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So yes, he fucked me. His dick was perfect in my ass, and he knew what he was doing, I am an oral bottom and don't usually ask for anything else. I don't care about kissing, and I really don't care about getting blown. At the end we talked for a few minutes, and he did say he has been more into fucking recently. If you want to try getting fucked by him, it might be worth it to reach out.

https://rent.men/Joseph_fit So for those of you who saw my post in the Lounge, Gaslighting by Provider, this is the guy. I had seen him on RM for a while and wanted to meet him, so I was willing to pay a deposit. It was what happened after that makes me warn everyone here. After sending the deposit, he didn't respond to me until 24 hours later, even though we were supposed to meet the same day I sent the deposit. Instead of apologizing for not meeting or at least contacting me to let me know he had to change plans, he goes off on some serious gaslighting rants. I'm not sure whether this is his M.O. or if he really believes I did something wrong. From other posts I see here, it looks like he has some problems he needs to deal with. Regardless, he refused to give me a refund at first but finally agreed to it. However, it is now days later, and there's still no refund. I'll just chalk this up as a loss and go back to my policy of not paying deposits for any reason. His ad is expired now, but I would be very careful about meeting this guy. Under no circumstance pay him in advance.

https://rent.men/STRAIGHTHUNG I don't know where to start. This was like the perfect encounter. The guy says he is straight, which of course, is a huge turn-on. However, he agreed to do much more, and man was he good at it. He's also extremely attractive and has a huge package. He's also very nice and friendly on top of everything else. I wholeheartedly recommend him!

Anyone who messages me on Grindr and starts off saying they are looking for a relationship is a BIG RED FLAG. 🚩 If I talk to someone and the conversation naturally progresses to drinks or coffee or a date, that's different. If they are looking for more than a hookup, they can put it in their profile/headline. Generally though, Grindr is a hookup app. Also, if someone starts talking about money and it isn't because they are looking for a Gen daddy, they get blocked.

Hmm, he does look Dominican though. I also live in NYC in an area with lots of Dominicans.

Actually, he just texted me and said he would give me a refund. We'll see if he follows through. I was polite and replied thank you and let it go at that.

Yeah, definitely not going to meet this guy now or ever. I guess I'm just wondering if 4 hours was an appropriate time to wait before filing a scam report with CashApp? I felt like it was given the 0 response I received after sending the "deposit", and the fact that he didn't respond at all until almost 24 hours after it was sent. This is definitely gaslighting now since he started sending more texts after I insisted on the refund. Calling me psychopathic and out of touch with reality. Trying not to engage with him at all, but I want to keep all texts and anything he sends since he is just digging the hole deeper for himself. He even threatened to call the police at one point. I told him to go ahead. He'll find out quickly what wire fraud is along with a chance of up to 30 years in prison.

My experience with escorts and strippers has been that If I am honest, they still consider me to have been a good customer and treat me well. Hell, some of them even help me with guys I am now interested in, basically giving me a good reference or introducing us.

I agree. If you're not honest with him, he will not know and will keep asking to meet. You can be honest and nice about it. That way you can both move on.

Hi all, on Christmas Eve I was bored and looking. I found someone who I had wanted to meet for a while, but the opportunity had never presented itself. I contacted him via text. He was a slow responder, which was annoying but that happens. Over the course of several hours, we finally agreed to meet Christmas Day. He responded that he needed 1/2 of his fee by Venmo or CashApp before he could meet. Since I don't like to do that and had the cash in hand, I told him that I wanted to pay cash. He never responded. It was already late, so I went to bed after waiting to see if he would respond, which didn't happen. The next day (Christmas Day) I followed up via text, and asked if he was still willing to do something that day. He said yes but that I had to send a deposit via Venmo or CashApp first. I regrettably sent him some, which I will try and remember the next time someone asks for an advance. After I sent it, there was no communication from him for an hour. I called and he told me he was with his mother and would get back to me later after he finished with her. After that, I heard nothing. Four hours later, I texted him and said that if he couldn't meet could he just give me a refund. After still not hearing from him, I later tried to go into CashApp and request a refund, but since he had already accepted the money, I had to file a scam complaint to try and get CashApp to do anything. I texted him that I was filing the scam complaint, but if he could just send the refund, I would tell CashApp there was a miscommunication. I even tried to call him again before filing the scam complaint. He didn't answer. There was no response at all from him the rest of the night.. Forward to today, December 26. Almost a full 24 hours after sending him the deposit, he starts texting me about my scam complaint. I think he had either forgotten about me (benefit of the doubt) or never intended to meet (probably the truth)., However, once he got the complaint from CashApp. he decided to do something. We went back and forth via text, and he finally starting asking when I could meet. At this point, I really didn't want to meet him anymore, so I told him I couldn't meet until next Sunday. He got set on that and decided we would meet Sunday, on New Years. I had never actually agreed to that and asked him for a refund again, but he didn't respond. I'm also at this point now just scared to meet him because I don't know what is happening with him and who knows what he will do if I meet him in person. He has sent several messages since then trying to control the conversation and not listen to my side. I believe that he is gaslighting me to make me think this is my fault and that I am crazy. I really don't think I am wrong about this, but wanted to get other people's views. I can post screenshots of the texts but don't want to do so unless a moderator says it's okay. Also, I won't post his information unless moderators think it is appropriate, and then only to warn others about dealing with him. Oh yeah, he now has started saying the deposit is non-refundable, which was never said before I sent the money. Once again, I really should know better than to send anyone money in advance unless I know them well. I mean, under those circumstances, what do others think? How long would have been appropriate to wait when he wasn't responding to my texts? Thanks all!