ZMontoff

Yeah, definitely not going to meet this guy now or ever. I guess I'm just wondering if 4 hours was an appropriate time to wait before filing a scam report with CashApp? I felt like it was given the 0 response I received after sending the "deposit", and the fact that he didn't respond at all until almost 24 hours after it was sent. This is definitely gaslighting now since he started sending more texts after I insisted on the refund. Calling me psychopathic and out of touch with reality. Trying not to engage with him at all, but I want to keep all texts and anything he sends since he is just digging the hole deeper for himself. He even threatened to call the police at one point. I told him to go ahead. He'll find out quickly what wire fraud is along with a chance of up to 30 years in prison.

My experience with escorts and strippers has been that If I am honest, they still consider me to have been a good customer and treat me well. Hell, some of them even help me with guys I am now interested in, basically giving me a good reference or introducing us.

I agree. If you're not honest with him, he will not know and will keep asking to meet. You can be honest and nice about it. That way you can both move on.

Hi all, on Christmas Eve I was bored and looking. I found someone who I had wanted to meet for a while, but the opportunity had never presented itself. I contacted him via text. He was a slow responder, which was annoying but that happens. Over the course of several hours, we finally agreed to meet Christmas Day. He responded that he needed 1/2 of his fee by Venmo or CashApp before he could meet. Since I don't like to do that and had the cash in hand, I told him that I wanted to pay cash. He never responded. It was already late, so I went to bed after waiting to see if he would respond, which didn't happen. The next day (Christmas Day) I followed up via text, and asked if he was still willing to do something that day. He said yes but that I had to send a deposit via Venmo or CashApp first. I regrettably sent him some, which I will try and remember the next time someone asks for an advance. After I sent it, there was no communication from him for an hour. I called and he told me he was with his mother and would get back to me later after he finished with her. After that, I heard nothing. Four hours later, I texted him and said that if he couldn't meet could he just give me a refund. After still not hearing from him, I later tried to go into CashApp and request a refund, but since he had already accepted the money, I had to file a scam complaint to try and get CashApp to do anything. I texted him that I was filing the scam complaint, but if he could just send the refund, I would tell CashApp there was a miscommunication. I even tried to call him again before filing the scam complaint. He didn't answer. There was no response at all from him the rest of the night.. Forward to today, December 26. Almost a full 24 hours after sending him the deposit, he starts texting me about my scam complaint. I think he had either forgotten about me (benefit of the doubt) or never intended to meet (probably the truth)., However, once he got the complaint from CashApp. he decided to do something. We went back and forth via text, and he finally starting asking when I could meet. At this point, I really didn't want to meet him anymore, so I told him I couldn't meet until next Sunday. He got set on that and decided we would meet Sunday, on New Years. I had never actually agreed to that and asked him for a refund again, but he didn't respond. I'm also at this point now just scared to meet him because I don't know what is happening with him and who knows what he will do if I meet him in person. He has sent several messages since then trying to control the conversation and not listen to my side. I believe that he is gaslighting me to make me think this is my fault and that I am crazy. I really don't think I am wrong about this, but wanted to get other people's views. I can post screenshots of the texts but don't want to do so unless a moderator says it's okay. Also, I won't post his information unless moderators think it is appropriate, and then only to warn others about dealing with him. Oh yeah, he now has started saying the deposit is non-refundable, which was never said before I sent the money. Once again, I really should know better than to send anyone money in advance unless I know them well. I mean, under those circumstances, what do others think? How long would have been appropriate to wait when he wasn't responding to my texts? Thanks all!