SundayZip

My experience with PMs continues to be positive. There's been a couple times when it's taken a long time for the person to respond, but I know that if they don't log into the site, they won't have read my PM. You can see when they've last logged in by clicking on their avatar (although I think people can disable/block this). My guess is that most will not change their behavior based on that one thread.

I'd hate to see forum members stop sharing their experiences via PM just because there's a few bad apples here. As others have already posted, I do not share anything that would link my real identity to my online identity. I don't care if someone tells an escort that "Sundayzip" shared some information. If the escort doesn't like that I've shared, I can block him from sending me a message. I'm just careful to not share anything that could be used to identify me unless it's a forum member that I've met and trust.

I've seen a therapist a couple times in my life, each time due to different (but similar) issues and circumstances. I consider both times to be positive experiences and worth the money (although insurance paid most of the cost). I think part of the reason therapy worked for me is because, to paraphrase the words of one therapist, I was highly motivated and focused. What I got out of therapy was clarity around my issues and probably more importantly, how to manage shit when it happens in the future. It's no different than the set of exercises I learned from a physical therapist for a neck related problem. First you understand the source of the pain/problem, what to do in your life to prevent a recurrence and what behaviors/exercises to setup up when you feel or fear a recurrence coming on.

+1 The problem with an orgasm is that it tends to bring great sex to an end. You're all revved up and kissing and licking and doing hot and sexy stuff and there's lots of slippery friction and engorged members and then the orgasm comes and suddenly your done. Then it's like... Hey, thanks. That was nice. (then he sneaks a look at the clock)

It's exactly the same way for me. It's never good for me when the top starts pounding right away. Another way for me to get awesome pleasure from bottoming is to take control of the movement. There's a number of positions that allow the top to remain relatively stationary while I move in a way that feels good to me. It's all about having a top that is willing and able to focus on my pleasure (as opposed to just pounding me until he gets off). Once he gets me to that pleasure point, then he can move in a way that gets himself off.

Yes... Some of us have sent our RSVP directly to @ArVaGuy or @nate_sf. I'm booked at the Hotel Palomar near Dupont Circle, by the way. Stayed there for the 2016 forum gathering and liked it a lot.

Yeah, something like this happened to me. The doctor was quite attractive with really muscular forearms and I could tell from the pressure on my leg that he was not only rock hard, but very well endowed. For some reason he had me lay back on the examining table and adjusted the angle of the table so that my head was a lower than my legs. And then he was standing next to the table with that monstrous tent in his pants just inches from my face. I shifted on the table to get closer and turned my face toward his crotch... and then, just like that, he was rubbing his big boner against my face! I reached over and started to unzip his pants, and OMG!... it was sooo... That's when my alarm clock went off.

What specifically did the OP do that violated the escort's privacy? Are you suggesting that he should not have done a phone number and image search?

The first time I went skinny-dipping I had a hands-free orgasm after a few minutes in the water. There was something so sensous about being alone in the quiet lake, the warm summer water and the naughtiness of it that got me off. But I was 16 or 17 at the time. No way could I do it now.

Good idea for you to talk to both Fidelity and Vanguard to compare what they have to offer. I found this interesting comparison: https://www.nerdwallet.com/blog/investing/vanguard-vs-fidelity/ For me, a big deciding factor was Fidelity's superior (in my opinion) online research, retirement planning and financial modeling tools. And it helps that Fidelity has a well staffed office close to my home -- so meeting with my advisor is convenient (although I wish he was more attractive ). Now that you've retired, consider converting your 401K to a traditional IRA. This will likely increase your investment options whether you manage your investments through Fidelity or Vanguard.

Tell me if I'm wrong, but I wonder if you and some other posters to this thread are conflating two separate things. One is owning mutual funds (or ETFs) managed by Vanguard versus Fidelity. The other is using Vanguard versus Fidelity for managing your investment portfolio. Both Fidelity and Vanguard offer low cost funds (I agree that Vanguard funds tend to be lower cost). But, for a number of reasons, I prefer Fidelity for managing my portfolio. I can buy or sell any of the major Vanguard funds through my Fidelity account. My investments are weighted heavily toward low cost Vanguard funds (mostly ETFs) although I manage them through a Fidelity account.

Any first hand experience with Menyc? PM me if you'd prefer. https://rent.men/MEnyc

A couple weeks ago I was ready to give up on my seeking arrangements experiment, but then I got some great advice from another forum member. I changed my profile a bit and got more strategic in my online interaction. As a result, I've met several nice guys. I ended up having sort-of-sex with one guy, but it was extremely awkward and I have no desire to repeat it. I also had a date with a guy who is looking for a sugar daddy to pay his college tuition, take him shopping and wants only a platonic friendship (ain't gonna happen with me). I'm coming to the conclusion that the site is not right for me. I don't like the uncertainty and I don't like the slow, meticulous effort it takes to court younger guys who haven't figured out what they want. Maybe if I stuck with it long enough, I could find just the right guy, but I don't have the patience. This experiment gives me a greater appreciation for real escorts who have their act together and with whom I can have straight forward, no-bullshit encounters. I have a couple weeks before my premium membership expires. Maybe things will turn around in the next two weeks. My compliments to those who can make this work for them. Kudos to you!

I've also seen lot's of 1 to 2 syllable messages. Apparently lots of young guys are using the app on their smart phones where the messaging function looks and feels like a texting app. Therefore the messages tend to be more like texts. That's my theory anyhow.

Interesting. The seeking arrangement profile allows you to display your net worth and annual income. Where I raised, it is considered crass to tell your income and talk about personal wealth, so I left these items blank... until 2 hours ago when I filled in the numbers. And suddenly, I have a huge influx of new messages. Not quite sure what to think....

LOL. True that... I suppose I don't want to spend lots of time kissing and kissing and kissing a frog just to find that he's only that... just a frog.

This thread inspired me to signup for a seekingarrangement account. That was a month ago and the return on my investment has been mediocre at best. I've had lots of contacts from sugar babies in other countries and distant states. But the local guys who have contacted me haven't sparked my interest (mostly too young and twinky). I did have what seemed like a good connection with one very attractive 27 year old. We had lunch and spent a couple hours talking. Although he seemed like a nice enough guy, there were so many contradictions in his story that I wondered if it was mostly BS. Or maybe he was insecure and stretching the truth to impress me. The biggest problem was that he seemed to want financial assistance without a sexual component to an arrangement. I'm willing to invest in developing a relationship/friendship if I can be reasonably sure there will be a sexual component at some point. But otherwise, it's not worth my time no matter how nice and attractive he is. I've decided to reach out to forum members who have posted about their success with site. Maybe, with their advice, I can have some success as well.

Also Kennedy Carter who was one of my best hiring experiences ever. Does he qualify as a "pornstar"?

+1 "Less than 25% of the top-performing active managers are able to consistently outperform their passive manager counterparts." http://www.investopedia.com/terms/e/efficientmarkethypothesis.asp

Hmmm... I see what you mean. Especially about statements that it must be terrible for escorts to have older, overweight, unattractive clients.

Hey QT... I'm usually right there with you on 99% of what you post, but I'm not sure I get this. Is there really body shaming and age shaming in this forum? I see lots of discussion and admiration of escorts with young, hard bodies, but I never thought of this as body or age shaming. Is there something else I'm missing? Sometimes I can be pretty oblivious.

Umm... I think this is exaggerating their crimes a bit. It's not true that they vandalized the bathroom. Surveillance tapes show that they didn't even go into the bathroom. One of them did knock down an advertising sign that was loosely attached to the wall next the bathroom. And they urinated behind the gas station. You seem to have lots of stern things to say about the United States today, Juan. (Not that you don't have some good reasons)

Amen! Very well said.

+1

The bad airbnb experiences make the news and everyone gasps and shakes their head in disapproval. But the 100's of thousands of good airbnb experiences go unnoticed. It's easy for people who haven't tried it to pass judgement.