Seems in my experience that most reach out over RM. Occasionally clients do have profiles there, and it’s nice to have some central details to grab onto for a conversation.
Many reach out directly on WhatsApp or Telegram. I generally don’t have a preference between that or RM for first contact. Though I do appreciate being able to move a chat to text, if guys are amenable.
I do try to avoid SMS texting or iMessage with clients. Partly because the encrypted apps add a small layer of protection for all involved. And partly because it’s a helpful compartmentalization. Nice to be able to keep texts with clients separate from texts with my mom. 🤷🏼♂️
This kind of thing never ceases to amaze me.
As gay men in the dating world, we all stress about our insecurities.. Is he into me? Am I hot enough for him? Am I doing it right? Do I live up to his other sex partners?
Hiring a provider is the one scenario where you can - at long last - unburden yourself of all that bullshit. And if you're hiring the right provider, and he cares about your experience, he knows it's his job to create a safe space and to facilitate that unburdening. The lengths that we'll go to to sabotage that unburdening really speak to how deep these insecurities cut.
Give yourself a break from worrying about the bullshit! Let yourself enjoy the purity of the actual situation you have available to you. Let your provider be the one to worry if you like him. Let him be the one to worry if you'll hire him again. And let him have the freedom to compartmentalize his private sex life the way he pleases.
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