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I love this thread already.  So much of this forum is dedicated to complaining about providers and criticizing providers and warning about providers...
Thank you @sky for offering the opportunity to put some positivity out there!
As a provider, I don't get the chance to hire, but I want to take the opportunity to recognize @Simon Suraci.  He's a natural community leader.  And he's always willing to offer an empathetic ear and thoughtful advice.  Providers can often be competitive, or even just protective of the details of what they do.  This guy has far too much generosity of spirit for that.  Most of my friends know that I'm a sex worker, but few of them actually understand.  Simon is always willing to offer that understanding. 
Also, if you have a real RentMen membership, then you need to peruse his photo gallery.  He's very generous with erotic images of himself, and they are fully EYE POPPING.  I would never reduce another provider to his sex parts, but...  Simon's are truly 360 degrees beautiful.
If I were to hire, I'd hire him.
Happy Sex Workers' Day!
 
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Seems in my experience that most reach out over RM.  Occasionally clients do have profiles there, and it’s nice to have some central details to grab onto for a conversation. 
Many reach out directly on WhatsApp or Telegram.  I generally don’t have a preference between that or RM for first contact.  Though I do appreciate being able to move a chat to text, if guys are amenable.
I do try to avoid SMS texting or iMessage with clients.  Partly because the encrypted apps add a small layer of protection for all involved.  And partly because it’s a helpful compartmentalization.  Nice to be able to keep texts with clients separate from texts with my mom.  🤷🏼‍♂️ 

This kind of thing never ceases to amaze me. 
As gay men in the dating world, we all stress about our insecurities..  Is he into me?  Am I hot enough for him?  Am I doing it right?  Do I live up to his other sex partners?
Hiring a provider is the one scenario where you can - at long last - unburden yourself of all that bullshit.  And if you're hiring the right provider, and he cares about your experience, he knows it's his job to create a safe space and to facilitate that unburdening.   The lengths that we'll go to to sabotage that unburdening really speak to how deep these insecurities cut. 
Give yourself a break from worrying about the bullshit!  Let yourself enjoy the purity of the actual situation you have available to you.  Let your provider be the one to worry if you like him.  Let him be the one to worry if you'll hire him again.  And let him have the freedom to compartmentalize his private sex life the way he pleases.