azdr0710

in pre-meet communication, tell the provider that....
1.  you are an honest person and will pay for his time at the end of the meeting
2.  you do not want to talk about money at the meeting
and than ask him to confirm this is ok......
you may have to flash the cash or similar at the beginning, I suppose, but always keep the money in your control (or in view in your wallet over there in your pants on the floor!)....... 

stick with well-reviewed providers (in this forum) for legal safety.....always be respectful and friendly....smile, talk slowly, be professional.....don't text/email too much before the meet....to-the-point and discreet......firm handshake, look them in the eye!....here are some newbie hints:
  https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/142802-etiquette-for-initial-communication/
https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/130365-caveats-in-hiring-please-contribute/
https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/83821-advice-for-a-newbie-please/
https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/103088-newbie-question/
https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/13389-recommendations-for-newbie/

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/142802-etiquette-for-initial-communication/
https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/130365-caveats-in-hiring-please-contribute/
https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/83821-advice-for-a-newbie-please/
https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/103088-newbie-question/
https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/13389-recommendations-for-newbie/

definitions for "BFE" will be as many as the number of people you ask......ha, I once told a provider that I want to meet for two hours with a little chitchat and he was astounded since he evidently was much used to the one-hour wham-bam crowd......
as always, pre-meet communication is the key......tell the provider exactly what you want (and don't want) and ask if he understands it and is willing.....be polite, friendly, professional, and to-the-point.....avoid giddy daily texts/emails......experienced, somewhat-older providers with good comment here on the forum will know exactly what you're saying!.....
you'll probably want a minimum of a two-hour meet and maybe much more to get the "BFE" thing.....expect to pay a full rate........make sure the provider is trusty and well-reviewed if you host......be yourself, talk slowly, firm handshake, look him in the eyes, keep the meeting moving so you get what you want........start with an easy back-and-forth massage, then go from there.....nothing is expected of you if you host except a clean place and some bottled water!......
 

RM Premium members also get to see the semi-private pictures (flame logo) and see a couple additional stats (forget which ones). Plus it may look good to some providers that you appear "serious" and legit.