The Decline of Human Interactions

[Jock123]

A few Years ago when I first started Escorting I noticed people were more Courteous, Prompt and If You made plans with them It usually...Happened. Over the Years I'm starting to notice not Only are people being less Respectful of Your time(I.E Following through with plans etc) but even a good chunk (Maybe 30%)of the Messages/Emails I get arent even Full Sentences. I believe we are slowly(But surely) moving into a new Era In which Humans Interact with each other. People are becoming Awkward, No one can Look You in the eyes. I think alot of this has to do with the Internet, Surge of Apps, Texting etc. Flaking really wasnt a "Thing" for me a few Years ago. Even if someone needed to cancel Itd be AT LEAST 24 Hours or more notice. Now I've had a few guys whom will literally cancel MINUTES before we are to get together.

 

 

Maybe Its just me. I read on here alot of Clients whom have Trouble even getting a Response from an Escort and Yet make Posts about "Should I keep Trying" etc. Also when I do meet someone sometimes they're Complacent/Lazy. Like Its "Yea You're Hot...Thanks for trying to get to know me Buddy but....lets get Naked!". For me...Its just my Personality. I actually like getting to know Someone. Afterall I'd much rather have a Regular than a Plethora of Randoms. Some clients are Hiring so much they dont even see You as a Person...You're just another cute boy with a Big smile(And Penis). I miss the old days where People actually made an effort to get to know You. Not just In my "Job" but even trying to hit a guy up Online its like a Laundry list of Questions...Like a Job Interview BEFORE You meet...and they're Usually sex related, More Pics? Etc Etc Etc

 

 

The Gay Community is Small(Despite what the Media tries to make it). The list of Quality Encounters/Unjaded People is getting smaller. Flaking and one liner Responses should never be Ok. It wasnt always like this.....And I believe Itll only get worse. For all of Us(Escorts and Clients)

[+ Truereview]

Well said. I welcome this new age lacking humanity. I love the thought of going against it. You can do it too, Jock. Join me & others in mutiny...que viva la revolucion!

[seaboy4hire]

I have to agree with a lot of what Jock said. It isn't just client/escort or regular hookups it seems like it's just about everyone. I take public transport and once in a while I'll put my phone away and watch people. There used to be a time people would talk to each other on the bus and now everyone is buried in their phones. It is very sad.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[whipped guy]

Count another one in on the "mutiny"!

 

For years I ran a business, not exactly the oldest business, but I treated people's respectfully and as if they were friends. Nobody got the bums rush. Yet in spite of this people increasingly had little respect for me or my time, and it was the type of profession where traditionally the service provider was treated in a respectful manner.

 

I definitely attribute the change in attitude and behavior to the increase in texting and use of mobile devices. Consequently people simply either don't know how or more likely don't want to interact directly with other individuals and especially when a situation is less than comfortable for them. Hence, to hell with canceling minutes before a scheduled appointment. They simply won't show up, think nothing of it, and then turn the tables and blame the service provider!

 

Now being retired I am certainly glad that I don't have to deal with such issues. I certainly don't envy those that do because things will most likely only get worse and not better in that regard!

[seaboy4hire]

As far as my day job goes it is customer service food related. I no longer reward customers who are rude enough to be on their phone talking and or texting and take their order. I have gotten to the point where I point blank tell them to get out of line or step away from the counter till I can have their full attention. If you want proper good service then get off your fucking phone. I have no issues with slipping you decaf and fucking up your morning.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[+ bashful]

Agree too. At the risk of sounding old, I'm of the generation where when we were kids, we were constantly told to "go outside and play" (summer heat and winter cold). Since there were a lot of kids in the neighborhood, from a young age, you learned to interact, and form bonds with others in person. Many is the day our parents would have no clue as to our whereabouts, but I had better be home for dinner at 6 pm, or else. And then, back outside again, so long a you were close to home when the street lights came on. Whereas we only had 5 channels on TV, the next generation grew up with cable TV, video games, computers, etc., seemingly causing less personal interaction. I spent years commuting on a train to work, and the fellow riders I actually conversed with where mostly my age or older. I know many jobs today seem to require 24/7 communication, but as Greg said, the younger generation today have their heads buried in their phones. I guess it's because that is the interaction with which they are most comfortable. Sad.

[+ Truereview]

As far as my day job goes it is customer service food related. I no longer reward customers who are rude enough to be on their phone talking and or texting and take their order. I have gotten to the point where I point blank tell them to get out of line or step away from the counter till I can have their full attention. If you want proper good service then get off your fucking phone. I have no issues with slipping you decaf and fucking up your morning.

 

Hugs,

Greg

Damn! I can deal with being told to get off my phone and step out of line or counter...but, Gregorito...DECAF? Papito, that's harsh!

[seaboy4hire]

Damn! I can deal with being told to get off my phone and step out of line or counter...but, Gregorito...DECAF? Papito, that's harsh!

 

Whats even harsher is once in a blue moon they get decaf and I charge a lil extra and they don't even notice. Don'tstep up to my counter on the phone! Please and thank you.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[jawjateck]

Amen. Preach on, Jock

[+ Truereview]

Whats even harsher is once in a blue moon they get decaf and I charge a lil extra and they don't even notice. Don'tstep up to my counter on the phone! Please and thank you.

 

Hugs,

Greg

I'm sorry, Greg, what did you say? My barista down the street Instagrammed just as you were speaking....

[whipped guy]

What is even worse is the disrespect people show in a professional office when they literally push the service providers aside because their iPhone dinged signifying a text message. Now if this happened in certain situation where the service provided was a bit low key then in spite of the disrespect it might be tolerated. However, when it occurs in a dental office during a procedure with tubes coming out of the patients mouth, the dental assistant suctioning on one side of the person, and the dentist wielding a high speed drill on the other side and both are pushed out of the way you know that something is definitely quite wrong!

 

I kid you not! It's been known to happen!

 

For the record Greg what would you do in such a scenario?? Simply slipping some decaf does not seem dastardly enough in such a situation. However, a "lil extra charge" might just be appropriate.

[seaboy4hire]

I was thinking the other day, what if the shit hits the fan and the cell towers go out? We have become so reliant on cell phones and computers what would we do? Does anyone know how to read a map? What about communication? We would actually have to go to our friends house to chat and the list could go on

 

Hugs,

Greg

[seaboy4hire]

What is even worse is the disrespect people show in a professional office when they literally push the service providers aside because their iPhone dinged signifying a text message. Now if this happened in certain situation where the service provided was a bit low key then in spite of the disrespect it might be tolerated. However, when it occurs in a dental office during a procedure with tubes coming out of the patients mouth, the dental assistant suctioning on one side of the person, and the dentist wielding a high speed drill on the other side and both are pushed out of the way you know that something is definitely quite wrong!

 

I kid you not! It's been known to happen!

 

For the record Greg what would you do in such a scenario?? Simply slipping some decaf does not seem dastardly enough in such a situation. However, a "lil extra charge" might just be appropriate.

 

If I were a dental person or medical provider in generalI would tell the person to put their phone away otherwise reached when they can give me their undivided attn. I would never bust out my phone when my teeth are getting worked on. Why prolong the painful procedure? Get in do your thi g and get outta my mouth!

 

Hugs,

Greg

[whipped guy]

To think that years ago we used to leave the house to get AWAY from the phone. Nowadays we won't leave home without it! Something seems totally out of whack!

[TruHart1]

I must say though, in my own personal experience, in hiring the really fine escorts I have carefully vetted, the interaction problems mentioned on this thread are close to non-existent! I have been told by more than one of my regulars that they feel we connected at our first meeting on a very human level immediately and thus, for our time together, we became ensconced in our own private world for however long our session lasted. Quite a few of these escorts are men I now count as friends, but even those who simply know how to knock my socks off sexually are men I enjoy talking with and catching up with their lives each time I hire them.

 

Sure, I may have my mouth full of their enormous endowment but that doesn't mean I can't pull back for a second and tell them how beautiful I find them!!! I really don't believe a great BFE can be had if the natural courtesy is not there between myself and the escort but luckily, or by my being careful with any new hire, no lack of concentrated interaction between us ever happens! Not only that, but I have always felt a particularly close bond almost always occurs after sex, whether we cuddle and talk for a while or just talk while we are both cleaning up.

 

I guess I am just careful enough in my vetting process to weed out most of the guys who might be only Wham! Bam! Thank you man! types who might only try to get me off and collect their fee. To all the wonderful men who are so courteous and connected when they're with me, I can only say, "Thank You," you have made this hobby the most amazing experience for me and continue to do so!!!

 

TruHart1

[whipped guy]

If I were a dental person or medical provider in generalI would tell the person to put their phone away otherwise reached when they can give me their undivided attn. I would never bust out my phone when my teeth are getting worked on. Why prolong the painful procedure? Get in do your thi g and get outta my mouth!

 

Hugs,

Greg

Yeah one would think that to be the case! And even with signs posted in the office to turn the damned things OFF BUT! No such luck!

[tyro]

I was thinking the other day, what if the shit hits the fan and the cell towers go out? We have become so reliant on cell phones and computers what would we do? Does anyone know how to read a map? What about communication? We would actually have to go to our friends house to chat and the list could go on

 

Hugs,

Greg

It reminds me of when the power went out the summer of 2003(?)

True confession...

My cell phone bit the dust last week. I have not bought another. Frankly, I don't miss it. I have a landline phone and desktop computer at home (and a roomful at work) and my Kindle Fire. WTF do I need a cell phone for?

T

[whipped guy]

I must say though, in my own personal experience, in hiring the really fine escorts I have carefully vetted, the interaction problems mentioned on this thread are close to non-existent! I have been told by more than one of my regulars that they feel we connected at our first meeting on a very human level immediately and thus, for our time together, we became ensconced in our own private world for however long our session lasted. Quite a few of these escorts are men I now count as friends, but even those who simply know how to knock my socks off sexually are men I enjoy talking with and catching up with their lives each time I hire them.

 

Sure, I may have my mouth full of their enormous endowment but that doesn't mean I can't pull back for a second and tell them how beautiful I find them!!! I really don't believe a great BFE can be had if the natural courtesy is not there between myself and the escort but luckily, or by my being careful with any new hire, no lack of concentrated interaction between us ever happens! Not only that, but I have always felt a particularly close bond almost always occurs after sex, whether we cuddle and talk for a while or just talk while we are both cleaning up.

 

I guess I am just careful enough in my vetting process to weed out most of the guys who might be only Wham! Bam! Thank you man! types who might only try to get me off and collect their fee. To all the wonderful men who are so courteous and connected when they're with me, I can only say, "Thank You," you have made this hobby the most amazing experience for me and continue to do so!!!

 

TruHart1

 

Now would that all the clients and customers out there were exactly like our esteemed TH1. The world would definitely be a much better place!

[TruHart1]

It reminds me of when the power went out the summer of 2003(?)

True confession...

My cell phone bit the dust last week. I have not bought another. Frankly, I don't miss it. I have a landline phone and desktop computer at home (and a roomful at work) and my Kindle Fire. WTF do I need a cell phone for?

T

Oh! So THAT's why you haven't answered my texts!!! LOL!o_Oo_O;)

 

TruHart1

[+ Truereview]

I rebel against lack of humanity by...

• Smiling at strangers
  
• Winking at hot guys
  
• Tipping all service industry folks as if I was a lotto winner
  
• Petting dogs in the park
  
• Chit-chatting w elderly folks at airport gates
  
• Looking at my escort directly in the eye and thanking them for their time
  

 

What do you all do?

[tyro]

TH1, I am so sorry.

I think that is the ONE reason people keep their cell phones (and why I'll probably crack and get one soon enough...): They know that they and others have just gotten used to having them around.

T

[seaboy4hire]

I rebel against lack of humanity by...

• Smiling at strangers
  
• Winking at hot guys
  
• Tipping all service industry folks as if I was a lotto winner
  
• Petting dogs in the park
  
• Chit-chatting w elderly folks at airport gates
  
• Looking at my escort directly in the eye and thanking them for their time
  

 

What do you all do?

 

Say please, may I and thank you

 

Hold the door open

 

I don't drive (saving hundreds of lives a day)

 

I rescue kitties and give them lots of treats and love.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[+ honcho]

It reminds me of when the power went out the summer of 2003(?)

 

WTF do I need a cell phone for?

T

 

For many, many, MANY years I resisted getting a cell phone at all. I finally got one because of the increasing

impossiblity of finding payphones, or if in an emergency situation with respect to a car, being able to do contact

help.

 

I got a pre-paid gophone, for which I buy $100 of minutes , which is good enough to keep ATT happy for a year.

If I remember to renew in time, my unused credits roll over. I've got a current credit of $150.

(ATT won't let me donate that to worthy causes, unlike Verizon, I'm told).

 

My cell phone is *off* almost all of the time. *especially* during rehearsals and attending classes.

[TruHart1]

TH1, I am so sorry.

I think that is the ONE reason people keep their cell phones (and why I'll probably crack and get one soon enough...): They know that they and others have just gotten used to having them around.

T

No worries beautiful lady...I've got the lowdown on you! There are other ways to stay in contact after all!

 

TruHart1

[ny2222]

Count me in too. One of the allures of the military is that you are dissociated from "normal Americans" It is like a different world. Hell if you walk into a Marine PX with your hat on the GySgt will come up to you and politely ask you to remove it. Trust me, you only do that once!

One of my favorite pictures was a Facebook post shown below (pic along with the post...don't know how to directly link it). There was no one around when they did this. Interestingly although most of the comments to the post were positive (as in 350K likes), there were more than a few negative posts along the lines "they are just raising war mongers who idealize the military". Sad

Original post (not mine)

***I TOOK THIS PHOTO THROUGH THE WINDOW INSIDE MY HOUSE***Felt the need to share this picture I took yesterday. We are currently stationed in Albuquerque NM. These boys got off their bikes at 5pm as colors and the National anthem started. They stood at attention in the direction of the flag and didn't move until it was done. I was most impressed with the removal of their helmets. This made my day seeing this. Their parents are raising a couple of fine little men.