What would you do, if....?

[LaffingBear]

What would you do if....

• You vistited Rentmen and came across the profile of someone you know, but had no idea was an escort?
  
• You checked Grindr, and saw a friend in a monogamous relationship, advertising as single, looking for NSA?
  
• You were cruising through craigslist, and saw a neighbor looking to satisfy a particularly unusual fetish?
  

Its astonishing whats online, and sometimes we can happen upon information we werent seeking, and might prefer not to know.

 

None of these things are wrong.... just maybe surprising. We can't "unsee" things.

 

The question is, do we do nothing, keep it to ourselves? Is it possible to disregard, even if thats our preference?

 

Would you confront the person if there is something dishonest or a betrayal involved?

[+ HornyRetiree]

What would you do if....

• You vistited Rentmen and came across the profile of someone you know, but had no idea was an escort?
  
• You checked Grindr, and saw a friend in a monogamous relationship, advertising as single, looking for NSA?
  
• You were cruising through craigslist, and saw a neighbor looking to satisfy a particularly unusual fetish?
  

Its astonishing whats online, and sometimes we can happen upon information we werent seeking, and might prefer not to know.

 

None of these things are wrong.... just maybe surprising. We can't "unsee" things.

 

The question is, do we do nothing, keep it to ourselves? Is it possible to disregard, even if thats our preference?

 

Would you confront the person if there is something dishonest or a betrayal involved?

 

IF they were hot and I was interested in sex with them! I would arrange a session --

 

In those situations, discoveries are made because we are all there for the same reason! We need to relax and not be judgmental of others when they are doing the same/similar things we are.

[MassageDrew]

What would you do if....

• You vistited Rentmen and came across the profile of someone you know, but had no idea was an escort?
  
• You checked Grindr, and saw a friend in a monogamous relationship, advertising as single, looking for NSA?
  
• You were cruising through craigslist, and saw a neighbor looking to satisfy a particularly unusual fetish?
  

Its astonishing whats online, and sometimes we can happen upon information we werent seeking, and might prefer not to know.

 

None of these things are wrong.... just maybe surprising. We can't "unsee" things.

 

The question is, do we do nothing, keep it to ourselves? Is it possible to disregard, even if thats our preference?

 

Would you confront the person if there is something dishonest or a betrayal involved?

 

I've always believed in people minding their business. I do see my coupled friends on Grindr and frankly that's up to them. If it's a really close friend then I'd say something. Otherwise, just walk away. One of the biggest problems here is that people put their hands in someone else's cookie jar. That everyone should live a life based on their way of life.

 

If I happen to come across a friend on Remtmen that I like then I might even hire him. If it's consensual then what's the big deal? It might even be more fun as he and I can relate to each other. No ice to break.

[BasketBaller]

Last year I posted about your first scenario. One of the teachers at my sons' school had an ad on Rentmen, with his face easily recognizable. I sent him a PM warning him that was unwise in his home town, and he thanked me and took down the ad, which has not reappeared. The thread got moved after the discussion wandered into other territory.

 

https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/a-big-surprise.115203/

 

I've seen the guy a few times since then and felt a bit strange but acted normally.

[LaffingBear]

Context:

• The rentmen thing happened years ago... was actually craigs.... just an acquaintance. I never said anything.... and i dont even know where he is.
  
• The fetish thing is a neighborhood guy I hardly know. Certainly not my place to judge and I definitely wont say anything. Except.... I hope I dont giggle like an immature girl if I bump into him.
  
• The grindr thing... cant help it, I'm judging. Pretty good friend... he's in a 15 yr monogamous relationship and I'm friendly with both. Tons of social media comments about gay rights, partnered, their life together, etc. It feels hypocritical. Not my business really, and I wont say anything, but it sticks in my gut.
  

Really, I'm just curious about how commonplace its become to happen upon surprising, online, information about people we know. And if anyone's acted on it.