I disagree. Some fin subs, “pay pigs” among other terms do not have the kind of money to support their habit and it can get really out of hand. I listened to a podcast about this a while ago on This is Uncomfortable. Sure, some have lots of money and send it freely to providers BUT remember that act gives them a huge rush and that action provides value to the client. I fail to see how it’s that different than paying a significant amount of money for skydiving, or for more mainstream vanilla erotic services.
Findom is not for everyone. Certainly not for me. Heck, it’s not even for most people, but for the few with this kink, findom play is a cathartic, thrilling, and fulfilling experience. You don’t have to understand or identify with those who enjoy findom play to respect that it’s a thing.
When a provider lists findom, that means it is an OPTION, not an exclusive demand for clients seeking that service. It’s the same trouble as marketing yourself as only a top or only a bottom. You lose a big chunk of your audience if you’re perfectly comfortable providing either or both. Same goes for niche interests. I don’t expect every client to express interest in bdsm play, for example, but some hire me for that and they love it. How would I reach those clients if I don’t list it?
When you see a hashtag or mention of a kink you don’t like, I would advise not immediately eliminating that provider. He is trying to appeal to a wide audience, including a portion with some niche interests. If he has experience or interest in niche kinks, more power to him. It doesn’t necessarily mean he is ONLY seeking to provide that one particular service. It just means he’s willing to provide that service for those who want it.
Regarding the lazy sentiment... It is work to do this. Different than a traditional provider service, yes, and highly specific, but work all the same. There’s an art to doing findom well and not everyone can. Also, not everyone will. That’s part of the appeal for the client. I don’t claim to understand it all perfectly, but I’ve done enough to know it’s not always as simple or easy as you might expect. Then sometimes it is. Just depends.
You try doing it as part of your living for a while and then report back on how easy it is and how lazy someone must be to consider offering it as a service to willing, interested clients who will hire someone else if not you. Also…please do report back on all the scammers and game players and fakers and flakes and time wasters and weirdos and creeps who aren’t paying you willy nilly in minutes like you thought they would but rather are consuming lots of your time anyway…and still not paying.
This niche service presents some of the same problems of providing a traditional vanilla provider service. It eliminates many problems but some are exactly the same. It’s not always as simple or easy as it might seem. Until you walk a mile in a findom’s shoes, I don’t think you have the right to judge either party. When a provider lists findom, there’s really no reason to run and hide, unless that’s the only thing they offer.
