Falling Asleep

[rocky]

Well thought I'd give this a try again. I've been seeing a very nice escort for over 5 years. I recently was over night at his house,

fairly early, had dinner, one drink and when we went to bed I anticipated the moment that I wait for when out. Well he fell asleep. Now that might be a good sign that we're comfortable but obviously I had paid for more than sleeping (although I knew morning would be something), but guess I'm asking, if you were in my shoes what would you do? I'm not cheap by any means but was expecting a bit more than a nod. I thought about leaving but that's another story. Thoughts? Rocky

[woodlawn]

> if you

>were in my shoes what would you do?

 

If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't see the same escort for 5 years. There are advantages to being a regular client, but there are also disadvantages -- one of which is tendency among some escorts to take clients for granted after awhile. That's not a jab at escorts, by the way, but a comment on a problem you will find among service providers in almost any line of work. Once they feel they've got your business, they may no longer try quite as hard.

 

Others may tell you to ask for some sort of consideration to compensate you for the undeniable fact that you didn't get your money's worth on that occasion. Personally, I think it's silly to expend a lot of effort negotiating an agreement that you and he both know you have no way of enforcing. So just start seeing someone else. If he really wants to keep your business, he'll soon realize what is happening and get in touch, hopefully with a better attitude. If he doesn't, it's best you just keep seeing someone else.

[+ deej]

As difficult as it is, I have to agree with Woodie here.

 

And I've just been through a similar experience myself.

 

You're being treated like an ATM. Find someone else. Once you've become an ATM, you'll never be anything but an ATM.

[Guest ChgoBoy]

>As difficult as it is, I have to agree with Woodie here.

 

 

WOODIE? ROFLMFAO! Have you kissed and made up?

[Zippy]

Aren't escorts hired for their time? Seems like you got exactly what you paid for. Lots of time with your favorite guy.

[+ deej]

Newbies can be so amusing.

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

>Aren't escorts hired for their time? Seems like you got

>exactly what you paid for. Lots of time with your favorite

>guy.

 

 

Actually they are hired for their company. That company is metered by time. Someone sleeping at your feet is really not much company. There does come a time for both of you acquire sleep -- sort of a timeout or partial time out dpending on the snuggling. Nothing wrong with that , in fact there is a lot right about it. So no, narcoleptics wouldn't make a great companion at escort rates.

[+ deej]

>Actually they are hired for their company. That company is

>metered by time. Someone sleeping at your feet is really not

>much company. There does come a time for both of you acquire

>sleep -- sort of a timeout or partial time out dpending on the

>snuggling. Nothing wrong with that , in fact there is a lot

>right about it. So no, narcoleptics wouldn't make a great

>companion at escort rates.

 

And when your escort is passed out in a drunken stupor and totally unresponsive you might even say he's not much company either.

[Zippy]

Then don't hire him for an overnight or give him too much to drink.

[+ deej]

>Then don't hire him for an overnight or give him too much to

>drink.

 

I won't be.

 

Last year, he made about 8 grand from me. This year it will be a little less. ;(

[woodlawn]

>And I've just been through a similar experience myself.

 

Yes, well, there are also cases in which the escort falls asleep simply because the client he's with is incredibly boring. In such cases one shouldn't blame the escort.

[woodlawn]

>>As difficult as it is, I have to agree with Woodie here.

 

>WOODIE? ROFLMFAO! Have you kissed and made up?

 

Kiss deej? Could I dive into a pool of my own vomit instead?

 

Seriously, though, deej's experience must have been even more frustrating than the thread author's because out there in the real world he isn't a "moderator" with the power to make people he doesn't like disappear, he's just another nobody. After a spell of threatening people and throwing his weight around on this board, it must be a bit of a shock for him to come back to reality and have to deal with people whom he has no power to threaten. If he gets shocks like that on a regular basis, it's no wonder he's perpetually bad-tempered.

[JT Brooklyn]

IMHO..Hopefully you have "asked him" this question first? 5 years is a long time. Somebody Normally would be bored by now, as far as the Sex stuff goes, and since this is a Client-Escort Relationship... If he doesn't want to lose the "Income", he should "still" be showing the "Enthusiasm"! Unless "Companionship Only" is what's workin for him now, and you are letting him run with it! Bottom Line it is "Your Dime"...LOL :+

[happyguy2]

While I have not had an escort fall asleep on me, I have had them become quite accustomed to "my" company and "my" financial contributions. In my case, it doesn't seem to take long (several months) for an escort to begin lowering the level of "attention" I get. Appointments, for whatever time we agree upon, seem to be shortened.

 

I do not only blame the escort, I let it happen. But as another poster said, it simply isn't worth the argument, no matter how civilized it might be!

 

So, for me, the moral of this story seems to be, keep moving. I am not suggesting that for all of you, it is just the way it has worked out for me.

 

hg

[JT Brooklyn]

HappyGuy..Now I see where you got "Your Name" from. "Move On" and stay Happy..Stick in a so-so Client-Escort Relationship and your Definitely just throwing away $$. And in 2005 there are "so many guys" to choose from, that's why HappyGuy will stay Happy! LOL :+

[rocky]

Some of you are right; have I let this person take

advantage of me..I may have, he's a great person

but then again I've never pinched where money

is concerned. I go back to the fact that I am

paying for some fun time and it just didn't happen.

Am I an ass for feeling the way that I do, maybe,

but I don't like to think I've been taken advantage

of...

[+ deej]

Instead of talking to us, shouldn't you be talking to him?

 

Communication remains the most important thing. If you're feeling taken advantage of, you should tell him. You may find him aghast. Either way, then you know how to procdeed.

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

The Long Goodbye?

 

There is one other possibility that would also put him in a very bad light. Maybe he has grown tired of your relationship and rather than tell you Good Bye or go the rounds of attempting to avoid you, he just figured that he would leave you with a bad taste in your mouth and let you to be the proactive party.

[Regina]

RE: The Long Goodbye?

 

Rocky,

 

Why didn't you just wake him up in your won special way? How did the morning begin? No sex at all? Was yours the only log that didn't get sawed?

[arthur]

Like you, I tend to enjoy being with the same escort once we develop a mutually-satisfactory rapport. Since you've known him for so long, you should be able to discuss frankly and openly with him your disappointment about the last time you were together. If you feel positive about the way he responds, I might be inclined to give it one more try. Otherwise it's probably best to move on to someone else.

ag

[rocky]

Well the next morning we did enjoy some play but just

wasn't the same. The escort did jokingly hand the money

back before I left; acknowledged that a "credit" was due

and did acknowledge how tired he was (which I knew).

I'm willing to see what happens in the future but feel

a bit used. Rocky

[Guest Marathon Man]

Along those lines, a friend of mine who's an escort told me that his clients have expressed disappointment with hiring twinks for long term engagements. He said that they said that the bois seem to spend a lot of time during the day on their laptops.

 

MM

[augustman]

First were you looking for companionship, fun or both? I do not know how often you are seeing him. If it is a regular time every week or so, not good.

 

For me it is both, I find it difficult to keep the fun part still fun with just one regular guy. So far I have had about four guys multiple times over a period of time. One did treat me like an ATM but he does perform, never wanting in that arena, but I am sick of the schmooze so have eliminated him.

 

Three others just got boring after awhile.

 

Now no. 5 is a keeper, not only performs but has an uncanny ability to make it exciting each time, great to talk to and thank god I never feel any attachment. Fortunately he lives 4 hours away so we only can meet up maybe every other month. Which right now works great for me.

 

I suspect you are doing this for comfort and somehow I think you still felt better when he was there. If so stop now. Move on. You have an attachment that probably is not mutual. I know I have been there. Maybe the escort did not handle this appointment well, but you need to access what you are doing here. The escort is not neccessarily doing anything wrong, except maybe feeding on that attachment, but regardless for your own well being move on.

[rocky]

One of the things that I like about this site is

the ability to talk freely about things that I,

at least, would not talk to others about. Here

I am middle aged, scared about my preferences

yet getting some good advice. Every now and then

there's the wise comment but then good comments.

I'm new at this but certainly appreciate the forum

to ask questions and get some good advice. You'd

think everyone is comfortable about their sexual

preferences, but we're not. I thank you for all

your support...best Rocky