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I met him last week for a two hour session.. He’s very charming, beautiful in a casual male way, sexy to be with. He gave a very good massage with lots of intimacy. His life story is very compelling and he seems genuinely bisexual. A real fantasy thrill… I’m glad I live far away as he could become an expensive habit!

I have been a fan of both sites for a long time and have enjoyed many of the guys mentioned. Recent years have been slim pickings with the occasional knockout. I always want to know more about the guys and where you can read up on them on sites or blogs. Most that I can find are simple recycling of what’s already up there. Any suggestions? Wirh regard to Corbin Fisher I’ve always found Harper to be pretty spectacular and I was surprised not to see him mentioned. I’ve always thought him very very sexy in action. To each their own...

My current crush is Luke Wilder on Helix. He is very charming and very beautiful. Someone needs to rescue him from the land of twinks. Any info on him? Does he escort? I faint at the thought...

Thanks for the responses, very reassuring. Looking around the net, I found many such blackmail scams. Nasty stuff. The email did have one of my passwords in it, but I gather that is pretty common as well. I should retire that one from any accounts and take more care about security generally and look into VPN. Thanks again.

I just received an email from a person I don't know saying that he knows I have visited certain websites and that he has been able to crack my facebook and other contacts. He says he has been able to access my webcam and has videos of me visiting these sites. I am to send him 1000 in bitcoin in 24 hours or he will release all this to all my contacts. I am quite closeted and such a thing would be awful. The english of the message is very poor. He says police will not be able to trace it to him. Has anyone experience with this kind of thing and do you have any advice?

Thanks for responding. It's really comforting. I'll continue to think...

So I am officially smitten by Armie. I can't get him out of my mind. It's really Armie as Oliver, but I am following everything I can about him. I think the film is excellent and his and Timothee's performances are wonderful compatible, resonant and compelling. But right now I want to talk about the film's effect on me which is strong, lovely and bothersome. 76 year old closeted married to my high school sweetheart for 53 years and love her beyond everything, kids, lovely grandkids, the whole dream and am really grateful and happy. However, CallMe by Your Name knocked my socks off and knocked me off my pins. To analyse. Elios's romantic and erotic obsession with the half unknown Oliver in first part of the film/book I identify with intensely, specifically the realization that this feverish state about a guy probably meant I was homosexual. I can't use gay because it was not around when I had the crush that made me know I really was attracted to men. After that, the identificatiom switches to Oliver because I then sought everyway to avoid and repress these energies. For me, three years of therapy paid for by my enlightened parents (early 1960s) through which I talked myself into the idea that it had been a stage and, to make sure, I married my longtime girlfriend. I think of this as parallel to Olvier's choice. My life has been incredibly good. I won't bore you with the various ways I have coped, but my wife knows my feelings and all so I aa not so guilt ridden, but I am, at the moment, like a 17 year old with a terrible crush on a totally unachievable love ideal. I think the fantasy has gotten under my skin due to the particular chemistry of the film and the actors. One part of a crush on a straight guy is the hope that you might change him or he might like you enough to make you happy for a bit or even that in fact he's likes guys too as in the film. Of course, the performance of the film enacts this fantasy completely. The straight Armie enacts with wonderful sympathy and erotic energy the fantasy of the unavailable, ridiculously beautiful straight love ideal experiencing and performing deeply authentic homosexual feeling love. Oh, it drives me wild with longing and bittersweet desire. No need to respond to,this rant, I just had to get it out to somewhere. Thanks if you are still reading. Any thought on how to handle it all? Feed the fantasy with more Armie all the time or go cold cold turkey, wait for time to cure it... He's so beautiful. And while I perfectly understand why he might not have gotten a supporting nomination, it affected me as a personal hurt which I know is silly, but I am knee deep in all things Armie... No more for now. Please be gentle with responses.

I got a bit giddy when I heard Armie Hammer was making a film about a gay love story. I then read the book and my interest increased exponentially. I was really taken with the immediacy of the language of longing and infatuation. I recognized so much of my own early life experience, the agony/ecstacy, the idealization of a guy beyond all reason, usually totally unavailable. I also remember in the few cases where a crush led to some fulfillment the shame and need for isolation Elio feels after the first night. I am in my 70's now, still closeted, and the film stirs up a lot of old stuff, but in a really lovely way. The upshot is that I have a mostly pleasurable intense crush on Armie/Oliver. I haven't had one in a long time and I am loving hearing Hammers beautifully masculine voice going through Elio's erotic longing for Oliver. It is a wonderful visitation from my youth, however bittersweet!