Is he qualified for the title?

[+ friendofsheila]

While immersed in a fantasy about dating Dave Koz the openly gay sax player, and an artist who conceivably tours 40+ weeks out of the year, I started doing a reality check about absenteeism in relationships and remembered the man, Jesse Green, who wrote THE VELVETEEN FATHER. The book was autobiographical, about a gay man having a relationship with another single gay man who has a toddler.

 

(Now I read probably the first half of the the book, and then skimmed the rest, so someone correct me if I've gotten a detail wrong).

 

The author is in a relationship with the father, and lives about 1 or 2 blocks away. Green helps with the child-rearing to a great extent and at the same time works and sleeps in his own apartment, not with the toddler and his father.

 

The author VERY much wanted for the little boy to call him "Daddy" or "Papa" or some-such title, but when he would ask the boy "What do you call me?" the boy replied (as best a three-year-old can) with "Jezzeee!" And it didn't seem likely that the boy was heading toward “Daddy” as a name either. He wanted the boy to WANT to call him one of those titles, and so never forced it on him. As much as Green wanted the child to do so, he felt frustrated by the boy's not finding his way to calling him "Daddy."

 

Do you think Green has earned the title of "Daddy" to the boy or does he have yet to?

[FourAces]

>While immersed in a fantasy about dating Dave Koz the openly

>gay sax player,

 

Dave Koz is openly gay?

 

RT

[Regina]

Who's Dave Koz? Do you have a picture?

[Regina]

Who's Dave Koz? Do you have a picture?

[dannyrossmoore]

I don't keep up with Sax players either. Name's new to me also

 

I do know who Etta James is however. ( That's my limit on jazz and blues).

[dannyrossmoore]

I don't keep up with Sax players either. Name's new to me also

 

I do know who Etta James is however. ( That's my limit on jazz and blues).

[OneFinger]

Dave Koz from one of his Christmas albums.

 

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