If you go to a non-M4M massage place, i.e., mixed male/female, you can never expect a HE. I have maybe 33% of the time, and it just happened. But to say the teasing sensual means the massage will be less quality is a false argument. These spas usually aim to emphasize a real massage. The 6 or 7 places I've gone to in Manhattan all delivered good massages, it just didn't always lead to more, which is their right.