the loss of a good friend / the passing of Damascene

[Bargara Leatherboy]

Vale Damascene

[+ Tom Isern]

I want to return to this thread to celebrate something about Damascene that I might have written about before but didn't. it's on my mind tonight. but before talking about him, I want to tell a story.

 

several years ago I was hired to be one of four escorts—two women and two men—in a group scene. I was the first to arrive—on time (of course! :-) ). when the other guy arrived I nearly burst out of my pants he was so hot, and even though I try to be a consummate professional in group situations—focus on the client!—my cock was raging for that guy. the first words out of his mouth were "should I go and clean out? am I getting fucked tonight?" "of course you are," I was thinking to myself. the client snapped back: "no need. you two won't be playing with each other tonight. you're going to be fucking the women. and then me."

 

you can imagine my disappointment. perhaps you can also imagine how I felt about that client.

 

he's the one paying, of course. and every client has the right to expect to choreograph their fantasy, their time. there's a good amount of money involved—esp. with groups. and I don't object in principal to the client being in charge. who could? but there's something that Damascene understood that I believe all clients (who do groups) could benefit from understanding as well.

 

Damascene and I did so many groups together over the years that they run together in one giant blur in my mind. we hired almost all the tops in NYC on rentboy for 3somes during the eight years we played. I topped almost all of them. he enjoyed watching me take down other tops. and I enjoyed doing it. we also did all night parties in my apartment where we'd go online and invite guys over and then fill my apartment with from 12 to 20 guys. we'd go out to sex clubs and bring playmates back with us. to be frank, we had a blast together. exploring. scripted and unscripted. Damascene didn't expect every minute of every hour for my attention to be focused on him. we became lasting friends.

 

another story: I hosted a gang bang for a client. there were 5 tops, I believe, and him. because I fucked one of the other escorts he got so upset he never saw me again. he told me he was hurt that my attention was diverted, even though it was just a few minutes. everyone, at every moment, was to be focused on him and on him alone.

 

what a dreadful chore. that's a good way to suck all the excitement, all the energy, all the fun out of the room for your escorts. as a client you have the right to expect, even demand, that attention be focused on you. but one of the things I loved about Damascene is that he understood that if he let me off leash, that if he let me have a little fun as well, that—in the old cliche—a rising tide raises all ships (skipping the obvious pun). let everyone have a little fun doing what turns them on, and that energy will spread around the group.

 

a grateful top is a HARD top.

[Racketjock]

Beautiful tribute, Tom. My condolences for your and others loss. I am sorry I didn't get to meet him but through this forum. He leaves a great legacy.