy to have.
I stay away from anyone in their 20s/anyone who's only been in the business a couple of years. While I like the young bucks physically, I find 30s a better combination of youth and maturity. Young enough that they aren't jaded but old enough to know the score. Been around the block a few times. Be skilled while realizing that they're not god's gift to the world. Understand that they're in a service industry. Are serious about their career and have a business model that works for both parties. Know how to communicate, make good on their commitments, and care about delivering the whole product.
