Judge rules 30-year-old son must move out. Millennial gone wild!

[marylander1940]

Though this may seem like a plot for a coming-of-age comedy, two frustrated parents in upstate New York have not found having their adult son living at home a laughing matter and have turned to the courts in an effort to evict him from their house, multiple media sources report.

 

Christina and Mark Rotondo, of Camillus, New York, have spent months trying to get their adult son, Michael, to move out of their home, Syracuse.com reports.

But, even then, Michael decided to stay put and so the parents went to court seeking to evict him, and in their books justice has prevailed when on Tuesday the state Supreme Court ordered Michael to move out. The judge also ordered adult protective services to investigate the case, Syracuse.com reports.

 

"After a discussion with your Mother, we have decided that you must leave this house immediately," father Mark Rotondo wrote his son in a letter filed with the court.

 

The parents’ lawyer, Anthony Adorante, said the couple just didn’t know any other way to get him out, according to Syracuse.com.

In letter after letter, the parents have informed their son they set a deadline for his eviction, gave him life and financial advice (like getting rid of his broken car and selling some of his items) and even offered $1,100 to help him move out.

 

Dad Mark’s Feb. 2 letter began an eviction process that has lasted months so far.

 

The eviction process started at the local court and has reached the Onondaga County’s top court, according to Syracuse.com.

Mom Christina, who owns the family's Weatheridge Drive home, made her intentions clear again in a Feb. 13 letter that in part reads: "Michael Joseph Rotondo, You are hereby evicted from 408 Weatheridge Drive, Camillus, New York effective immediately.”

 

Christina even told Michael to not resist the eviction.

 

"Any action you take that can be construed as threatening or harassing...us or prevents or obstructs our ability to use the house or property at 408 Weatheridge Drive as we see fit will result in your immediate removal from the premises," the letter said.

 

In April, the couple went to Camillus town court to try to evict their son. But they were told that it required a Supreme Court justice to remove a family member.

 

According to WTHR, the couple was then informed that since Michael is a family member, they could only have him removed from the home through an ejectment proceeding.

So on May 7, the parents filed a petition in the state's court to order their son removed.

 

According to WTHR, Michael contends that the written notices did not provide enough time for him to leave.

In a Feb. 13 letter, the parents gave Michael a 30-day deadline to vacate the premises, which he failed to follow.

 

During the Tuesday court appearance, Michael, who was seeking at least six months of advance notice to leave his home, ended up calling the judge's eviction order "outrageous," according to reports, adding that he vowed to appeal.

 

When asked by reporters outside the courthouse if he had a job, Michael said he had a business, but when prompted to say what his business was, he replied: "My business is my business," reports say.

 

According to Syracuse.com, Michael said he wasn't ready to leave home and after speaking to the media, he left the courthouse...to go back to his parents' home.

Previous post about this subject by @samhexum

 

(it pays to search before posting)

https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/walking-definition-entitled-millennial-swears-221554083.html

 

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TnK8BcVqMYg

[+ friendofsheila]

Am I surprised that he looks like he spends no time at all making himself look presentable except for a day in court?

[+ oldNbusted]

The funniest part to me is that it's been almost 4 months since the first letter, so was he serious when he said he needed 6 months notice? It would great if his parents called that bluff and asked the court to enforce an Aug 2 departure, watch him freak out at that.

[marylander1940]

Am I surprised that he looks like he spends no time at all making himself look presentable except for a day in court?

 

Looks are the least of his problems

[+ sniper]

He has a child who he lost custody of. If THIS guy could get laid, the incels have no excuses.

[edjames]

Today's excuse is that he cannot ford moving boxes.

This is such a sad situation. Part of me says he's deeply depressed, another part of me says he's lazy and spoiled.

I don't totally blame the parents but this guy does need the help of a good therapist.

 

NEWS

Deadbeat son evicted from parents’ home says he’s too broke to move

By Yaron Steinbuch

May 25, 2018 | 9:42am

 

Michael Rotondo, 30, walking out of his parents' home.Mike Roy

 

The unemployed millennial who has been ordered to pack up his belongings and vamoose from his parents’ home after they sued him says there’s one problem — he can’t afford moving boxes.

 

Freeloader Michael Rotondo, 30, was ordered by an Onondaga County judge to get out of the house in upstate Camillus by noon Friday.

 

His parents, Mark and Christina Rotondo, lowered the boom on their deadbeat son, who has been living with them rent-free for the past eight years, by suing him.

 

Michael, who has a young son, told The Post this week that he wanted three months to move out — or he’d appeal the judge’s ruling. But he cited a practical matter that he said prevents him from moving out.

 

“Mostly, I need to start packing my boxes so I can move,” he told Syracuse.com on Thursday.

 

“But I have to pay for the boxes, which might be a problem.”

 

Rotondo admitted Wednesday during an interview with CNN that he was jobless, but there’s at least one restaurant chain trying to change that.

 

In a statement on Facebook, Villa Italian Kitchen offered the man a “store-level job” and training at any one of its 250 locations across the country. “At Villa, we feel for millennials, across the board. It’s tough out there,” the restaurant wrote. “With that said . . . we’re offering you a store-level gig, complete with extensive training to get you up to speed, at any one of our 250 locations worldwide.”

 

The chain added, “We heard your parents offered you $1,100 to get out. We’ll do you one better. Literally, one. Offer from us is on the table for $1,101 to come join our team. Consider it a signing bonus. We gotchu, bud.”

 

Rotondo has been told that if he fails to move out and get a job by June 1, Onondaga County sheriff’s deputies could forcibly remove him.

 

“I’m aware that that’s how the ax falls,” he said Thursday. “I’m going to try to resolve this as civilly as possible.”

 

Speaking to CNN on Wednesday, Rotondo tried to downplay the notion that many people believe he’s the walking definition of an entitled millennial.

 

“I would say that I’m really not a member of that demographic that they’re speaking to,” Rotondo said, despite falling into the widely recognized age gap for millennials.

America’s failure to raise boys

By Karol Markowicz

May 26, 2018 | 10:42am |

Amid the progress in society of women, Michael Rotondo reminds us of the risks of undermotivating young men. Mike Roy

 

Last week, a judge in New York ruled that a 30-year-old man must move out of his childhood home on June 1 after his parents served him with several notices asking him to go. The ruling inadvertently exposed a hidden truth: The boys are not all right.

 

A generation of damaged boys are turning into impaired men and, as seen by the mocking coverage of this case, we’re treating this development like a joke, encouraged to ridicule and condemn them for it.

 

For months, Mark and Christina Rotondo asked son Michael to vacate their home. He had lived with them for eight years and, as he approached his 31st birthday, his parents set deadlines encouraging him to leave. They provided him with guidance and gave him money to move on, which he proceeded to spend on other things.

 

Michael, meanwhile, claimed he didn’t want to remain in their home, especially after they took him off the family phone plan, but he couldn’t seem to motivate out the actual door.

 

The story is a terrifying real-life version of the 2006 romantic comedy “Failure to Launch” starring Matthew McConaughey and Sarah Jessica Parker. In it, McConaughey’s parents, desperate to get their grown son out of the house, hire Parker to help them do that.

 

But what was a hilarious premise in 2006 is all too real in 2018. The Rotondo family story is a warning to modern families with no Hollywood love story at the end. While the media lambast Michael as an “entitled millennial,” that only tells part of the story. What’s happening is an all-out failure in how we are raising boys.

 

A Pew Research poll from 2016 showed that men age 18-36, exactly Michael Rotondo’s demographic, were more likely to be living at home with their parents than alone, with a roommate or with a partner. That’s a startling statistic, especially as the same isn’t true for women. We can’t blame this stagnation on the entitlement of the millennial generation when half of that generation is living their lives as intended.

 

Part of the problem is we’ve been encouraging girls at the expense of boys. The language of empowerment we use around girls is absent from how we talk to boys. The expectation that males will succeed just because they are male has been smashed, just like feminists wanted, but now what? To shrug our shoulders and not care what happens to a generation of young men is to produce a generation of Michael Rotondos, adrift and living at home as they enter their 30s.

 

It doesn’t help that this demographic is also finding it so hard to get, and stay, employed. An Economic Policy Institute report from February found that men are absent from the workforce in large numbers. This is a big change from the past. The report noted that “in 1979, only 6.3 percent of prime-age men did not work at all over the course of a year, but that number nearly doubled to 11.9 percent in 2016.” The telling thing is that there isn’t widespread concern about this; instead there is a celebration that women are outpacing men at school and at work.

 

We tell girls they are amazing and unstoppable by virtue of their gender

 

A 2010 study by psychologist Judith Kleinfeld in the journal Gender Issues found that boys’ issues were going unaddressed. Boys, the study found, had “higher rates of suicide, conduct disorders, emotional disturbance, premature death and juvenile delinquency than their female peers, as well as lower grades, test scores and college attendance rates.”

 

It’s no wonder a generation of boys are growing into fearful adults who would rather live in their childhood room, and sleep on their old Superman sheets washed by Mom, than take a chance in a world for which they are unprepared.

 

The rising prominence of Canadian clinical psychologist Jordan Peterson is a development of this. He has been described as a “father figure” to this group of lost boys. His controversial speeches, which are attended overwhelmingly by men and offer direction on getting their lives in order — to literally “clean up their room” — is taking the place of parents who have failed to instruct their children to do the same.

 

The fact that Peterson’s YouTube videos go viral to a majority male audience, and his book “Twelve Rules for Life: An Antidote for Chaos” is a bestseller, is significant. Despite some of his questionable ideas (such as if white privilege even exists), Peterson is speaking directly to men about something that has become a rarity in our “Future is Female” world.

 

We tell girls they are amazing and unstoppable by virtue of their gender while telling boys they have to somehow overcome their gender to be great. The result is a slumping male, unsure how to live his life, forced to watch YouTube videos to figure it out.

 

The Rotondos are right to force Michael to live his own life; they don’t owe him support this far into adulthood. But the message of this case should be taken to heart by us all.

 

Michael isn’t alone in his failure to launch; there are many others like him. We mock him at our own peril.

 

We need to start teaching boys how to “clean up their rooms” or not be so surprised that grown-up men still live in them.

[+ quoththeraven]

I guess he's never heard of visiting a liquor store and asking if he can take some of the boxes they would otherwise discard.

 

Also what did he do with his parents' offer of financial help? $1,000 is enough to buy packing supplies and move locally, although it's not enough for a security deposit as well. (It might be enough for a security deposit by itself.)

 

Ignoring a court order after the amount of time he's had and yet giving media interviews is nonfunctional and delusional, yet he shows few of the signs of the behavior of someone with a disorder that prevents them from perceiving reality.

Edited May 26, 2018 by quoththeraven

[+ quoththeraven]

I object to the tone of that second article. We do not uplift girls at the expense of boys. What's happened is that the script for girls has changed somewhat while boys are raised with all the same expectations and stereotypes about themselves, and largely the same old stereotypes about girls, plus resentment that girls have changed. That's a recipe for exactly this.

[+ sniper]

As elementary schools have eliminated recess and piled on the homework(which has been shown to have little to no educational value at that age), there is, I think, something to the argument that schooling has changed in a way that plays to girls' strengths and alienates boys.

[+ quoththeraven]

As elementary schools have eliminated recess and piled on the homework(which has been shown to have little to no educational value at that age), there is, I think, something to the argument that schooling has changed in a way that plays to girls' strengths and alienates boys.

Recess and exercise benefits all children, not just boys.

 

Because we are conditioned to express gender differences from birth, it's hard to tell what actually is an inherent gender difference and what is a conditioned one other than the obvious differences in physiology, like boys' greater average upper body strength. I suspect there actually are inherent differences, but social conditioning provides so much noise (and a lack of a control group) that it's impossible to determine with sufficient rigor.

 

Changing how boys are socialized and indoctrinated might help more than bemoaning that girls are being catered to, which the continued prevalence of harassment and blaming and limiting girls' clothing choices in the name of controlling boys belies, as does the boys' club that is tech and the executive world.

[marylander1940]

Am I surprised that he looks like he spends no time at all making himself look presentable except for a day in court?

 

or trying to get a girlfriend... He could get one just to move with her.

[marylander1940]

Michael Rotondo, the 30-year-old man who defied his parents' various eviction notices, is finally moving out of the New York home.

 

Rotondo said he is in the process of hauling the rest of his belongings out of his parents' Camillus, N.Y., house and into a storage unit. He's getting the help of a cousin, who has a truck.

 

He will sleep at the home Thursday evening, but must be out by noon Friday. He will then stay in an Airbnb until he finds permanent housing.

 

Rotondo credits Alex Jones, the conspiracy theorist behind the website InfoWars, for making the move possible. Jones gave Rotondo $3,000 when he appeared on Jones' show last week.

 

https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/us/that-30-year-old-man-finally-moves-out-of-his-parents-house-thanks-to-alex-jones/ar-AAy4BEC?ocid=spartanntp

[+ quoththeraven]

Praising and appearing on Alex Jones' show? Now we know for sure he has bad judgment and a few screws loose. I can't feel sorry for someone as deluded as that.