Would it be safe to say that many of us escorts don't do the gay scene?

[marylander1940]

Sounds like the "gay scene" is the same as it was in the 80's. I only went to bars for music and dancing. Went to bathhouses, glory holes, bushes for the "slutty scene". My formula worked while others beat their heads against a brick wall. I found out early on not to be a masochist.

 

Now the glory hole, cruising areas and the bathhouses are on your iPhone.

[marylander1940]

What happened to your “time out “ Mocha?

 

Let's fair, every time a member says he's leaving, he always come back. I guess the forum is hard to quit.

 

I won't name names.

[jjkrkwood]

Let me also just say one thing without directly quoting anyone. Anyone who consistently comes along and spends time down talking someone they never met, doesn't deserve my energy anymore. They get off on saying things that create arguments, instead of focusing on the topic at hand. They continue until it degrades into something nasty. I've let people like that run me off, I'm not allowing it anymore. So @LADoug1 , I hope that answers that for you.

 

They're just going to have to learn to deal with me. All that crap they talking isn't even worth me reading and has not and will not be read. Anyone who reads it and thinks differently of me because of it, would do better to speak directly to me and see how I'm actually doing. If anyone has a personal issue with me, they can meet me personally at any of the forum events, and see how I'll feel about what they have to say. But since non of them likely will never face me, it's not even worth standing up for.

 

I'm only responding to helpful comments. Anyone else talking jive will be ignored. I just don't have time for it.

 

On the contrary, seems like you have a shitload of TIME ! And you're the one that gotta do some learning. NOONE has to deal with you, and maybe that's the root of all your ongoing problems dude ? Not sure why YOU dont get it ?

[Pulgasari1991]

I have to a degree. But at the same time, I tend to notice more and more of the gay social scene seems to be things that I'm not necessarily into

Sounds to me that you would/could have a great time hiring.

[Mocha]

Sounds to me that you would/could have a great time hiring.

 

Hmm, not really. It wouldn't be for me personally. What I'm looking for wouldn't be found in hiring. I'm not just looking for intimate connections, I'm going for more of a social scene with foundation. Like a group of guys and someone on the regular. I've had that at various points, but it always ends up with someone getting jealous or finding ways to exclude someone from the group based on how one person feels.

 

The whole forum embodies the gay scene, and the fact that I even participate is playing with fire. You have people constantly being catty, trying to exclude someone based on how they feel. That's exactly how it is in real life. It's like when you meet someone, their friends only become each other's friends as long as you're in good standing with that person. Soon as a disagreement arises, they want to keep that person away from everyone else.

 

I ended up losing touch with an entire group of people, because one f** had to be maggot and basically turned the whole group on me. For no other reason than I didn't want to date him anymore because he reached over and grabbed my neck during an argument. Actually no, it was a CONVERSATION where he disagreed with my feelings on a particular subject...namely the death of my friend earlier this year, who he never met. But we talked it over and made up, but when his friends invited me to a cabin weekend that he couldn't stay for the whole weekend, he went and told everyone to make me leave because I was only there to prostitute myself and make money. I drove 100 mph from Knoxville to Nashville and I stormed into his job and cursed his ass out, then went to his other job and showed his boss all the texts and voicemails of his slandering me. It's only then that people realize, I'm not the one. I'm the nicest guy you'll meet, but I'm the boldest guy you'll meet when I'm crossed.

 

At the same time, that's the person I don't want to be. If I have to go through that much. Is it even worth it? Is it worth having gay friends? Is it worth dating? It's too much energy, too much blood pressure, too much. I'm at my best and least drama in periods when I'm lonely and have no friends...I still meet people, but it's just casual flings here and there with a little bit of dating....until I travel onto the next city. That cuts down on drama for me. As with hiring, even though I sell a product, doesn't necessarily mean that's what I want for myself.

Edited December 22, 2017 by Mocha

[jjkrkwood]

The whole forum embodies the gay scene, and the fact that I even participate is playing with fire. You have people constantly being catty, trying to exclude someone based on how they feel. That's exactly how it is in real life. It's like when you meet someone, their friends only become each other's friends as long as you're in good standing with that person. Soon as a disagreement arises, they want to keep that person away from everyone else.

 

I ended up losing touch with an entire group of people, because one f** had to be maggot and basically turned the whole group on me. For no other reason than I didn't want to date him anymore because he reached over and grabbed my neck during an argument. Actually no, it was a CONVERSATION where he disagreed with my feelings on a particular subject...namely the death of my friend earlier this year, who he never met. But we talked it over and made up, but when his friends invited me to a cabin weekend that he couldn't stay for the whole weekend, he went and told everyone to make me leave because I was only there to prostitute myself and make money. I drove 100 mph from Knoxville to Nashville and I stormed into his job and cursed his ass out, then went to his other job and showed his boss all the texts and voicemails of his slandering me. It's only then that people realize, I'm not the one. I'm the nicest guy you'll meet, but I'm the boldest guy you'll meet when I'm crossed.

 

At the same time, that's the person I don't want to be. If I have to go through that much. Is it even worth it? Is it worth having gay friends? Is it worth dating? It's too much energy, too much blood pressure, too much. I'm at my best and least drama in periods when I'm lonely and have no friends...I still meet people, but it's just casual flings here and there with a little bit of dating....until I travel onto the next city. That cuts down on drama for me. As with hiring, even though I sell a product, doesn't necessarily mean that's what I want for myself.

 

Oh right, I'm sure that's the story, because otherwise, you are SO likable ????

 

[Walker1]

[MartyB]

That's true. I'm sure it probably isn't anything new. Thats just how it is. All I can say is I went out last night again (as I refuse failure) and met a whole much better group of people and even a particular person who was into me. In fact, I had my pick of 3 different people. But there still is a lot of BS in the scene. The many times a "single" or recently broke up guy at the bar turned out to be still in relationship and lied about it is whimsical.

 

Let me also just say one thing without directly quoting anyone. Anyone who consistently comes along and spends time down talking someone they never met, doesn't deserve my energy anymore. They get off on saying things that create arguments, instead of focusing on the topic at hand. They continue until it degrades into something nasty. I've let people like that run me off, I'm not allowing it anymore. So @LADoug1 , I hope that answers that for you.

 

They're just going to have to learn to deal with me. All that crap they talking isn't even worth me reading and has not and will not be read. Anyone who reads it and thinks differently of me because of it, would do better to speak directly to me and see how I'm actually doing. If anyone has a personal issue with me, they can meet me personally at any of the forum events, and see how I'll feel about what they have to say. But since non of them likely will never face me, it's not even worth standing up for.

 

I'm only responding to helpful comments. Anyone else talking jive will be ignored. I just don't have time for it.

I read your comments with fascination. Not because I'm critical or complimentary but it's a reality that you know that I don't experience. I appreciate your candor and and view. Keep it coming babe. Yes you have men on this board who are pretty critical so what. We need a voice on here that's different challenging and at times provocative. Don't agree with everything you state but you make this board so much better. Besides your also hot babe! LoL

[Mocha]

I read your comments with fascination. Not because I'm critical or complimentary but it's a reality that you know that I don't experience. I appreciate your candor and and view. Keep it coming babe. Yes you have men on this board who are pretty critical so what. We need a voice on here that's different challenging and at times provocative. Don't agree with everything you state but you make this board so much better. Besides your also hot babe! LoL

 

Well thankyou! I'm really going to have to visit you in New York next year. I would probably have a different perspective in a scene like New York (though trying to move there likely wouldn't manifest).

 

Lot of these gay issues I mentioned happened in places like Phoenix, Nashville, Denver, etc. those just aren't real gay cities. All those are family oriented places where gay people exist out of affirmative action. Meaning...there's so much heterosexual culture around you in those places, you almost have to add in a little gay to make it feel diverse. But it's all stereotypes and closet cases. If you don't fit it, they aren't into you.

 

When I lived in Miami, I had instantly found a group of friends, and even though they had their set of issues...they helped me survive my first three months of college and my first time living on my own at 19. Lord knows wish I'd of discovered escorting at that time! Those days were rough.

 

So there are good people in the gay scene.

[Bearofdistinction]

I'm only responding to helpful comments. Anyone else talking jive will be ignored. I just don't have time for it.

 

You just cannot Ignore the BeeGees!

 

[jjkrkwood]

I read your comments with fascination. Not because I'm critical or complimentary but it's a reality that you know that I don't experience. I appreciate your candor and and view. Keep it coming babe. Yes you have men on this board who are pretty critical so what. We need a voice on here that's different challenging and at times provocative. Don't agree with everything you state but you make this board so much better. Besides your also hot babe! LoL

 

Marty, yours is the same argument people used for Electing TRUMP, and both HE and Mocha are both disasters. If you still find him HOT with that stank ass attitude and negative, hateful personality, Please Call Me.....I have some toxic swamp land to SELL you !

[Mocha]

stank ass attitude and negative, hateful personality

 

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