I know this is going off topic but I would really like to share my thoughts here…
I don’t think “feeling desired” is an unrealistic expectation from a client. You can substitute this with “feeling sexy”, “feeling taken care of” etc… whatever the client is specifically looking for.
In my mind BFE / boyfriend experience is synonymous with any of all of the above. After all, that’s how boyfriends would actually interact with each other. A provider offering BFE should be willing and able to provide this experience as part of the service.
My own experience (outside of hiring) has been that it IS possible to make your partner feel desired / sexy / taken care of / comfortable etc… even if there is not a strong physical attraction. You have to put in more effort - yes - but when I see the other person having a fantastic time because I made them feel like a million bucks, that is a huge turn on for me. It’s cyclical and reciprocal.
When I am discussing expectations with provider and tell them what I want from a BFE, I don’t expect the provider to just smile and nod. I have only met 1 provider truly capable of meeting this expectation for me.