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Thanks, everyone. @Rudynate , late 40s to late 50s is my ideal age range too. I found two local surgeons in that range and have met with one already. I am generally happy with what the procedure she described. My hesitations are (1) I forgot to ask her how often she does this procedure, particularly laparoscopically. I need to give her some new MRI results, so I’ll ask when I meet with her again. (2) I wonder how well she stitches up the incisions. Rumor has it that the heavily hyped 70 y.o. surgeon stitches up incisions like a plastic surgeon, which I assume means from the inside. I’ve seen huge variation in how incision scars of all kinds look, and it appears that the southern cal surgeons care more about the cosmetic result. I’m really apprehensive about the whole thing. It could go well and improve my quality of life or it could go really badly. And I wonder if they’ll still go laparoscopic after seeing the new MRI results.Unfortunately, I don’t have much choice; the adjacent organs are already suffering. @Charlie and @newatthis , I did get referrals from doctors. My family’s GP was kind enough to ask specialists for names. @rvwnsd , sounds like you chose wisely for your mom and got a great result. I know what you mean about doctors who overpromise, particularly since they can change strategies once they’re in. @BnaC , I’ll be asleep so cold hands are fine.

I’m looking into a procedure that involves removing multiple things that are adjacent to important organs. This procedure, which is technically elective, is known for being extremely difficult, especially when done laparoscopically. As a result, my doctor has recommended that I seek out a subspecialist. I don’t care about location; I’ll fly anywhere. I’ve asked doctors I know for referrals, I’ve gone to FB groups to get opinions, and even looked at online reviews, but I have to do some of the legwork myself. I’ve already done a consult and plan to do several more. I’m willing to do this anywhere in the US. What should I look for when assessing a surgeon? Of course, more experience in the specific procedure is always better, but what are other factors one should look for? For example, should age be a factor? One surgeon I’m going to consult with is a leader in the field; he does this procedure alone all day multiple times a week. But he is 70 and will retire soon, which concerns my parents. Is the loss of hand eye coordination and manual dexterity is enough to cause problems with an exceptionally tricky surgery? Is being close to retirement an issue regardless of age? On the other end of the spectrum, doctors and some patients have expressed concern that a prominent 40 y.o. surgeon in the field is still a bit green and not as focused. I know that there are physicians, including surgeons and anesthesiologists, of all ages here. Some of you have PM’d with me over the years and helped me. I hope I’m not offending any of you; I debated whether to post this. I’m just trying to understand and would definitely like to hear your thoughts. TBH, I’m scared and frustrated by the whole thing. BTW, I’m being vague about the procedure because I hope this thread can be useful to others and in order to avoid getting too graphic.

“Jack from that North?” Apparently, someone was having fun with the CIA.

Happy birthday to my favorite spankin’ dentist!

You will but time takes longer than we’d like to heal. Hugs, Smurof.

It must feel good to be home. Being in the hospital sucks, but it sounds like you came out better on the other side. Keep taking great care of yourself, Sixty+.

Has anyone gone to a cruising site where guys routinely meet up for public sex like a video store, park? If you have, what was it like?

I’ve always liked you, rvwnsd, but you’re even better now that you’re a Pom! ?

Really? I love medium crust pizza with olives or mushrooms. Pepperoni is good but the nitrates scare me.

Her sent her a dick pic, which the Enquirer say it has. Brilliant idea.

Latbear, I definitely didn’t mean to insult men. My point is that when men feel wealthy, they are more likely to cheat. Studies consistently show that. Women cheat too, but less often and only with a higher status man than the one they have. That’s what happened with Bezos’s gf, whose husband is a Hollywood agent. For the most part, women seek status and protection for themselves and their kids. Men, on the other hand, seek variety. That’s why men are more often found at forums on escorts and picking up people for sex while women post on relationship forums. Of course, these are generalities, and as always, there are exceptions on both sides.

Could be, but it's true as @BabyBoomer mentioned. Bezos and his wife have been together for a long time, but that's usually how it goes. To his credit, he chose a woman his own age instead of a 20something. https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6575213/Amazon-CEO-Jeff-Bezos-reportedly-seeing-married-former-TV-anchor-Lauren-Sanchez.html

I give it a month before he’s out with the mistress. Bezos seemed nice, but unfortunately men are wired how they’re wired.

It’s very possible that his wife asked him to stay home during this time because she needs him. As for timing, what are your practice’s policy about paid and unpaid FML? A few companies offer over five months leave to longtime employees.

It's a BBC drama (available on Amazon) about the famous sex scandal that rocked Britain forty years ago. I thoroughly enjoyed it and thought both stars did a great job in their roles. Here's the Amazon description: The shocking true story of the first British politician to stand trial for conspiracy to murder. Jeremy Thorpe (Hugh Grant), the leader of the Liberal party, has a secret he's desperate to hide. His ex-lover Norman Scott (Ben Whishaw) is putting Thorpe's brilliant political career at risk so Thorpe schemes and deceives until he realizes there's only one way to silence Scott for good.involving a good looking British MP (Hugh Grant) and a young stable hand turned male model (Ben Whithaw). The actual Jeremy Thorpe:

When I was about 5, our new neighbors invited us to a Christmas party. The youngest daughter Was really excited about what Santa was going to bring her. After we got home, I asked my parents why Santa wasnt bringing me anything. They rolled their eyes and told me. The SC fantasy was very new to me and made little to me, so I wasn’t too disappointed.

A stillbirth at 24 weeks would be extremely painful no matter what. As HotWhiteThirties said, at that point,most people feel like they’re out of the woods. It’s even worse if they’d been trying for some time and this was her first pregnancy.

Merry Christmas to all who celebrate. May you have the year you’ve been waiting for. Me? I spent Christmas Eve having a long postponed root canal. Was supposed to start at 6 but we ended up finishing at midnight.

Unfortunately, "lifestyle businesses" often attract investors and employees who like to boast. RB's management was particularly careless, but it would take a lot less error to attract LE attention today.

There’s an old adage, “One should tell a pretty girl that she’s smart and a smart girl that she’s pretty.” Your guy has been hearing that he’s beautiful all his life. He’s longing to be complimented on something else.

When you're feeling frustrated

The "search child forums" option existed in the last version too.